I’ve noticed on more and more adult sites and amateur adult sites images of women with butt plugs… especially those that look like diamonds. I find these super sexy and are such a turn on, and would love to get my wife into something like that. For those who enjoy butt plugs during play, how did you introduce it?
Does your wife enjoy her "bung-hole" being played with or even penetrated? She's got to be open to "ass-play" before going there IMO. If YES: Then after a good flushing of herself a butt-plug is quite erotic to wear during the day if planning on enjoying anal sex later on. If NO: I suggest you start wondering around there with your finger while eating her out or if and when she rides you to see what her reaction is. My first wife after accepting anal play (I fingered her while riding me and she had powerful orgasms) wore one all the time after she indulged our sex life in anal fucking 4-5 times a week with my cock. I'm 8" and it helped to make those anal evenings so much more enjoyable for both of us. There were some evenings where she just wanted to keep it inside her ass as we had vaginal sex which got her motors really running. Butt Plugs, she said would move just right while I was fucking her vagina to highly stimulate her to ask me to remove it and fuck her in the ass real good and deep.
That’s good advice. Know first if she is an ecstatic hell yes or a maybe I’m curious or a hard hell no. Then work it in from there as mentioned in the reply above. As for the introduction, start with a wet finger and massage her sphincter (anal muscle) while eating her. The more gentle you can be the better she will react. I know for a lot of women the first time you start playing around back there (especially if your going down on her) can make her climax really fast. Don’t sweat it if she does just keep working your way up to the plug. Just please go into it with patience for her, especially if she’s just curious. Don’t ruin it for her. If you’ve never had the pleasure of giving anal yourself you want her to come around because from what my husband tells me it’s a lot different then vaginal, and in a really good way for him. He has told me he actually feels my heart beating on his dick while he’s in my ass and that’s a huge turn on for him. It’s almost like a vibrator on his dick while it’s in me. Start out with small plugs and work your way up. After many years of anal I have a very large ribbed plug. It’s an amazing feeling for me and he loves playing in my ass with it. I do wear the smaller plugs for at least an hour or so when he knows it’s going to get rough but we only play around with the big one. Once you both get comfortable in it, especially her, it will bring you even closer intimately, at least it did us. I have absolutely no shyness with him now. I think because once someone takes you that way with patience and kindness you enter a whole new level of trust and intimacy. I’ve had a selfish lover take me in the ass and I’ve had a gentle compassionate lover take me. I promise you, my gentle husband owns my body. He can do whatever he wants to me and I’m in to it. Treat your woman good behind closed doors and it will open up a level of sexual intimacy that will blow your mind.
One of my friends is a little afraid of anal sex. I can understand since she says her boyfriend is huge and she is afraid of getting hurt. But she plays with her own butt and loves it. I took her out shopping and she found one of those jeweled butt plugs. She bought a couple of different colors and after we had a few glasses of wine and a nice meal, she went to the ladies room and put it in. She wore it for the rest of the night. I get pics once in a while from her showing that she's wearing it in public. It's fun for her. Makes her feel naughty and I of course love the pics.
I have the set your talking about, if it's something new for her then I would suggest not showing her the whole set as it can be a little intimidating at first with the largest one. Show her the smallest one and see what she thinks.. my first thought was on that is cute and I think I could manage that vs the large was I'm never getting that inside me (I have now) but at the time I was definitely afraid of it. The first time we used it was amazing and I wanted more of that fullness feeling pretty quickly after that point. We did it in the Doggystyle position and the way it felt with each thrust was incredible. As a female perspective to really enjoy anal you have want it as you won't be relaxed enough otherwise. We over think anal alot, it's easy to get get lost in the heat of the moment and want it but talking with our SO can be harder. Definitely lots of foreplay before you put it in possible get her off first and lots of lube and hopefully she will give more ago after that.
I would recommend that you go for something like this first before you go for the fancy expensive ones This is a beginners set and contains all you need to get started
