I am the one with the high sex drive, my fiancé is always been fine too. Not quite as much as myself but still. My problem is this... I understand that when a relationship first starts it's all "new and exciting" we where, couldn't keep our hand off each other but one year down the track my fiancé and I have sex maybe once or twice every 2-3 months. She says she just doesn't have a high sex drive and maybe it's just medical/ life's stresses ect but I know that when I'm at work and she comes home before me she is masterbating. Does this make the problem me? Is she not attracted to me, am I just old news? I have tried buying new toys or straps. I've tried sending videos and sexy txt. I've also tried just not inciating at all and giving her space but nothing changes. Every time I try and talk to her about it I get the same response of " well if you don't like it you know where the door is" Any ideas?
It doesn´t have to be something you´re doing wrong. It sounds like a situation I had with an old boyfriend ( yes I did write boyfriend) When the focuse is on sex, toys, sexy texts and the other person withdraw, they could need something else. Backing completely away may not be the " cure". The focuse is still on sex. Only now you´re not having any;-)..That also creates a negative tention. She seems to be telling you quite clearly, that she needs something else. Love, caring, friendship, the little details paid attentention to, support, laugther??? ( she´s a woman after all LOL) then she may have a sex drive again My best suggestion eventhough it may be hard for you, is to not focuse on sex, but the relationship in it self. She may come around and maybe she won´t. It´s not only about you... it take two to tango. Personally I don´t like her remark that if you "can´t deal with it" just leave, or whatever. It´s a bit rude and not caring, but it´s a remark people tend to make when being pressured to do something they don´t have the emotional/physical energy to engage in. Take care of yourself in all this as you need love, support and sex to.
im in the same situation expect im the one who doesn't want to have sex anymore. for me my gf always wants sex. we live with her family and every sec we're home together she just tries to get me into the room. when we first got together we spent hours even days in the room making love. but now she doesn't put in the work to turn me on (im not sure if she did, or the fact that we barley seen each other). she cant go 20mins without saying something about sex and that just makes me feel like im dating a 13 yr old boy smh and that turns me all the way off. but i have never told her i was going to leave her over it. and how do you know she's masturbating when your not around? for me anything that has to do with sex makes me think of her so even if i wanted to masturbate she will just pop into my head and im turned off (sometimes). maybe she really is telling you shes not feeling you like that anymore. or she could be one of those girls who just likes new relationships and once shes done shes done. maybe try talking to her about it without putting the blame on her. but if she keeps giving you the same response u should just go...
