Is it me or does sex get better the longer you’re in a relationship?

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by TnGuy87, Feb 2, 2021.

  1. TnGuy87

    TnGuy87 Members

    This week I’ve been really vocal about sex and stuff like that with my fiancé. Last night we went on a long session with each other. I’ve discovered her place to make her climax by rubbing her. Last night I was licking her and decided to try doing the spot that I was rubbing her before. Yup. It worked. Then she was on top of me and idk what she found but as she was on me she reached around for my balls pushed in (which she has before) but this time she found the spot and I just lost it with my moaning! Then after our session we just got to talking about sex and she’s told me how she’s came on top of me (which I kinda thought she has) idk how the subject came but she said that my girth is pretty big. Which gave me a big confidence boost. And we talked about me masturbating. How she doesn’t like me to... because she doesn’t want me to look at any other woman. I asked if she would mind if I took some pictures of her so when she’s on her period I could masturbate and she agreed! Idk this week has just been amazing and it seems like it just keeps getting better and better the longer we’re together!
     
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  2. Toecutter

    Toecutter Members

    Yes it definitely gets better as you get to know one another you learn what your partner enjoys and needs.
    Talking is key in every relationship the more open and honest a couple can be with one another the better the relationship.
     
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  3. crazytrain341

    crazytrain341 Members

    Sex got way better when I bought my wife a Toyota Tacoma :)
     
  4. GypsyHolly83

    GypsyHolly83 Members

    I can agree with this! It's like unraveling new sexy layers as we get more comfortable.. our married sex life is hot and heavy still .. we have definitely realized what we like through communication and then putting it into action.. :)
     
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  5. olderndirt

    olderndirt Members

    Yes. We dated almost 8 years. She had sex with others, but my first sex was with her on our wedding night. I'm glad she knew what she was doing and could help me. We enjoyed learning how to please each other more and more, new techniques, what to do and what to avoid. Sex definitely got better as time passed.
     
  6. Mysteron

    Mysteron Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

    The longer your in a relationship the better sex becomes .After a time you know each other much better and what you like and don't like . Often you also become more experimental and trying new things and perhaps bringing more fun into the proceedings as well .
     
  7. Barry Mandelay

    Barry Mandelay Members

    Ha, you hot off cheap. I had to buy my spouse a whole new house.

    But seriously, the other replies are so true. Getting to know a partners likes and dislikes sexually makes every future romp better. You'll learn how, when, and where to touch for the best response. Your partner will learn the same. What to say that produces a good response is key also. Based on what you wrote I think you have learned that. Keep it up, keep talking. Words are the best tools in your arsenal. Use them. Too many people become quiet when the activity starts. Be sure and let your partner know that you like or don't like how it's going. Be open and honest and listen also. Great sex begins with the first words out of your mouth. It ends, for a little while, the same.
     
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  8. crazytrain341

    crazytrain341 Members

    House??? lol

    Barry, gonna have to disagree with you here a bit.

    I've got 2 points for better sex within a marriage:

    First, the more my wife trusts / and loves me, the more she is willing to let me have my way with her. As a man, do things to build her trust and love in you and (hopefully) the sex will hopefully get a lot better. Buy her something nice for NO reason at all, not even to solicit sex. Surprise her, wake her up before her and make HER a nice breakfast. Warm up her car in the morning before she heads off to work. Take some time off work and bring her a nice lunch. Dress nicely so all her co-workers can see how lucky she is. Be an honorable man. Be chivalrous. Volunteer for your parish, coach your kids' sports, be involved with their school committees, advance your own education and career, take care of family business, keep yourself active and fit. Although she has never told me, I think my wife likes it when I take charge of things, when I take the lead / head the family, call the shots. I'm not sure, but I think she likes it when I control her too both in and outside of the bedroom. Not often, but every now and then, I like to remind her what a woman's place is in our rather patriarchal household, tell her what to do, how / when to do it. I'm not really like that, I do it b/c I think she likes it. I feel it gets her woman parts kind of ... wet. My point being is that all of these are unspoken observations that I've made. I should mention that it's possible to to do all these things and she won't reciprocate. Men, it is a risk you'll have to take.

    Second, if I flat out ask my wife that I'd like to tie her up, spank the underside of her tits, and use her lady parts as my plaything for the night she'll likely laugh and say no. So 14 years ago, I got carried away having sex with her. Missionary, she had a big orgasm. In the heat of the moment, I burried myself deeeeep, pinned her wrists above her head and slapped her tits then pulled them together and grabbed both with one hand. I remember her tits were wet from sweat (hers and mine) and made a great "slap" sound. I was so sweaty, couldn't see properly but it looked like her eyes rolled to the back of her head, she had a second or extended orgasm and I think she passed out a bit which freaked me out a bit. Hard thrusts and burried deep, I remember I finished shortly after her. I'm uncut. I remember when I pulled out, the head of my swollen member was fully exposed. For those of you are are uncut, you know what that means. Our sex advanced after that. What I'm trying to get at is I don't think even she knew that she liked bondage / spank play. Anyways, I remember this clear as day, 9 mo later, our beautiful daughter, Dakota, was born! (although not sure it was from this session)
     
    Last edited: Feb 7, 2021
  9. Panama Jack

    Panama Jack Members

    The short answer is subjective. For us, sex has gotten better. We don’t put expectations on our sex life, and we talk about it daily. We both have a compatible lust for sex.
     
  10. AstroShark

    AstroShark Member

    I completely agree with that statement!
    Our sex gets crazy better all the time. Never thought I'd say that but we're about to celebrate our 6th year anniversary and the sex hasn't slowed down at all!
     
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  11. JudithJ1337

    JudithJ1337 Members

    It has for me so far, and I've only been with my guy for just over 5 years. Just imagine what it will be like at 15 years, 25, 35...
     
  12. nldn

    nldn Senior Member

    Yes as you understand each other's desires and needs more.
     
  13. Just for fun

    Just for fun Live your best life

    IMO only if you both are on the same page. New sex is great but a couple whose sex gets better is a couple that goes deeper and expands their experiences like anal or play acting or knowing the public can see you in action or adding a third or another couple. But in many cases one looses interest and the sex suffers for the other.
     

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