Guys, Girls, in your relationships , who usually initiates sex?, you or your partner..and seeing as how this is an oral/anal section...we will stick to those 2. But feel free to share, your experiences..
When it comes to any kind of sex I'm always the one in our relationship to initiate it. The wife just doesn't do it, she enjoys when we have sex be it vaginal, anal, oral... She just won't initiate it UNLESS she's really drunk!!
I've always been promiscuous, initiating sex with all my partners, since I've been married (29 years!) it's still me who initiates most of the time. We don't do anal though....tried it & didn't enjoy it!
Well I am no longer in a relationship but if I was I'd like both of us to be very open about our sexuality and communicate.
Depends. Usually the busier person at the moment is not an initiator. Or, depending on the mood of the day. Playful, romantic, we have our specialties. I'll admit I can kind of forget/get distracted, and I might not initiate for a time. So, it's his turn. Teamwork. These are partnerships. Not transactions.
In my 2 serious relationships, it was 1 and 1. In the first, she was definitely the initiator (not that i needed much prompting) she was also the one who introduced new "things." In my second, my partner was far more blase about sex. I'm not sure it was her favorite thing, but she certainly was able to keep me interested for 7 years. But it was always a relationship that was going to reach a "use-by-date" We were both quite happy when we ended it. Both relationships being with other women, oral sex was not an issue (duh!) With anal sex, (yes, some lesbians have anal sex!!!) the pattern followed the first part of the entry.
it really depends on the partner for me. For 3 of them she did by a large margin, there was one where it was actually a rare occurrence and we were about 50/50. when I was in the closet and dating men they did 100%
When we were first married, he would always initiate. Now it's whoever is hornier initiates. Sometimes it's me, sometimes it's him. Again, men don't get subtlety (according to my husband) so I blatantly ask if we "have plans." (Code in front of the kids). He asks the same thing when he initiates. It might not sound romantic to you, but when you have kids and you want sex, the most romantic words are "Do we have plans tonight/later?"
I guess I should chip in, seeing as how I started the thread..If it comes to oral on me...my wife ALWAYS ! initiates, I don't like coercing her or forcing her to do something, and sometimes she is just not into it. But when she is?? WOW!..Usually happens a few times a month..when she gets really horny,and cant wait.. oral on her, I always initiate, but there are those special moments when we are just fooling around, and she scoots her butt in front of my face and asks..'feeling hungry??'..thats the BEST! for me..my dick gets instantly hard,I can eat her for a long time,..and each time she orgasms, she gets hornier.. anal ..never for either vaginal, bout 50-50
I initiate most of the time, however the wife (who's keener with timing) will sometimes initiate by saying things like "I'm getting tired and the kids are watching a show, if you want a quickie now is the time" or every great once in a while she'll flash me her boobs or ass which instantly turns me into a huge green raging monster with one thing on my mind
had a deal with one woman that if I wanted head that I just push on the top of her head and she did the same if she wanted oral. When we first started dating she told me she didn't like oral and in not too long she was pushing on my head every single day.... My long term we planned ahead and rarely had "short notice sex" or quickies. I like to take time and when we didn't have the kids we took time to get it on really good. If she drank it made her a lot more horny so that could change things.
