Is it a mistake to have sex with my best friend?

Hi! I’m a bisexual married woman. So is my best friend. But we didn’t know this about each other for a lot of years. About a year ago, we realized that we both have had 3 sums with & gone to swinger parties and that we both enjoyed being with women. We have never done anything sexual but there is a lot of flirting. Recently, I told her that hubby and I are going on a trip and I bought new lingerie and not sure which ones look the hottest. She told me she will come over and I can try them on for her.... I told her the lingerie didn’t cover much and she said “that’s great bc I will get to see a naked woman for the first time in 10 months and you know I love your big titties and can’t wait to see your nipples.” She is coming over tomorrow for a “fashion show” and our husbands will both be at work. All I can think about us getting turned on and having sex with her. And I definitely think it’s probably what she wants too. But will it make our friendship weird?? Am I over thinking it and just need to let things happen and if I get to fuck her, then go for it?

 

I wouldn't worry too much about it. So long as it doesn't hurt your marriage or cause you to have too much guilt then get it out of your system. Maybe just play a little and masturbate together if you want to just start down that road a little. I have a few friends who I've never fucked but I've given and received oral or we masturbated together or shared hands. One friend loves oral...but only lets her husband cum in her mouth. So I get her tits. I've known her for years and we cross paths just every once in a while. It's all good but think it through and do only what you're mutually comfortable with.

 

I think Scharff has it right. I would add since both marriages have experienced threesomes and swinger parties, it should be no big surprise for your spouse. Do not keep sex secrets from yours spouses. And finally use your Bi side to enhance your relationship with your husband, never replace it.

 

Why not take the opportunity to talk about it and sort it out.
Sounds like you'd have plenty of opportunity later on but take this time to find out what you both want and avoid potential regret if you simply jumped into it.

 

Our husbands knew. Mine has been telling me to go for it for months. And my bi side definitely enhances our relationship. We have a fantastic sex life but he knows I sometimes just want the touch of woman. And he knows how much I love going down on a woman.

 

Update: We both wanted it and have been for a long time. It was off the charts amazing and it was not awkward. We went to lunch afterwards like nothing had happened. Both our husbands knew we were wanting it and they both had been telling each of us to go for it.

 

That's awesome!

 

Details when you can share!

 

I think of your all into it go for it don’t over think it if she’s not into it she will let you know and you might be embarrassed for a bit but things will settle down if she’s into it then you have a good time and probably many more after that

 

It depends on your relationship. When my wife and I agreed she could have sex with others, we ruled out our circle of friends. One of them tried really hard to get her in bed, but she refused. It was the correct decision for us. If you feel the risk of bad consequences is low, go for it.

 

We went for it and have done it again since that first time. It hasn’t been awkward at all. It’s been pretty awesome. Both our hubby’s know and support it.. it has spiced up all of our sex lives.

 

Happy for you! Love your posts!!

 

Husbands brain>>>>>instant threesome material....

 

Agreed. Following.............

 

Best kind of friends to have. Only thing bad, would be if turned out to be lousy sex.

 

Lousy sex?? I have a friend who has given me head a few times. She swears she's great at it. She's not. I love it!