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Yeah i agree i mean i am against cheating but there are worse things that a person can do. You're young you're not trying to hurt anyone, its not just sleeping around it seems like you just having a stuggle in your heart.

Ahh ressotaspiksman said it better, work out whats best for you.

 

talk to the other guy, talk to your boyfriend, figure shit out.

 

tripping i mean he always touches me gently almost unseen, then there are time he is touching me more harsh then he should be-juts grabbing me squeezing me he just doesnt let me go.
sometimes he just watches me with such intense vision,just being silent and then out of nowhere after 10 min of staring he is saying soemthig like 'u are so beautiful i don`t know why i cant stop thinking about u for so long, u are my fix idea"

 

and after few hours when i see my boyfriend he is starting almost the same thing telling me how much he loves me, how he wants to spend his life with me.

and u know all that, both of them....they are making me feel tired!

 

Then maybe you should just take a brake from both of them?

 

i have talked to him, or better said tried to talk to him. It doesn`t work, i am saying to him that this is wrong and he answers he knows with a smile on his face.

 

I totally agree. Even if nothing ever happens again with your friend and you end up not telling your boyfriend, you never know what may happen when someone else comes along.. if your heart is not fully committed to your boyfriend, there's always gonna be someone else and that temptation.

 

Well whats good for them , aint nec good for u.
Cos eventually there'd be a problem.

Are u really looking more for the "free love" thing , or just choosing 1 guy ?

And guys often think they're *expected* to show monogamous devotion
-even if they could handle other ways.

 

I didnt want to say this because im not sure, but the other guy sounds like a jackass... it seems to me that he has no regard for how his actions are affecting you, he just wants you for himself.

As i said i could be wrong but he does sound like the type of guy who sort of owns a chick, rather then is with her.

 

That's what I was thinking too.

 

yes maybe he is, he told me once he wants me like an object to do anything he wants with me.......strangely i liked that at the moment...now i feel just sick

 

Do u remember the story of King Solomon?
He deciding to cut a baby in two , when two women claimed to be the mother.Immediately , only the pretend mother , went along with the suggestion.
Well maybe this is the exact opposite...

What would happen if the word "spitroast" was mentioned?
Ok probably violence...yes?

But seriously , u havent said what *you* really want..

 

I can tell you exactly what i think you should do, but being some random from the internet basing it on your posts, im not going to unless you want.

 

well its interesting to hear opinions so u are welcome to tell me

i want i want i don`t want i want,.

 

what is better for you as an emotional being? what is better for you as someone who wants to become a strong, independent person?

who makes you feel more emotionally secure? and who exploits your insecurities to get what they want?

 

Ok because thats all it is and i may be wrong.

I think you need to ditch the guy you slept with, for you. I think you need to let your boyfriend know what happened, and you need to let him know your not going to be friends with this guy. I think you should phrase it being as kind as you can to his ego, because it would be hard to hear.

I am basing this on the fact that the other guy just sounds like a dick, and if you're happy in this relationship he probably isnt worth letting him get in the way... and by the sounds of it he is going to try, hence why you have to tell your boyfriend.

Thats all my own subjective opinion based on what you've written, take it or leave it either way don't beat yourself up over this.

 

I think it would make the most sense to break up with your boyfriend, because I think you will probably cheat again at some point in time given your fundamental belief in free love. which is a good thing; open relationships are for the secure and highly mature folks and it doesn't sound like your current boy is in that place (of course, most people aren't). and it's not likely you'll be with the same guy 10 years on, is it?

 

based on what? showing affection?
I can't count how many times someone on here called me a dick without knowing the first thing about me. of course, I am a dick.

 

do the other players involved sound all that secure?

proper free love takes a lot of personal responsibility, and, yes, a lot of personal security in who you are.

as opposed to seeking validation through sex, which is a VERY dangerous path.

 

Well GG , is it u dont know the answer?
Or u are *afraid* of the answer? ( not criticising)

Open relats/free love is a big thing.
And u havent explicitly said *you* want it.But we seem to be deducing that..

But if they dont want what *you* want , they dont fully love u.
Just love their idea of what they want u to be.

So , maybe tell em what u want.Let em come round to it.
Otherwise..