Is any one else this blank?

You're either really romantic or really jaded.

 

Yea you are all right, it does not really matter I guess... however sometimes you just can't help but wonder especially when you have never thought about it in that fashion. I never expected a person at my work to say those things and neither did I expect my boss to say those things either, because you never think about it that way. Actually, I quit there this weekend, its not worth the effort to work there anyway.

 

I work p/t as a backup bouncer at an extremely shallow meat market type place. I've been asked if I'm gay because I don't come up there and try to pick up women when I'm off. First off, yeah, there's lot's of 'hot' women(girls) that come through there. Second though, I get to see them make horses asses out of themselves every time they come in there. I get to see them go home with many different partners throughout a week. I get to see all kinds of shit that completely turns me off to the idea of getting with any of them.

I catch flack for it because that's not the standard male way that I'm supposed to be. You see I should be elated at the prospect of shallow girls who are drunk and horny. Been there, done that, it got old, I got older and wiser.

I had to quit another job because I was the only guy there. They were all obese and ate fried foods all day. They constantly made remarks about my butt etc.. and were just some of the grossest beasts a person could be around. Finally quit because the manager kept insisting on showing off to the others by constantly rubbing up against me etc... Thing is standard male practice would dictate that I made the lewdest jokes, flirted back, boldy told of my latest exploits, but most importantly make the obligatory comments about asses and tits for every woman who walked through the door (those beasties got off on that kind of thing).

In the end though I could give a hoot. The ladies I date are out of reach for the dumb schmuck who thinks all there is to life is who has the nicest ass. Sorry bub, you won't even come close.

 

Thans interesting.

 

yeah, I think a lot of the reactions are just because it is what's expected. Not all, but a lot.
My guy friends are constantly going on about 'hotties' - but most of them have drunkenly admitted they are just doing it to get a laugh or a rise or so on.

so you don't have the most raging libido in the west..that's awesome. Like people have said it probably means you can get so much more out of your relationships when lusty hormones aren't rearing their chaotic heads.

 

I think the quality of people who approach you will be better, and I don't mean looks.

 

I wish I were blank. Any time I see a blond dready guy I get all fluttery..it's just an automatic reaction......until I snap back to reality and remember that I don't want a blond dready 'cause they probably dont have a job and'll make the house reak of herb all day and night....and as a grown up, I've gotta say that gets old.

 

ya dont worry about it man. The lewd shallow chumps you speak of have all been co- opted by television. they're fools.

 

^This guy is right, maybe a social genius. Just hang with them but don't let your mind hang with them, you know what I mean?

 

dont worry about it.. women have the same problems too....my best friend had a shaved head.. and neither of us like to talk about guys or makeup.. we we have a pa and decorating buisness, actually when we are having a drink alot of people think we're gay...we're not and the thing is whatever people assume, they dont know what your truth is, and youre the only person who can know themself truly....actually the thing of guys assuming we are gay is very handy for pulling sometimes..
also, another of my good freind, well blow me down.. this really freaked me actually.. i went on holiday with some old school mates and we started atalking about the girl in question.. knowing that she was a good friend of mine, these other girls tarted saying.. is she gay??..are YOU nad her gay..??
and im ike.. wohah!!!! where did you get this shit from???


basically at the end of the day.. peopleare fucking crazy.. and any thing that is a label.. anyone who tries to label anything .. is just going to confue you even more....

accpet that you have different ideas to other people and be cool with that.. you're a unique human cretaure.. nothign wierder than that.. any ones other aasumptions are..invariably going to be based on their own ideas.. and you never know if they are small or open minded.. all you can do is modify your own mind to 'be bigger'

 

I think after all these years of the media shoving sex down our throats some men have become tolerant & are now finding woman relatively non attractive at all. I know each year that goes by I find it harder & harder to make an effort to "chick out" a woman because I have better things to do with my time. I'm not very sure if that's normal behavior for a healthy 23 year old. Someone should do a study on this.

 

At 23?

 

If a man doesn't feel attracted to a woman who's "hot", coudln't he be waiting for someone who seems normal and natural, and that's why he'd like her? As Element7 said, putting on the "hot" act is on the edge of making a real idiot of yourself (maybe over that edge already) and a man isn't required to respond to it. Perhaps a guy shouldn't worry about the women he isn't attracted to but should think about where he could find the ones he does like.

 

I know what turns me on and what doesnt so screw anyone else who would judge me because i'm not as obvious about it as they are.

 

I agree...I mean, often times people will be like she's hot, and yeah, she is...but that doesn't make me go want to jump in bed with her, or for that matter, have anything to do with her. But if she's someone I know, who has a nice personality and a good vibe about her...I'm much more interested. If she's good looking, so be it...that's just a plus. Put lots of the girls that are "hot" are hot in a whoreish way, and they are just probably doing it to get attention.

 

i think deciding if someone is hot is more of a silent calculation. why the fluck do you have to have a concensus on this question? you're either A: corrupted by porn and dont really care, B: cant make your own decisions... or maybe if your lucky, C: you need to tell a close friend how interested you are in a certain girl.

 

Jedi,
I have quite a few male friends like this, and they are definitely not gay. They just dont think a face and body is everything. They are after something much deeper and dont see the point of "checking out" and judging people on their appearance and dont feel it is really worth their time or energy. Some of these guys say they used to act like that just to prove their masculinity baceause that's what "normal guys do" (whatever that means).
Just because they dont go drooloing over every pretty face, people have also assumed thay are gay even when they've been in relationships... so don't worry, it's threatening to other people that you are different from their experience of how a man should act, so they have to label you to try to explain you so then they can live at ease again in their social illusion.
You are a cool guy, who is true to himself...
You will make a girl very happy someday

 

Different people are different. As far as I'm concerned, just about everything is normal in this regard.

 

Of course, you might be so latently gay only your subconcious would recognise it.

I recommend a hypnotist.