Is it rude to tell someone their music sucks?

people who listen to bryan adams and boy bands, things like that, probably don't put much effort into their musical likings, so telling them that some of the bands they listen to suck probably won't hurt their feelings too much. they should know it's coming. if it does hurt their feelings, introduce them to some non-manufactured bands.

 

it is rude to come right out and say it, but sometimes it is hard not to.

i know i had a good friend who listened to things like the jonas brothers and britney spears. it took ALOT of effort not to give her shit. so finally instead of doing that i'd try to find more pop type rock and be like you should totally give this a listen, you'd like it! soon enough she was asking for more and expanding her tastes. she still listens to some stuff i almost don't classify as music (ha) but she has a lot of good bands/artists now too. some people just don't take the effort to look for music outside of the top 40 stuff they hear on the radio.

 

I think its rude and tasteless. Have you ever sat down and doodled on a guitar finding something that catches your ear and makes you want to add more,then suddenly you have a chord progression then you search for a bridge to give the song a new twist and work out the return to the melody, then maybe a lyric will come to you and after all that work you have "Your" song.Then assholes who can't play a lick have the nerve to say your music sucks.

 

NO! If it's wimpy, it should be exposed. I told many an artist straight in the face that their music sucked....esp in the WIMPY 80s!!

 

my little sister was a big boyband fan. but i turned her frm the dark side with the zep!! im quite proud of my self....she fcking loves led zeplin now!!!

 

Its not rude if you give them a reason. Music is subjective, so it's fair to pull apart someone's taste if you tell them why it sucks.

 

It's also for the sheep of our society.

 

so true.

 

Music is very personal... Why bother ruining someone's day by telling them the music they listen to sucks?

Who are you to tell them that a great feeling they get when they listen to something, sucks, cause you said so??


Almost everyone I know hardly listens to 25% of the music I listen to... Whether it's because I truly enjoy researching what else there is out there, and I think I listen to music in a different perspective than others do.


But to tell someone that their music sucks is childish and wrong. (obviously depends who you're talking to)

Whatever rocks your boat. Humble approach is usually the best approach, in any given subject. imo

 

What do you listen to?

Are you even curious about all that's outside of YOUR experience?

Are you a musician?

If so, then listen carefully to what the music is, rather than what another music would be. You don't have to buy it. There is always something else out there that may be better, but a real musician actually listens to what's playing right here and now. If it is not what you want good music to be, then figure out what's missing and make your own music based on that.

If you are not a musician, then consider the idea that you may be, musically speaking, only a consumer. You either actively, creatively experience music, or you don't. If you aren't involved in whatever it is you are actually listening to, then what difference does it make what you consume? Your tastes may ultimately be nothing more or less than someone else's resources.

Of course, it is possible that your friend just likes uninspired, homogenized, over-marketed, quasi-cultural consumer product. Introduce him to something he's never experienced before, broaden his horizons, sooner or later he'll return the favor.

 

I always tell people how lame I think their music is. It's cool though, they can like what they like, as long as they don't make me listen to it

 

no shit i agree, tell them it sucks, people shouldnt be so sensitive, me and my friends tell each other different music we disagree on "sucks"all the time

 

Yeah I think that it's rude to tell someone their music taste sucks. I think that saying that you don't like it or you don't think that it's good is one thing but saying someeone elses taste sucks is rude. Especiailly if they didn't ask for your opinion.

 

its rude. sorry. No one wants a Music Nazis around. Music is like food, if you dont like it dont eat it!

 

not at all.

 

Well, I don't really come out and say that her music sucks... more like when she puts it on I laugh at it and mock the affected emotion of it, I also make light of the sentiments therein, because they are genuinely goofy.

I don't know if I'm a musician, but I've played the guitar for about 14 years now... but it's not my job or anything. But really, I don't think that would make a difference anyway. If someone thinks a song you wrote sucks, maybe you should try to have some backbone and trust your own judgment, or, if you respect that person's opinion, try to do better next time. Being able to take criticism is how we improve, isn't it?

Personally, if someone told me that my music sucked, I could think of several reasons why they are wrong. How many people can actually think of any reason why Bryan Adams doesn't suck?

Let's try!

 

It's not so much rude as irritating.

I personally think my 26 year old sister has no taste, but then, I'm not the one who has the listen to the Miley Cyrus songs she downloaded. Likewise, she doesn't want to listen to me ramble for three hours about how great Bela Fleck & the Flecktones are because chances are....she doesn't give a rat's ass.

I've met people who criticize me for my music being too weird.
I have met other people who criticize me for not liking music that's weird enough.

I'm all for giving/receiving recommendations if the person wants them, but I hate the idea of lecturing on music tastes. It's a waste of time because the person is going to listen to what they like, regardless.

 

That's one of them zen questions that doesnt have an answer, isnt it?

 

Agree. I play in a couple of bands, and Im sure that there are people who come and see us who think we suck. That's just life, and everyone's taste is different (Furthermore, it's not my fault that they have crappy taste....). Once you put something out there in front of an audience, you have to be prepared to cop criticism for it. That's the whole point of sharing your music in the first place.

But, still: I dont hassle other people about what sort of music they like, if I dont like it. Like I said before, music is made for enjoyment: If people enjoy a sort of music that you dont, there isnt much you can say about it. I think it's far better to recomend good music to people than just point blank tell them that their music is shitty though.

 

Yes. It is rude.

It's one thing to be unable to find anything valuable in another person's music, to be unable to get past the "fashion," to be unable to connect. But if that's that case then just be neutral.

It's good to try to turn them on to all that appeals to your own musical genius, but it is simply rude to "go negative." Aesthetics (One's sense of beauty, which includes artistic tastes) are improved only through development (you know . . . creativity), not by degrading their experiences (which is a destructive act).

Besides, if being relatively undeveloped were the sole criteria for the destruction of one's tastes, how do you know your own aesthetics are as developed as they will ever be? Would it be rude to tell you YOUR music sucks?

What DO you listen to? Turn us all on to your own musical genius.

Just curious.

Peace and Love