Ex-wife was awesome in bed...wild sex....she also had presumably wild sex with enough other people that I divorced her. The end.
I think it's important to have a partner willing to grow and experiment with each other, otherwise people start to look elsewhere for what they can't get at home.
Infidelity = betrayal, lies... not good. Not to be confused with sex with others when both partners agree with it.
im gonna confess something here, it really hurts to even acknowledge this, but im so scared of infidelity, that i can no longer have normal relationships with women, only one night stands, or fuck buddies.
You know...having been through it (and acknowledging that several times on HF today)...you can't let it eat at you like that. My heart was broken when I found out about my ex but an older guy at work talked to me (nearly 20 years ago). He told me his wife could cheat on him if she wanted to...but...that would be on her and why would he waste time and tears on someone who thought so less of his feelings? That got my head on straight and made me realize that she was the one who made her decision and not every woman after her was going to make the same decision. It's only an individual making an individual decision. Not every person is like that.
This sounds like an excuse to not commit to fidelity yourself, and that's a shame. Magic and miracles happen with risk.
Infidelity is wrong - it is a betrayal of trust. But I guess I've met enough men in my life to know that it can happen easily enough, and often it doesn't mean that they no longer love their wives or want out of a relationship. I had a good friend who was a divorce attorney. He represented a good looking woman - but not one really extremely hot. At the close of the case, she came to his office, threw up her dress revealing her bush, and then fucked him wild. He just couldn't resist it. that's never happened to me. Fortunately. I guess I'm not the kind of guy that happens to. This woman though got pregnant. He lost his job - suspended for 6 months by the bar, and was sued for malpractice (settled very quickly). His wife stuck with him though. He just told me he couldn't resist it. He's still my friend. I've known other guys who have lapsed, and the reasons are all different. Some say they aren't getting it at home. Some just slip up. Some are real scums. I just can't be morally superior about it even though I never have; I've seen enough cases to know, that "there but for the grace of god, go I."
I do not give a shit who is infidelity or not...none of my goddamn business...and i am not the moral cop in any situation like that.....If I met the love of my life ever...everyone would know it.
the opposite of infidelity is personal integrity personal integrity means not according to expectations put upon you
Name one single other thing in life where you dont get bored of the same thing all the time Free test drive of the lastest lambourghini?, oh no thanks, Im committed to my prius
Cheating is never ok, period! If you want to cheat, then get over it or end the relationship first. If kids are involved, then you better damn well just get over it! Cheating is low-class!
Infidelity requires two acts. 1) Making a commitment 2) breaking that commitment. To use your analogy "Free test drive of a Lambourghini? No, I signed an endorsement deal with Prius to only drive their cars." Avoiding infidelity is easier at the making commitment point than the breaking commitment point. The intermediate changing the nature of the commitment point is a tricky place.
