Many of us have been in this position of unknowing. What did you do to investigate? Did you feel, inspect and smell her panties or his underwear? Cell phone messages? Put a GPS on their car? Have him or her followed? I never suspected because I always trusted way too much. There were signs but I ignored them until it hit me in the face. One moved out and said she wants to live with her girlfriend whose mom is a shrink and will get her head straight. She refused to give me a phone number, name or address. I even helped her move and just placed her stuff in an alley not knowing which house she was going into. A month later after 2 or 3 phone calls to just say hi I ran into a friend of hers who asked me how she was. I told her the story and said I hope she comes back soon. The girlfriend said, "are you fucking stupid? she is living with a guy, you dumb fuck." I never saw her again. The second one didn't come home one night and her birth control diaphram was gone. At 7 the next morning she came home and I asker her where she was. She said she slept with a guy but didn't fuck. I said I think its time to get a divorce. She agreed. The third one was over the top jealous. I'd be 20 min. late coming home from work and she would unzip my pants and smell my dick. If that didn't convince her she would make me cum to see how much cum I produced. It was way worse that that but I am sure you arte tired of reading my story. I just had to leave or go fucking crazy. What's your story?
My wife's cheating took place in college before we married. The hickeys on her tits and thighs were clear evidence that she was having fun with other guys.