IM STUPID!!!!!!!!!

I posted a thread about being in a relationship with a younger guy (Hes also on here as he stalks me)
I gave up absolutely everything for him LITERALLY!!!!!!! I left my life behind in Canada to be with him.....
He didn't tell me a lot about himself especially the fact that he is so depressed! The fact that he uses kink as a form of punishment which obviously always had a negative effect on our relationship.
Anyway i've been living with him for less than 3 months, spent all my money, i've got absolutely no one or nothing in my life and now he tells me he also no longer wants sex with me! Because his depression is too bad. ALARM BELLS RINGING!
I've been depressed for many years due to a shit life, but i wouldn't ever push him away as he has done with me!
So basically i'm screwed..........I don't know what to do!
Well yeah I do as i'm on a day of self destruction! Drink, weed and party on my own.......Grrrreat!

 

Hang on so you met a connivng douchebag on HF?

 

Unsure if I'm a conniving douchebag or not.

 

Well, you didnt give up everything, at least you got out of Canada

 

There's more to this story, I'm sure

 

Of course. She didn't even say where she moved to.

 

No i didn't meet him on HF........
Eric what do you mean by more to this story? I met him online, fell in love, decided to be together, moved from Canada to the UK to be with him. I left everything behind to be with him! Now im suffering and feeling like the biggest dick in the entire world! Simple!

 

I'm a bit confuzzled as to why you don't know what you should do.

But ok... I think you should pull yourself back together and get out of this unhealthy relationship. How you do it is up to you, but one thing is clear. He's not good for you.

 

Yes but im in another country, no money, NOBODY!!!!!!! Ughhhhhh how do i get out of that?

 

I'd start by moving out of the place you're staying with him. Can you move in with family as a transitional phase?

 

ClairCat, you have absolutely no one to turn to, i.e. Friends or family til you get back on your feet?

 

Nope absolutely no one!

 

Start looking for another man and job and get out when you can.

 

Pensfan......Im on it! But its so hard when you did/do actually love the person you gave everything up for! How can i get another man when i still love him? Yeah im stupid but ive been alone for 10 years.... he was my first love, ive only ever known abuse so he was my first!
The job thing is easy, and i see that i will have a job soon, and i can get myself a flat, but ultimately i feel absolutely useless! All I ever wanted was someone to love me and he said it was him! He lied the whole time. He blames his depression for a lot of things, and would rather spend the whole day sat in an old dirty dressing gown playing COD on PS4 than fighting for the only thing in his life that matters! ughhhhhhh

 

MeAgain yeah i get that but how can i love myself when im stupid enough to allow someone to do this to me? I only wantet to be loved, we had that but then he decides otherwise even though we had everything going for us! Its mind blowing and makes me lower than low....... I just need a hug right now!!! I feel like a stupid failure!

 

It sounds like you fell in love with someone before really getting to know him. Sometimes, that happens...falling in love with promises. Lessons learned, I would just get a decent paying job and then, move out. And let him go because he isn’t ready for a relationship, it sounds like. Doesn’t matter what he says, only what he does. Sorry you find yourself here. (((Hug)))

 

Deldre im not sure how long it takes to really get to know someone? I honesty thought i knew enough about him to risk everything..............I was wrong!
Thanks for the hugs guys! I seriously need them right now