Is anyone here genderfluid?

Um hi. So, I identify as genderfluid, and I'm just wondering if anyone else on HIP is the same?

 

Not me. I identify as male always. I have a tender side but it comes out as male. I love women and only have sex with women, never another man. I do love men but in a purely platonic way.

 

We discuss gender fluid and trans, sex vs gender, and a litany of other subjects in sociology of gender.

I think there is an emotional component to gender fluidity that relates to our interactions with society and culture, therefore our families and peers, authority, and also the way we were socialized to perceive gender, sexuality, and male/female interaction.

I was criticized and admonished if I tried to play with girls. There was always a sort of "boys play with boys, girls play with girls" or keep to your own biological sex sort of attitude when I grew up in the 1980s. Later this led to feelings of angst as they related to interactions with women in society; in my life and by and large as a group more generally.

That said, gender fluid wasn't a thing then; you were bi or gay, or you were straight. There were also transsexuals, but that was far less common.

When I was 18 or 20 or so, I thought a little about sexuality. I wasn't curious in the traditional sense, and I never had a male/male experience. But I thought a lot about "who am I" or "what is my true identity" and thought for awhile/did lots of soul searching (for years...) as it related to my sexuality and its role in society or how sexuality pertained to my position in life.

But after many years of this questioning, I concluded that I'm cisgender straight and male. I don't identify as any special category. I'm a plain, vanilla guy who just had exposure to quite a bit of sexuality.

 

That's interesting

 

Cool! Yeah, sometimes I feel like bigender.

 

I do not know if you would say that I am gender-fluid or not. I believe that I am more heterosexuality. Meaning that I am attracted to women in most every aspect, but I will also enjoy playing with or want to play with a good-looking cock. To me, Sex is Sex, all about physical pleasure.
Often, I usually do enjoy and love most of the pleasures of the Human Body and open to pursue them whenever I can. With women, I might tend toward the assertive, with a fondness for giving orgasms. With men, I am an equal-opportunity pleasure-seeker who is open to suggestions. I am easy-going and do not get all fixated-on things.
I am biologically, a male but, maybe I am gender-fluid, and my sex would still be a male. Although I am often in touch with my Feminine feelings and my priority was to build-up my self-confidence, but to also remind me to love and respect all body while also being constantly reminded of my femininity. So, I do enjoy Cross Dressing in feminine clothing, keeping in mind that it is just material and I still identify as the male gender.

 

ok

 

i think i am similar to u. i am a homoromantic bisexual. i enjoy sex with men and women, but could only see myself in a relationship with a womn

 

I have always identified as a cisgender man but I am definitely not your regular cisgender guy.

When my two youngest children were small I took care of them and one of them called me Mommy for a few years. I guess she thought the person who takes care of you is your mommy.

My daughter-in-law among other people has said that I have a mother’s heart in the way I love my children and grandchildren.

With my transgender girlfriend I am her bottom and I love satisfying her like that. We both fantasize that she can make me pregnant - yes we know that’s ridiculous but it’s our fantasy.

A wise person jokingly said that I was straight from the waist up and gay from the waist down.

 

lmao thats cool. i have a trans boyfriend!

 

Um yeah. I know...

 

Most men and women have no idea that it is possible to shift seamlessly along the spectrum of masculinity and femininity. Many of them even believe that doing so is a perversion or sin.

As a gender-fluid person, that is not how it feels to me. I love feeling fluid. I mostly think about what rigid and judgmental people are missing by not experiencing their full sensual/emotional capability and by not understanding what men and women have in common.

 

thats so cool

 

Well, now....this means absolutely nothing to me. Perhaps I'm out of touch? I can tell you that I'm male and attracted to femininity rather than masculinity. I suppose a feminine-looking trans woman would be preferred over a masculine-looking cis woman, but I've never explored this possibility, either. I'm not impressed with most modern westernized women these days at all. I haven't tried to date anyone or have sex with anyone for the last 15 years, and I don't seem to miss it, either.