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Discussion in 'Lesbian' started by erzebet1961, Jan 13, 2007.

  1. MollyBoston

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    I'm pretty open about my girl crushes. (Not about the boy crushes - he'd feel much more threatened by that.) I've always said real clearly that I fully intend to hook up with a girl again whenever the time is right.

    We were talking about this just last week, actually. While watching girl-on-girl porn, which is a great conversation starter. lol...the deal we have is that I'm totally open to ffm threesomes and we'll totally go for that if it ever comes up, but he also understands that my desire to be with a girl isn't the same as my desire to be with a girl and him at the same time.

    If it ever happens that I hook up with a girl, I'll tell him about it and he'll be okay with it (or at least accept that it's part of the deal so he has to suck it up). He gets his threesome fantasy; I get to hook up with chicks all by myself, too.

    That was one of the big things, making him understand that having a girlfriend who's a little bit bi sometimes doesn't mean nothing but threesomes. Because of course the minute you talk about it with your boyfriend, he instantly starts thinking about threesomes. But I think it's the best deal for both sides; we both get what we want. (Okay, it's slightly better for me because I like threesomes and girls...but it's as close as we can get. And hell, he can hook up with dudes if he wants to.)

    It's all a little bit theoretical; our relationship is new enough (about a year) that I don't really want to hook up with anyone else right now. And we all know that talking about something while watching girl-on-girl porn is WAY different than actually doing it. But we've done what we can to be ready for it.

    One of the big things here is that, as a noodle lesbian (lol), I doubt I'm going to want an actual relationship with a girl. If I did, we'd have to have all kinds of complicated talks about polyamory and stuff and I'm not at all sure how that would go. When I think about girls it's generally kind of romping around and having a good time with each other - not an emotional commitment, which is a whole different animal.

    And no, my crushes don't really wear off. I've had a crush on this girl I know since the moment I met her. (And I'm sure she totally knows, too, because I get all blushy and look down too much when I'm hanging out with her.) She's SO pretty, and really fun and tough. She's in a committed relationship though, and she's never given even the slightest hint that she's attracted to me. She seems to like butch women. My bf knows I like her, though. He thinks she's hot too.

    God, sorry that was so long.
     
  2. spinningtop

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    Hey, thanks for sharing all that. I like long posts. Right now I can't really imagine myself in a relationship with a girl, even if I was single I'd probably just be looking for some fun and games. But I was thinking about it yesterday and I realised that if I ever did hook up with this - or any other - woman I would not want to be with a noodle! If anything I want a head-to-toe Lesbian!

    My crush is kind of like that, she's never been with a man, she's kind of dykey, I think she's single now. I saw a photo of her last gf and she was quite feminine. I'm pretty sure she'd not be into a threesome with a guy involved, in fact, my bf knows her, they were roommates once and they never got along, they completely DESPISE one another... she might as well live on the moon and not speak English lol!

    Damn those impossible crushes that don't wear off! You never know, this chick you like might be like me, hiding her feelings cos she's in a committed relationship...?
     
  3. MollyBoston

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    I could go either way as far as noodles vs. "real live" lesbians. The girl I have a crush on is sorta in-between...she has long hair, but she could definitely bench press me.

    Ha...so much for the threesome idea. Actually you can perfectly well still hook up with this girl and have a threesome with some other girl. Honestly, the girls I fantasize about threesomes with and the girls I fantasize about having sex with are totally different girls.

    And despite my boyfriend thinking she's hot, I'm pretty sure my crush isn't interested in a threesome. My impression is that real lesbians have zero interest in being the third wheel for some couple's mutual fantasies.

    It's possible that she's hiding her feelings, but I'm usually pretty good at figuring out when people are into me. But then it's usually guys, who can't keep anything secret at all.

    So are you hanging out with this girl a lot recently? I assume she's back from traveling now?

    I think you might as well try bringing it up with your boyfriend. What's the worst that could happen? He'd freak out and you'd say okay, fine, and you're back to where you started - which I suppose is deciding whether to cheat on him or to suppress your attraction to girls for the rest of your life.
     
  4. spinningtop

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    Oh god when you say it like that... cheat on my bf or go quietly mad in a closet, hmm nice options. Oh, but I know you're right, Boston, I'm just not quite ready to deal with it right now. I need some time to think about how to handle this, broach the subject with Boy, or not, whatever. Shit, I get to 29 before I realise I'm not as straight as I thought I was.

    That's so awesome that you have this honest communication in your relationship, I read one of your journal posts (alright, I read all of them...lol!) and your guy sounds pretty open to variety. That's special, good on both of you!

    Ok I'll be honest, I haven't seen this girl in 5 months, she's back in town and I've been avoiding her a) because I'm nervous to see her and b) because of this big falling out between her and my bf. I'm thinking that I really need to see her, take her out of this idealistic, runaway fantasy and put her back into reality right infront of me, before I decide that I'm in love! No I'm not *in love* with her, I've just had all this time to ponder the things I like about her and feed this crush. I need to find out if it's real or not.

