you get a girls number when you are pissed off at your girlfriend and she isn't returning your calls but then you make up later and immediately regret hitting on the other girl even though nothing actually happened?
Yup, you are such a low-life. How could you do that to her? Man, she's gonna kick you to the curb. :toetap05:
I say no but I suppose it only matters what your gf would think. There isn't a textbook definition of what's cheating and what's not. It's up to the individuals to decide. But in all seriousness if I was seeing a chick who considered that cheating I wouldn't be seeing her anymore. my advice would be to either confess or get it out of your head and not think about it again.
I don't think getting a number is cheating. I also don't think its a good idea and think that it speaks volumes about your relationship.
i'm a spiritual man. what is cheating in the eyes of God? though i think if she forgives me then it would also make it right karmicly. but if she doesn't i'm not really sure.
Well that also depends. If you take the Bible literally I believe that there are scriptures that say even just having impure thoughts about a woman is a form of adultry. But you're not married so I'm not sure if that applies here. Look within yourself and if you feel guilt then you should confess. If you don't feel guilt then lose the number before she stumbles upon it by accident. Or take it as a sign and move on from the relationship. You're asking us questions that only you can answer for yourself.
I wouldn't call it cheating, per se. But, you did intentionally flirt with another girl because you were angry. I think it a very solid relationship this wouldn't even be a passing thought.
I guess the way I look at it is if this was someone that you really love and want to be with, even if you were fighting you would know that you would want to make it right again. You wouldn't be so quick to try to get a phone number or look for someone else. I have never, not for one single moment since I met my husband, no matter how mad I was, thought for one second that I wanted to be with anybody else or even entertain that thought. Innocent flirting is one thing but actually going as far enough to get a number....never. Just something to think about.
^Actually, yes it does say that in modern english bibles, but in the original languages, that scripture passage conveyed the meaning of how one looking upon another women with lust, was living on the boarder of committing the sin of adultery, they were in the 'danger zone'. But no looking upon another women with lust, was not considered adultery, and should not be considered adultery by modern Christians, but they don't know their scripture language history. --- I will say that it can be downright creepy though, and I think most of us realizing that what degree your looking at a woman would classify you as a pervert or not. Not everybody is that lucky though, some have to play the field to find the one they want to settle down with, and even then it doesn't work out. During the "dating phase" of any relationship, before one declares the other as their "boyfriend/girlfriend", it's okay to get the numbers and date a myriad of people. Perhaps this couple was too quick to give each other the label of "boyfriend/girlfriend".
seems like since you made this thread you feel some guilt. so that makes me say - yes, it was a form of cheating. i know i wouldn't like it if my girlfriend got another dude's phone number at the bar... but i wouldn't sweat it too bad.
I'm just saying if this is someone that he can be angry with and be so quick to consider other people then maybe this person isn't right for him to begin with. When you find that person that you really love you will know because there is no other phone number on the planet you would want. If you want another number then you should probably take it and move on. That's all I'm saying.
Well all I'm saying is that love isn't always that magical immediately like that and to tell others to expect that upon a first meeting or first impression is not good advice, because it's extremely subjective and not representative of a LOT of couples. This also includes couples who started out that way and then fell apart in nasty breakups and divorces.
I agree with this. However I tend to live in a fantasy land when it comes to relationships, and have been single pretty much my whole life. Reality can be a lot different. For most people, love isn't some clean cut fairly tale that we hope it to be. It can be dirty, unsure, and misleading.
I'm not saying first meetings or first impressions. I'm not even saying when you are still getting to know each other or casually dating. I'm saying once you are to the point that you are in a 100% committed relationship. He is calling her his girlfriend. That doesn't usually happen until you discuss becoming exclusive. That's not a casual fling. That is someone that he has obviously decided to put some of this time and effort into. If she is worth that time and effort then he wouldn't be looking elsewhere. If he feels the need to look elsewhere then she's not fulfilling all of his needs and maybe he does need to move on. I don't live in fantasy land. I'm not saying love is easy or a clean cut fairytale. It takes a lot of work and every day you have to make that commitment to that other person. It's a choice you make. I choose to not look elsewhere because I have someone that fits my needs. It's not all sunshine and roses. There are arguments. There are times that I don't like him. That doesn't mean I don't still love him. If I didn't think he was worth my time and effort then I would move on. Every relationship has fights. If you are getting upset because she's not answering her phone so you get someone elses number...that should be a huge red flag. Not answering a phone seems like small potatoes in the grand scheme of life. Clearly there are other underlying problems in the relationship if something that small warrants doing something that he feels so guilty about later.
Cheating? IF AND ONLY IF....that is the full story (no touching)...no. Wrong? if you feel it's wrong, it's wrong.
