I'm thinking of quitting masturbation

Has anyone tried this and succeeded?

I wrote a thread about my sexual dysfunctions and masturbation in the masturbation forum and got some advice but most of it didn't help. Some suggested to see a sexual therapist which I agree might of helped but looking at the prices they charge against paying escorts for sex, it would either be find out what my problem is but have no sex or try and work it out for myself and have sex. I'm choosing the latter.

So I suffer from ED and DE (delayed ejaculation). I am not going to repeat my probable reasons that I mentioned in my last thread in the masturbation forum. I am not starting this thread in the masturbation forum because they all masturbate in that forum and they would try and put me off.

ED has been sorted with Sildenafil. Masturbation I have most of the time no problems getting an erection but with real sex, so far, not a cat in hell chance.

I am 56 years old and up until the start of this year my only sex life was masturbation and porn. In January this year I experienced real sex for the first time by going to escorts for 45 minute sessions 2 to 3 times a month but have never ejaculated with any of them.

Now, I might be wrong but I believe that my lifetime of watching porn has something to do why this is happening and there is evidence, though not concrete, that this could be the case.

Up until today I had not masturbated for just over a week (a lifetime record for me). I saw an escort today and on a couple of occasions I had the urge to cum but as soon as I thought of it the urges stopped.

I am thinking that if I stop masturbating but still think of sex with the escort, that eventually my body will have no option to release cum while having real sex (knowing my luck I will probably have a dream about sex with the escort and ejaculate in my sleep lol).

I am getting bored of masturbation anyway. Every time I have an urge to do it, and I do it. When I've finished, I am never satisfied anymore.

I enjoy having sex with the escort too and its better than masturbation and when she masturbates me she is better except I cannot finish.

 

With the little help I seem to be getting, I have been looking for other advice/forums. I found a forum in Nofap.com which I am hoping to get advice from them. I'm still going to be active in Hip Forums but not on this subject

 

It's not that good a site unless you have real problems with it. I posted one thread about why I was abstaining an it wasn't an addiction to porn problem but a problem hindering one aspect of my sex life. I didn't get one reply.

 

I am sorry that you didnt get a reply as the site on the face of it looked so promising. I wish it was something we could help you with but I cant say I have come across this before.

Trying to think positively now ,at least now you have 2 possible avenues now of obtaining an answer .

Just curious , as to what the sessions are that attract a cost on this other site ?

 

Both porn and masturbation could be very healthy for a person.
But porn and masturbation could be done in a very harmful way. Many people dismiss 'porn addiction'. They are either using porn/masturbation in a healthy way; or simply they are people who do not get addicted easily to anything.

This was years ago. Porn abuse caused two symptoms in me.
First, looking at all women as sexual beings even in non-sexual settings. I believe that is wrong. This conflict in me affected my morale. I grew uncomfortable interacting with women. Second, I was not able to attain erection/ejaculation/orgasm without porn. The first symptom damaged me more than the second.

I came up with a 100 day 'monk mode' experiment (I made up the term). I quit masturbation, porn, erotica and any sexual thoughts. The only thing that is allowed is human intimacy. Which in my case is not much. After a week, I got withdrawal symptoms. It lasted for almost two weeks. Couple of months later I saw significant difference. Physical differences, like solid erections. But more important difference is, I started enjoying eye contact and f2f conversations with many women. I was able to greet and interact with women who are strangers. I really liked the monk mode. Now I watch porn, masturbate but do not abuse it.

Hope you find my post useful.

Wish you all the very best

 

My experience with no fap was pretty much the same. It looks promising but I had very little support and after continually posting on a journal, I had no response at all.

I think for me the worst thing was watching p***. It did seem to desensitize me to having an orgasm when I masturbated but it did not hinder having sex. I do not have a lot of sex with my wife but when I did I was able to function well.

I'm 60 now and over the past say 3 years I noticed this problem occurring. The main problem is delayed orgasm and decreased sensitivity. Part of this may be do also to aging but there has been a lot of talk about p*** and using the death grip contributing to these problems. I did try 60 days without masturbating and no p*** but I did not really notice a big difference. During that time I did have some release for my wife maybe three times in that period. After that I tried to just continue on with masturbation on my own but found it increasingly difficult without the visual auditory p*** stimulation.

I do find that sometimes by looking at posts on this site that I do get a little bit of arousal and it does help with having an orgasm. As far as advice for you I would suggest giving up the p*** and masturbation for a while and then see what happens when you masturbate after that. Good luck!

 

What is there to quit? you should have not started in the first place. Hey guys it is the most boring thing to do. Come on guys do something useful in life.

 

How has it been going? Hope it's working for you. Probably more people should try out monk mode

 

I once did a 100 day monk mode experiment. After couple of weeks, I had withdrawal symptoms. I resorted to outdoor activity and gym workout. After another couple of weeks, I reached a wonderful state. It was very calm, peaceful. I wish I could have stayed in monk mode forever. Being desperate, frustrated and perverted is the ugliest of my self.

 

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I reckon that's going to be a very hard thing to do.

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Monk mode.....sounds like marriage after 50 to most guys....

Maybe a monk session wouldn't be a bad idea, it does seem to take up a lot of brain space.

 

What I meant by monk mode is hardcore. Sex is not even in your thoughts. Not even in your dreams.

I wish I stayed. Staying is relatively easier then getting into it. Also sometimes things happen not only because I want to do it, but also the time was right.

The fact the experiment was only for 100 days gives the strength lol.

But definitely a way better state them a dysfunctional marriage

 

100 days, let's not talk crazy here. How bout a week or two...

 

I understand. You can do two weeks. But may not experience the benefits of monk mode.