    Ok, right, I'm going to invite her for coffee. Eeek!
     
  5. MollyBoston

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    Sorry to make the two most obvious options sound so stark. There're all kinds of ways to work it out, I'm sure. And hey, at least you're not like 60 or something.

    Gah...I kinda regret writing that journal stuff. When normal people I'm talking to mention that they're read it it makes me feel really weird. I do like writing smut - I like to write anyway, and it's fun - but that stuff's pretty hardcore. It makes me feel weird, even though I know this forum is supposed to be the place I fly my freak flag high and all that.

    But yeah, I feel really lucky to be with my boyfriend. He's good at making sure we both talk about things. It's not like he's perfect - he does other things that are stupid and lame - but sexually and, um, communicationally(?) we do pretty well.

    I know when we're at our best, too. It's when we're sitting around together in our apartment just drinking wine and talking about stuff and we're on our second or third glasses. That's when we really feel great about each other and we're always having a lot of fun. Anything I'm scared to talk about, I bring up at exactly that moment. You probably have moments you can identify too, those times when you both feel the best about each other, right? It's all about strategy, lol.

    Totally, totally a good idea to hang out with her! It'll definitely help sort things out one way or another. It'll probably turn out she slurps her coffee really loudly or something and that'll be the end of it, lol...let us know when you've talked to her!
     
  6. spinningtop

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    Am I normal? Oh dear :)

    Aww don't feel weird, dude. I LOOOOVE smut! Espeicially pieces written by girls, it's really honest, ya know? and you're a great writer! If you can't be free here then where the hell can you be??
     
  7. MollyBoston

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    Well, I feel a little better now that I realize you've got some of the same kinks.

    I also just realized that you're the same person I was talking to in the "Not sure if I should be here" thread. I somehow completely failed to make that connection. Duh.
     
  8. emmy350

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    Hello, my name is Emily. I'm 17, and still in high school, but about to graduate! Um, I don't know what else to say here.
     
  9. Salivrah

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    Aloha

    I am Salivra im from Germany i make ambient Music love the nature permaculture painting spirituality usw

    I wiuld love to know more people from arround the world

    Peace Salivra
     
  10. phillyzbossfemme

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    Waz sup ma name is Mz.Femme... I am from Philly...20yrs old...black female...aggressive femme. I heart shopping....blowing green....and going to the club. I have no children... i work fulltime @ at bank and I do me!!!!! Im very opinionated...and i love getting my hair and nails done. I love soft butch females!!! Toodles
     
  11. sengai

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    Hollah!

    I recently stopped denying that I love women.

    I am a lesbian!

    Open-minded, Anarchist, Feminist, Hippy-Folk-Punk, Artist, Vegan, Crafty, blah... blah... blah...
     
  12. yasmin333

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    I'm Yasmin, call me Yaz...If you like.
    I'm 18 and i live in the UK.
    I love driving, music, movies, go carting, peircings, tattos, funky hair and clothes.
    Umm, thats about it really.
    Oh...
    I have snake bites (lip rings - incase you don't know what that is).
    And i have tunnels.
    I'll be getting my nose peirced soon =]
    I love colourful rainbowy things...Like beads and necklaces =]
    Yep, thats it.
    Hello everyone.
     
  13. liptonguechik

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    Hi girls I go by MiMi, I turned 16 last December and originally from Vietnam, moving to California in a couple months.

    I love listening to music, playing guitar, hanging out, shopping, clubbing, dancing, photography, cinemanography, social working, helping people, chatting and playing vidoe games.

    I'm new here, just joined an hour ago and I hope to get to know all of you here. :]
     
  14. asynchronicity

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    I am new to the Hip Forums. I am soon to be 30, my life is happily entwined with another woman, and I am about to make a major move into NYC.

    I am an audio engineer as well as an Ordained Clergy Person in the Church of Spiritual Humanism. I offer my knowledge in the Hip Forums Free School, as well as spiritual counseling for free.

    I go by either Asynchronicity or MaddyBlue. I maintain several blogs, one of which is my spiritual path blog.

    I love to write and meet new people.
     
  15. knattyk420

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    Hi 34(35 in july) bisexual woman. I hope its ok to post here sense I'm not a "pure" is that the right word ? lesbain used to be but fell in love with a person who just so happened to be a man and my soul mate. But it would be really nice to talk to more likeminded women. have a great day!
     
  16. Liv3Organic

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    Hey
    Im 17 live in the sunny state...I just hope to meet some people like me and not be judged.
     
  17. mystik_lilac

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  18. asynchronicity

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    I don't think many people are "pure" lesbian, as demonstrated by the late great Professor Kinsey. So, welcome. What do you want to talk about?
     
  19. mayohiorun

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    hey there. my name is samantha, im 18. new to this forum
    and...i just broke up with my boyfriend because i see myself dating more girls. check out my page!
     
  20. Pretty In Pink

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    My name is Sarah, aka Pretty In Pink, I'm 30 years old and I'm here to meet new friends;)
     

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