Is it hard talking to guy after he’s been with your wife

I find it super difficult talking to a guy after he has been with my wife. I’m somewhat of an introvert. My wife, on the other hand, is very outgoing. She’s not shy about introducing me to one of her FB’s. After she has been with a guy, my wife don’t like to give me details. She usually will rate the sex on a scale of 1-10. So when me and the guy happen to be face to face all I’m thinking is “he’s an 8 or he’s a 3”. I wonder what did he do to her in bed. I want know what he thought after witnessing her having one of her over-the-top body shaking orgasms. If I do get details or witness it I’m thinking “Your the one that made her squirt”/ your the one that had her sore for a few days. / You’re the one that fucked her and her friend the same night...etc”. My swinger friends have no problem hanging out with a guy after he’s fucked their wife. Lucky for me Marie rarely have sex with friends of ours.

One night we bumped into two couples we “played” with. While talking to them a young guy, she dated a few weeks earlier joined out conversation. My wife was surrounded by three guys she had sex with. She calmly stood there and talked as if she didn’t have a care in the world. Your conversation was probably about sports or west was happening in the news. I don’t know…I really couldn’t pay attention to what was being said. My mind was racing as I thought about what each one of them did to her. I couldn’t handle it. I made some stupid excuse and went and sat at the bar.

I’m not a cuck or like to be dominated or some shit like that. I’m 6’2” weightlifter and supposedly have an intimidating look. I just have a hard time talking to a guy after he has fucked my wife. I want to talk but I can’t. Anybody else have the same problem. If not what do you and her FB talk about?

 

For us, our FB’s are really good friends as well. So conversations just flow naturally. Why, maybe it’s because we all stay together and play together. When we are finished everybody is happy.
We also practice something called “Compersion”.
Read about it. My wife wants me to to be happy and I want her to be happy as well. It is a joyful feeling.

 

I had no problem talking to him because he had my permission to have sex with her.

 

I never had a problem, with it, her main friend thanked me, and told me how much he enjoyed her. Meeting with other couples, we often set and talked about likes and dislikes.

 

More to my earlier post. After each play time, we always take the time to relax and socialize. I talk with the man who just fucked my wife and it’s like talking to and old friend. We never just wham Bam and leave. We do this to improve our next meet up, and the second time is always the best.

 

I never experienced meeting a lover of my spouse. She was not really into having sex with other men even though she did so twice in our married life. I, on the other hand, have had sex with over 50 different women some of which were married. But I never met the husband even though the wife I had just fucked may have had permission to play with me. It's just something I never encountered. I expect that if I had it wouldn't be hard at all to strike up a convo with her lover or my lovers mate. I doubt the discussion would entail anything sex though. No need for comparison as the sex is just for enjoyment of the moments between the wife and me and nothing more. At best I would answer positively if asked about it and then drop the subject and move on.

 

Nah, I often felt it the other way around, that the guys that have fucked my wife or one of my former GF's had a problems talking too me... Maybe they was thinking I have a problem with it, that I felt humiliated or something like that...

My wife lover for 3 years and ongoing I have no problem talking too or him talking too me. Maybe coz he is 17 years older than my 38 year old wife, and 9 years older than me, I don't know.. . Not even when I picked my wife and her lover up at the airport a couple of month ago, after they had spent 10 days on vacation together at a naturist resort in Spain ( where he almost fucked my wife brains out according too her...) we had problems talking in the car on the way home... About all things, like he likes to fuck my wife's ass too the service on the plane they took..

 

No. Be we swap with couples. So we’re not only aware that we’ve both cum in each others wife, we’ve watched and listened to it as it was happening. And, in most cases, we also got in her as soon as the other pulled out.

 

The first guy she was with, even wanted my ok, to make sure I would not regret it later.

 

That’s what you call “Respect” and a gentleman.

 

We have one couple that are dear friends that we swap with routinely. Not a jealous bone for any of us. Laughter and smiles fill the room. We all talk and hug afterwards.
I have no problem talking with the men who have just fucked my wife. “It’s just fun sex” that all. I’m usually pretty mellow after fucking his wife as well.

 

Yes. I didn't vote on this question because I'm not him, I'm her but we never have had any kind of tension after. My Honey Baby is always the master of our gatherings (except maybe when other girls are involved) and everyone knows it. And everyone tries their best to respect each other without actually making that a thing. Just have fun.

 

The optimal words are “Just have fun”. I like that!!

 

If it isn't 'fun' then what the fuck is it all about?

 

My sentiments exactly. Many times after we both, my partner at the moment and I have finished we have just laid there and smiled, even started to chuckle at the joy found in having sex with each other.

 

I like talking to guys that have been with my wife. It's easier when we share her because everyone being naked together focused on my wife is a pretty bonding activity. Talking to guys that have been with her without me either before or after we were married can have an initial awkwardness, especially the guys that were before me, but once you start talking like regular guys you can descend into more crude topics like how you liked her best in bed, sort of like turning her into a sex object. More than once that has led to me blowing one of her former lovers. Some guys just don't relax, though. They weren't my friend when they were with my wife and they're not my friend now. Those are the guys that just don't realize that if they were cool they'd be able to get back in between her legs without any drama.

 

Sometimes he finishes first with my wife and sometimes I finish first with his wife. It all good. We like to recap the fun we had with each other spouse.
Together, we all talk about the experience and share a toast to many more.

 

Yes, he was a gentleman, and treated my girlfriend with respect. Made her first time with another man very enjoyable. It was kind of a tradition, to set the new girl up with the resident bull. She said he was patient and gentle, and she enjoyed it very much.

 

Yes, and no. I still have to interact with my wife’s ex-husband since he was the sperm donor for my two step kids. And he is kind of a dick! No problems interacting with my friend, our MFM Partner. Even though it has been years, we still see him a couple times a year. The only problem is I keep remembering our. MFMs, And wish we were still doing them.