Is anal sex a good idea?

I thought that as its the P spot stimulation for a guy .

However having researched it before there are some nerve endings women have there that are stimulated.

Anal sex isnt for me/us either .

 

Not for me or wife. In fact she asked if I would like her dildo stuffed up my ass. Never any more said about it.

 

That wouldnt be a good idea anyway . Anal toys have a proper lip so the dont get sucked in . Whilst as a member of a Sex distributers forum ,there was a case where on guy had to go to hospital . The embarassment factor doesnt bear thinking about

 

My wife once mentioned anal plug. And boa. I feel bad now that I deprived her of the toys she asked for. Might have been interesting to follow up on the anal plug thing. Who knows where it might have gone?

 

Notice quite a lot of lady members in this forum n others elsewhere saying they enjoy anal sex a lot ... understand on 1st entry it is painful for them, need lots of lubes n gels

 

My wife won't but I've had anal sex with a girlfriend in my single days. It's a different sensation and she was into anal play.
I have to say I'd like to experience it with my wife but I can't say that it is a bucket list item either.

Tonguing her little butthole is a turn on though...

 

There can be immense pleasure for both participants when having anal sex. The man can either get pleasure from penetration or massage of the prostate. A woman is built is such a way that the nerve endings surrounding the clitoris extend around the anus as well providing pleasure as if her clitoris is being stimulated.

Is it a good idea to insert objects into ones rectal cavity? That depends. The anus does not lube itself so extra lube must be applied. Also the body does not open for penetration easily except during bowl movements. Therefore shoving the cock or dildoe straight in with out lube or warm up can damage the area. But if your ass is well lubricated and prepared anal sex can be rather fun.

The other part of the risk is transmission of disease such as E.coli. Sliding a bare cock into her rectum can transfer E.coli bacteria to the man and make him quite sick. Also going from ass to mouth or vagina can make both partners sick. So further preparations are needed such as condom use and enema cleanout.

Doing these things can make fucking that ass or getting your ass fucked feel very nice. A lot of people are doing it today since there has been a lot of education now available for enjoying a nice fuck in the ass. I say go for it.

 

My wife says it's an awful idea. Her one experience was forced and hurt like hell. Never again for her.

 

Looks like it takes some particular consideration and preparation, but I say it's a very good idea!

 

It can be very good or very bad for one or both. a few things are very important! Relax, prepare, Protection, DO NOT go from anus to vagina or anus to another anus ever without new condom and cleaning up.

 

Can be ok or terrible. Never got really turned on by it. My husband "slipped" once when we were really going at it and that hurt like a knife. We've had anal a few times since and as long as it's slow and I'm ready, it's ok. But after the initial rush of doing it, we both have decided it's nothing special so it's not part of the things we do. He says it's nothing special and I'd agree. Does nothing either of us.

 

I agree with you. Nothing in the world is there to challenge vaginal sex. It is the most pleasurable. We never did anal. My wife even refused to experiment with it. Also, it can easily lead to UTI.

 

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No! It Hurts Like Hell!

 

Well, as with most things in the world of humankind, common sense should prevail. Unfortunately, as we all know common sense has always been in short supply in humans.

And as with most things, there is a span of attitudes toward anal activities, ranging from 'zero tolerance' to 'a useful variation'. Anytime there's such a wide range in something, the question should turn to techniques and methods. After all, done too vigorously an omelette can become scrambled eggs.

A "standard issue" vagina can, properly lubricated, easily accept a 1" to 1 1/4" wide penis (2 finger widths). For the anal opening, being smaller, that logically would be 1/2" to 3/4". As many women, my wife included, would testify, a lubed finger slid slowly in can be tingly and ok. As someone stated, the many nerves of the pelvic floor are interwoven. The problems seem to arise when these limits are pushed.

A vagina can, of course expand, with preparation and time (otherwise there'd be no one here to read this). Similarly, and since we all poop, we know that the anal sphincter can expand.

Thus the defining factors seem to be: Attitude, Time, Lubrication, and Common Sense.

1) Anxiety before childbirth can complicate things.
2) Time to allow the sphincter to relax and adapt.
3) A willing, but dry, vagina is going to hurt with even a small penis.
4) Too much of anything is too much.

In my experience of, talking with women, being 'with' women, and reading academic surveys of women, the fatal flaw is ignoring one or more of those four necessities.

As to those who say, "tried it once, it hurt, never again", and given that quite a few women feel very differently, the only explanation is poor technique in one of the four areas.

Still, everyone is different in their likes and dislikes, so it remains, "To each their own."

 

That's quite a reasonable and straightforward way to put it!

 

At the right moment and situation (and a few beers) my wife will ask for it. Especially if we are outdoors like in our boat

 

A quick look at that article leads me to believe anal sex is being had without the full desire of the woman. Of course undesirable things are going to happen. Refer to Oldguynurses' statement on common sense.

My wife and I have been married 35 years. We tried anal, at my urging, during our first year. We were 18, and dumb. At least I was. It hurt her. She bled. We used vaseline. Refer back to me being 18. And dumb. Refer to the common sense comment above.

My wife has always been extremely tolerant, giving, and game. So we tried anal again, and again over the next few years. It only got slightly better. She then discovered that she liked a small vibrator in her butt while we had vaginal sex. We discovered better lube. That lead to larger insertions which led to more penile anal experiences. There was just enough of a sensual and pleasurable feeling for her to be open to more and more experimenting. Anal porn was thrown in the mix at some point too which made my wife more curious.

Long story short, after about 5-10 years, she came to prefer something in her butt every time we had sex. Then, after some 20 years of progressive experimenting, she started romping on me, my penis in her butt. And I mean going hard and fast. And having screaming orgasms. Contrary to popular believe, it doesn't always depend on penis size either. When I wore condoms, they were Trojan Magnum XLs (regular Magnums would fit but I preferred the more relaxed nature of the XLs). Rather, I believe it's all about the woman's desire. And the lube. With desire comes willingness to experiment until a pleasurable end is met. Out of curiosity from what we had seen on porn, we even tried double anal a few weeks back. It wasn't a complete success. Wasn't an utter failure either. It's about desire and curiosity.

I prefer vaginal sex over anal now. Why? Because once she gets to the point that she's relaxed enough to really romp on me, or that I can do her hard and fast, the anal opening has loosened enough that the original lure of tightness is largely gone.

What we have been doing for the last 10 or so years, which is pretty much a prerequisite for her to get off, is DP. Me, anally or vaginally and a toy in the other. Watching DP porn turns her on. And, DP is what gets her off the hardest. We're now using a larger than average dildo mounted above the bed for the anal part. I lay below it for vaginal. In other words, she rides me cowgirl vaginally, and takes the dildo anally at the same time. She prefers that I just lay there while she fucks us both hard until she explodes.

In summary, yes, some woman love having things in their butts. Some will tolerate it, once in a while. Other's don't want anything near their rears. This could be the result of a lack of desire due to closemindedness or other mental blocks. Or, it could just be an individuals physiological thing.

Even though we've played around with my butt a bit, and it was stimulating, I don't care for or desire it. In fact, I really don't want anything near my butt. Odd cause I have a feeling there is potential there. Can't explain that. Glad my wife likes anal play though. It has been fun experimenting!

 

That is putting it lightly, the rectum is alive with bacteria, some of it highly pathogenic if it gets into ANY other holes.
A guy transferring rectal material into the vagina of ANOTHER woman could cause her serious harm and even destroy her ovaries.