Introduce a vibrator to my gf as a surprise?

I'm wanting to introduce a vibrator to my girlfriend and was thinking of doing it as a surprise. Something along the lines of keeping it nearby and when we're going at in a 69 position just start slowly using it on her.

Would this be a huge mistake? Is this something I should definitely talk to her about first?

 

You should bring it up in a non-sexual situation first.

 

Wrap it up in gift paper & give it to her and ask if she wants to try it or if she'll let you have control of it first. She may not like the idea of sex toys either thou.

 

I would suggest telling her about it. I don't know that I would just surprise her during the act. Maybe buy it and show it to her or gift it to her. You know her better than any of us do. I guess you have to use your judgment about how you think she will react. Personally I would love getting that as a gift. As it is, I'm the one that does the purchasing of the toys in our relationship. Have you ever tried a vibrating cock ring? That would be a nice surprise for her after you have introduced the whole toy play into your relationship. I just feel like the first time toys are introduced it shouldn't be as a surprise unless you think she would be totally into it without knowing about it.

 

Not a vibrating cock ring but I did introduce a cock/scrotum ring. I sold it under the premise of keeping my testicle from popping up as it sometimes does when I'm excited. In reality I was looking for something to give me a longer/stronger erection and it worked great for that. She seems to dig it as I last longer and am larger in girth when using it.

I'm a little nervous about just springing a vibrator or dildo on her though. I was trying to get her into a threesome a while back and she started out sounding interested but kinda went cold on it. I was thinking this would be a good way to get her into the feeling of two cocks in her at once and maybe get those MFM conversations going again.

 

I introduced a vibrator into one sex sessions & she didn't like it at first & didn't take much to tell me either. I now use it anally on myself & its perfect as a prostate massager the way the vibrator is shaped. So it wasn't a waste of money & it can be used by me instead. So that's a bonus ! She prefers a real penis inside her & not a manufactured type. You win some surprises - you loose some.

 

Our first "toy" was purchased as a joke for us by a friend. It was a durex play vibrations vibrating ring. They are supposed to be one use but depending on how long you use it you can maybe get a couple uses of it. They are AMAZING. It drove me CRAZY when he wore it. After that, the world of toys was wide open for us. We both wanted more and now we have a whole drawer full. I still think that cheap cock ring was better than the more expensive ones we bought. You could always try something like that to warm her up to the idea. If you put that on, turn it on and have her ride you she will probably do anything you want. She will probably have an orgasm that you have never seen before.

 

We sell Durex vibrating rings at work & some of the staff I work with joke about them & ask if I have tried them. No, I don't use them - I choose what I use during sex & how I use it & how it may stimulate her better than some sex toys I wouldn't even buy.

 

You are missing out on an amazing world my friend.

 

Yes, I know some are better off sexually than me with their partners but I try new things out with her just to increase our sexual enjoyment & the more things we can do the better. Some sex toys are far too expensive for me & I buy things in my price range. Some have too high a price for what they are. Some are made for both males & females use. I pay what I see as either cheap or are multi use toys as well - for anal / vaginal uses.

 

If anyone gave me a sex toy as a present without first discussing it - well, I guess it would fir right where I'd shove it.

Even my nearest and dearest.

I think sex toys are something you chat about first. Don't forget it's probably something you want to push into her body. Let her assist with size and shape. It is her body after all.

 

I have a vibrating cock ring and my gf loves it. She also has two dildos. We discussed the whole world of sex toys first. If I just sprang it on her, it would have been over. Of course she was hesitant but curious. I told her if she would like to try I would get her one.

I had ordered something not sex related in the mail and a package arrives at the door. She asked me what it was, and I said your toy. She said yeah ok and I got a smile from her. So then I thought ok she's not opposed to the idea.

I then ordered her one. When it arrived she opened took it out of the packaging, as if it was dangerous to touch. She had commented on the size and operation of it. I told her you can try it alone first or you don't need to use it at all. It quickly became a part in our sex life's. The toys don't get used every time, but they do get used and it's not embarrassing. I enjoy watching her use it on herself.