Insecurity Issue

Haha.. I don't know about that at this point. Whoever it is definitely has their work cut out for them.

 

At some point somebody will rock your world and turn it upside down. It will be just like a hallmark Christmas movie

 

:rofl:

Hahaha I'm never going to live that one down.

 

never!!!!!!

 

I never said you were angry. I was talking about her anger, when you brought the situation up. To be honest, I completely get that because I've done the same thing. The more you talk about it and bring it up, the more she's going to get annoyed with you and start questioning your relationship. It makes you look too clingy. She has said that you are exclusive. I hope that's true. You can either trust that you're on the same page or leave. I don't think having her make it official will bring more security to the situation. Being that the two of you are very young(maybe younger than you feel) maybe she's not that comfortable with a more mature relationship. Sounds like she's never had a mature relationship before.

As for not wanting to let her get away, I think real relationships aren't like that. You can't stop someone from getting away if they want to. I don't think I can really say what a relationship is about because there are so many different types of relationship. If you think that you want something very serious and this is going to bother you too much to not have her say that, then you should leave her. (imo obvs) Otherwise, like deviate said...detach. There are many more where she came from.

 

So true.I don't allow myself to get wrapped up in emotions with women either. One of those live and learn lessons.

 

Lol, sad.

 

This was helpful! Thanks.

 

Cardinal Red - you have received a lot of advice, so here is some more: if size is not an issue for you and her, then there is some other issue bothering you a lot. Try to identify it. If you are a good student at a top school, and headed to a top law school, you need not be insecure. Just because a guy is a big football player does not mean he is good in bed or is anything more than a passing trophy partner for her.

Try to become the best lover you can be with her, concentrating on what she likes. Learn to give her a G spot orgasm (I can teach you if you don't know how), and concentrate on foreplay on her. Try different sexual positions to find the best one for the two of you. I like missionary with a pillow under her butt, but reverse cowgirl may be what she likes, etc.

When you fall in love, what you are really falling in love with is the other person's personality, not their body. It helps if the body works well sexually, but that alone does not make a relationship. And the two of you are only 20, young and immature. Don't rush things.

 

Thanks. That's reassuring. I appreciate it.

 

I just wanted to, again, thank you all for your words of wisdom and thoughtful critique of my issues that I raised in this thread. Many of you were more helpful than I could have ever imagined.