Is it possible to find only one woman beautiful or only one man handsome

My fiance says the same kind of thing. He doesn't really seem to check girls out and says he only finds me attractive.

 

I think that any nice looking young woman that have very small breasts are even sexier if they reveal just a slight sign of a cleavage.

 

It's possible. I've experienced this before. I had only eyes for one particular man. It's the greatest feeling. Butterflies in your stomach every time you see them smile. Wrapped up in eachother's legs on lazy Sunday's. Touching their soft skin and quivering in delight and ecstacy. Finishing eachother's sentences. Seeing beauty and charm in everything they do. Holding their hand and feeling whole. Their happiness is your happiness. All you see is them.

 

Exactly. I never imagined it happening this way, but when my love isn't happy, I'm miserable. If someone wrongs him, it's like they wronged me.

 

Oh come on!! So, what? Men are animalistic and it's completely impossible for them to feel the same way as you?? Sexism as it's finest.

I call bullshit on anyone who says that only one single person is attractive to them. Sure, you can "only have eyes for one person" and only want to be with that person. But, there's always going to be someone who you pass on the street who makes you think "Dayum!"

 

I look at any woman who have a nice petite slimish figure / body that looks sexy & shows it somehow even if they aren't that attractive but are young looking & not too old.
Nice to compare body shapes / sizes / breasts etc

 

I'm with those who have stated/implied that they can recognize beauty in people other than their partners. For one simple reason: merely recognizing beauty and pursuing involvement with the said beauty are two separate things. I for one think it may even be unhealthy if you feel like you must single out one specific form of beauty while rejecting all others.

I believe it has to do with the combination of how secure you feel with your partner, and how much you appreciate them. If you are very secure in a relationship, and if you truly appreciate your partner, you could comfortably perceive others as also being beautiful while retaining your devotion toward your partner. You don't have to worry about it turning into something more problematic because you already feel secure in your relationship, in which a decent level of trust has been established between you and your partner.

And of course, gender roles have nothing to do with how one perceives beauty. We ALL admire beauty, but just because we do doesn't mean we always want to acquire it. I personally find that, by acknowledging beauty in others, it seems I get to appreciate what's beautiful about my partner even more. Reason being, it goes beyond the simple, outward beauty, or just the beautiful personality, or beautiful mannerism, or whatever, but now it enters the realm of compatibility. And this is essentially what makes a relationship pleasant and lasting, and as stress-free as possible, in my opinion.

 

Well, I don't know about the others, but with me I don't ignore other men (or women). It's just that when I go out, it's mostly with my fiance and when I'm with him, I give him my attention and it would be rude to do otherwise. It doesn't even take effort really. I mean, I'm enjoying his company so why would I check other people out?

But if I'm alone and have nothing else to do but people-watch, I suppose I could notice a good looking guy. But looks aren't anything to me. Personality is what's important. So if this good looking man isn't going to be my friend, why should I care about his personality either?

 

Yes, of course it's possible. When you are in love, you don't have eyes for anyone else except your loved one. It is true for both men and women.

 

It's possible to find a woman extremely beautiful and none of your friends get it, or they think she's "just OK". But for you it pushes all your buttons like crazy. Happens to me ALL the time.

 

Op, why do you not trust him?

As for me, i dont find any woman but my wife beautiful, if you ask me if some gal is attractive, that is a diffrent story. But that is based purely on physical features and not what is inside. And that is where true beauty is found. Heck yea i see attractive women all the time, but i only want my so. Is it diffrent for all men? Yes. But unles he has done something to destroy the trust between you and he why not believe him? Unless you are judging him based on an ex, which is just wrong and messed up.

 

Yeah, real love is pretty blind....

 

I think it's only possible if your partner is 100% into the relationship.
It seems like he is. Congrats ^_^

 

Nuh. Trust me. Somewhere out there is a bitch better looking than you.

 

so uh....does this make me a bad person that I still find other men very attractive even though I'm in a relationship? I'm actually pretty standoffish towards guys nowadays because there's no use encouraging anything but I definitely admire from afar

 

No. It's rediculous to assume that since you're in a relationship you must stop being attracted to other people. Rediculous.

Doesn't mean you get to have fun with them, but doesn't mean you can't think of find someone else attractive. That's straight up, a dumpable offense.

 

Just because it is rare doesn't mean it isn't possible.

Often very true.

 

If you're husband is telling you that he doesn't look at other women, that's a lie. It's human nature to find attraction in the gender we are interested in. Quite frankly, if you don't trust him even though you've never actually seen him looking at another women, that's kind of psychopathic. Sounds to me like you have some serious self confidence issues, and you probably should have worked on them before entering a relationship.


It's not a bad thing to find another person attractive. If you act upon it instead of forgetting about it 20 minutes later..that's a problem.

 

I had a dream last night and I think it was because of this thread haha. In my dream I asked my boyfriend if he would want to have sex with my friend if we weren't together and he said yes ...and I was so pissed at him, not because he was attracted to my friend but because he didn't have the sense to lie about it.

I woke up and told him I was going to cuddle up to him even though he dream-annoyed the shit out of me.