in way over my head

and so hows that working out lately?

 

Funny you should ask. He told me a few nights ago he is officially filing for divorce. The papers are ready, and I'll be served on tuesday. The living arrangements are uncertain at this time. But most sure is that he won't cohabitate. I'm going to accept it, and I do look forward to him being gone. We'll announce it to the kids when they are together. That might be on 9/21, when my daughter is down to watch my son's first running competition.

 

Wow.... after all that "we ARE staying together!!" stuff, you're getting divorced?

Well, good luck w it all!

 

That was my hope.....not necessarily the reality. Thought you knew that.

 

Nope... didn't read anything about that til now.

So, you okay with it and all? You think it'll work out for the best?

 

Since the first talk of divorce back in March, he has wanted to live separate, and I've convinced him to stay. He can't do it anymore.

I'm back and forth. Excited about the freedom and opportunities, and nervous as hell too.

 

Yeah, I bet.

Good luck!

 

Congrats , Calgirl. This has been long overdue. I've been assuming this post would soon appear. These days divorce seems more prevalent ; you have raised your kids.
Most folks our age have had to address this issue. Some, myself included , more than once. Why the trepedation? Many folks tend to thrive in a divorce situation. You seem to be one of them. Enjoy.

 

Sounds like it will be the best thing for you both and you can get on with your life and build new relationships without the baggage of the legality of the old one. I really hope that it the transition goes well for you and the children and that the new year will be a great one

 

So let me get this right. You play tennis, go on dates and brewery tours.. meanwhile, your husband is working to pay the bills and keep a roof over your head but he is expected to leave?

That's disgusting. Yet another reason to never get married.

Fucking bitches man. Pretty sad that I have more respect for prostitutes than the average woman.

 

^^^Shut the fuck up, she has a well paying job of her own.

Yes you are pretty sad.

 

Oh, did I offend you? Good.

All she's ever talked about is lunch dates, playing tennis, and spreading her legs. How the fuck am I supposed to know she works? And I guarantee the old man is the one who pays for 75% of the living expenses, and he was (from what I gathered) the faithful one here, yet he is expected by her to leave.

Stop being a fucking white knight. It's pathetic.

 

Seriously unnecessary, deviate. Those are some serious generalizations to make about a person you don't know. Not to mention talking down to an entire gender.

 

I'm sure it's not the entire gender. But my mom did the same thing to my dad, I've seen it happen to many men I know.. and I've never been married but been rawed out many times by females I did everything for.

It'd be nice to find one that changes my perception but it's pretty hard not to be jaded based on what I've been through and seen. I call it like I see it.

At least prostitutes are open and transparent, and don't fake things like love to try to get what they want out of men or because they are afraid to be alone. The lack of deception there is highly respectable to me.

 

not generalizations, but rather based on calgirl's posts over the last 6 months.
Please pay attention.

 

^^^ Fucking woman hater GTFO

^^^Check it Noxious, pay the fuck attention yourself.

 

I couldn't agree more. As far as I am concerned, prostitution is a respectable profession & always has been. Indeed, many cultures, especially in the Orient consider them to be of the higher social order.

I once knew a Russian girl, living in Australia on IRC chat once who, originally was very secretive about her profession. Then one day she admitted to me that she was an escort and, at first was surprised to find that I wasn't shocked or judgmental. After which it seemed as if the bond between us grew stronger.

 

Poor little pussy-less sad men.

I do work, I paid the down payment on two houses, taught him finances and banking, then had the important job of being a mother to my children, so I used the money he brought in. It's not rocket science folks, it's team work.

But to make you happy...he filed for divorce and wants to live separate. I'm sure you will be glad to know I face a lot of difficulties.

Wait wait....and still meeting sexy fascinating men that fuck me, and I fuck them. It's like little vacations from my life.

 

I noticed other threads of her too, about her new job for instance so yes, it is a projected cliché/stereotype. He even admits he got this idea partially because his mom did the same to his dad.
Boohoo that other married women do similar things like tennis and go on dates while still living with her husband. They must be just at least as awful right....

 

Well something had to give in the relationship and it appears he has made a decision that is workable for him. It was only a matter of time before one of you had to as the arrangement was not mutual or healthy for either of you or your children (young adults).

I hope this bring closure for both of you and you can then work on being happy in the new dynamics.

Hardship we can deal with but being miserable takes far more of a toll on everyone.

With all sincerity I hope that the change is a good one for all of you and that healing begins.