Is he lying?

if he likes golfing then thats his comfortable place..many people like to be in comfortable places when theyre depressed

Maybe it'd be a good idea to check up on him while he's golfing just to make sure he is where he says he is...doing what he says he is doing

in other words..make sure his golfing buddy isnt the secretary at work and make sure the golf course isnt her bed

 

wait a minute.."dating for months" ?...and you live together already?

 

no we don't live together, but he invites me to stay over his place sometimes. lately, he just goes to bed early.

 

Tell him you want to start golfing with him and report back to us the look on his face.

 

he likes when i play golf with him. it's just not my thing. the reason i mentioned it is because it's an enjoyable activity, and it's really the only enjoyable thing he does. i'm pretty sure there isn't someone else.

 

To be honest it sounds like he's just not very into you, for whatever reason.

Without knowing why he's depressed or to what extent he is depressed, that's all I could really gather from what you've said about him.

I speak from personal experience. I dated this lass once who told me she was depressed, in general. She would hang out with me, but never wanted to go anywhere or do anything. She slept a lot. When she slept over she literally just slept over, we rarely fucked. Yet she seemed to be in decent moods when she'd go out with friends, or she'd go home and smoke pot, watch movies, have a good time. That was the only time she seemed to be comfortable and not just "blah" moody, was when she was high.

Needless to say she had about as much personality as a sock puppet, and although she was a real bring down, she told me one day she wasn't interested in me. Go figure...I was the problem

 

Golf is the lamest sport there is, that would be a big red flag for me, I wouldnt go anywhere near a guy thats in that, just on that fact alone. Just say the word Golf and I want to take a nap.

*Apologies to anyone thats had recent knee surgery or was born with polio, didnt mean to be offensive with the use of the word 'lamest', apparently I'm not allowed to use the word 'gayest' unless referring to another gay person, even though Golf is pretty gay (balls do touch )