is it cheating?

Ahh, so naive

 

you said:

"wanted to be fucked isn't bi" contradict yourself much?

for the love of Zeus... just chill... if he likes or is into cock... let him... SO WHAT HE MIGHT BE <GASP> BISEXUAL... or worst case bi-curious... ever wondered if you liked, say Chinese food? that would make you Chinese-food-curious.... no? Ever wondered if you wanted to Chicken-n-Dumplins? smae thing... C-N-D-Curious.. Get over yourself..

quit forcing labels, expectations, & morals on other people... live & let live.. I won't criticize you for your Double-Wide, wife-beater wearing brain power, why should you judge his interests?

things that make ya go DOH!! I'm a dumb ass...

 

Where did I contradict myself, and where did I make any type of moral judgement about his choices?

I think you are putting your own prejudices into my words, because if you feel saying someone is bi for wanting to be with both a guy and a girl is somehow making a moral judgement, then it is you who have an issue here.

As for the rest of your bs.... it is just that.... bs...


Oh and just where did you get that supposed quote, "wanted to be fucked isn't bi", from me? Because I don't see it anywhere in this thread...

 

Nope, if a 'straight' guy wants that, or fantasises about it, he isn't straight. That is only my opinion, but being straight means being exclusively sexually attracted to the opposite sex only. If being straight doesn't mean this, then pretty much all bi guys are in fact, straight. The ONLY exception to this, may be to young guys who are confused over their sexuality, and have fantasies about men. But generally speaking, I stick by what Im saying.

And labelling, is not the same as criticising. Labelling is only a real problem if the label is being applied out of ignorance, or prejudice. If I had ANY type of sexual fantasies involving women, I would class myself as at least bi. Wanting and enjoying sex with your own gender is most definitely bi. I cant see how anyone can deny this. Just because someone puts on a front of being straight, doesn't mean they actually are.

 

yes... entirely. almost by definition that is cheating. Unless you have told her and she was ok with it, it is cheating.

Good rule of thumb is that if you would have to question if it is cheating, it usually is.

If you have those urges you are not straight... Would admit it now... probably to some degree bi.. but who am I to label you. Other than someone who wants to cheat...

 

Fantasies DON'T define one's sexual orientation.

 

However, if someone (regardless of gender) fantasizes, and then ACTS on those fantasies with someone of the same-sex (gender), that person is at minimum bisexual.

I'm very open-minded, and nonjudgmental... And the only way I can personally waiver on that thought would be if a straight guy fantasized and acted on his attraction to transgender (TS) women (especially if SHE is pre-op)... And even then, a LOT of people would argue that he's not "straight" if he's attracted to a woman with a penis. I would beg to differ though, because about 90% of transgender (TS) women (even if she still has HER penis) think of themselves as just that, a WOMAN, and in most instances, that transgender woman DOESN'T even want the man to pay attention to HER penis anyways, and to me, as well as the majority of transgender women, that's what REALLY matters.

I also think the same could be said for women who are attracted to F2M transgender men. I'm friends with a woman/transgender man couple, and they think of themselves as a "straight" couple, and how they view themselves is all that REALLY matters. Everyone else's opinions are irrelevant.