Has anybody ever gotten this from another female when your just talking to them? I was having coffee this morning at a new location in my town I've never really visited and my girlfriend and I are pretty comfortable holding hands and hugging and being together in public. But this obviously transfers over to straight people that we are gay or at least in a same sex relationship. I started a conversation with a female in the coffee shop about her flower plant boxes and how well they were looking when she stops me to tell me "Ich bin gerade" - I am straight. And I thought okay.. wait.. who the hell do you think you are! Like I'm trying to hit on every girl I speak to, it's just rubbish. Anyway I pretty much just felt insulted to speak truths. And embarrassed. Has anybody experienced this before? When you're only having small talk and they assume or must tell you they aren't interested like they assume you are interested in them?
That is funny...I am straight, as far as I know.....but I can be very lovey to people.....not in any sexual way, though, and then a shot comes into my head...better make clear to them somehow you are not hitting on them.....lol
Well I suppose I like to cuddle with females but I believe the connection I have with females is more intimate than my connection with males. I might hug a female tightly and even kiss her but it doesn't necessarily mean I'm attracted to them. I just like hugs and cuddles, they mean a lot to me. Sometimes the warmth of another female really makes me smile inside. The touch, the connection.. it's all a bonding experience.
I have been hit on by gay women, I don't blurt out I am straight because it's kinda flattering in a way so it doesn't bother me at all. If it was obvious and turning into a hit I made it known that I am straight in a polite way but at that point I had to so as not to be leading someone on either. Seems I am an attractive one to gay women. My gay friend even said she'd do me if I was but she knows I am not. We get along like G friends and have for years as best friends and there is no issue. When we get together she always hugs me hard and gives me a peck on the cheek and we both know what it is and it doesn't bother me when it happens in public either or with our other friends around. One thing about her is she'd drop what she was doing to do something for me as I would her and because we are in the same kind of businesses we have helped each other many times over. I love her like a big sister and we talk about anything, even our sex lives and relationships to a point, just shy of laying out visuals on each other because it's not necessary. I am one of those who is comfortable with anyone so maybe that's why it has happened.
Ih Holland when I was there, girls always hold hands...all girls...not just gay ones....It is normal over there to see that.
Yes it is normal. Poland is my favourite place for seeing girls holding hands. They are so beautiful and delicate looking.. and it's just so cute to see. =]
and every girl I saw when I was i Holland walking around was beautiful...all of them.....every single one of them, Irm.
Yeah. Often other western countries.. mainly Americans feel a little overweight I guess. I have been asked or told a lot too things like "I thought Germans ate meat, drank beer and were rather hefty?" Lol yeah some of us are but I find we are a pretty healthy country in that respect. My brother in law felt really inadequate compared to the guys. He too thought we would have some porkies. I think he gained about 10kg in a month while another guy we were with lost 10kg in the month. That was the difference between eating, drinking and being lazy and eating, drinking and getting a walking tour guide like me to walk you around everywhere. =p I haven't travelled too much on the western side of the continent so not much experience in the Netherlands but I imagine them to be blonde and beautiful hehe, well the ones that live in the more Nordic towns.
A couple of times - never however as a result of pure conversation - rather because my very inaccurate "gaydar" suggested they might be a bit "non-straight." mostly the "I'm straight" responses have been said quite happily, as many women feel slightly complimented that someone finds them attractive. (even another woman.) I've never ever been "rejected" with animosity.
You should have said "Hm? What do you mean?" "uhm uhm... you're gay?" "So?" "Uhm.. I'M HOT AND YES I WANT DICK SO BACK OFF." "Okay.."
It seems to be a relatively common fear of homophobes (even if they're not even THAT homophobic, I guess?) of being hit on by gay members of their gender. I've heard of it several times, just because you like vagina, that homophobic part of them is terrified and disgusted that you MUST want THEIR vagina. Or she could have misunderstood something you said, but really... I do think it takes a fairly narrow mind to be so abrupt and presumptuous.
Oh I absolutely hate that. Some- not all people assume that if you like the same sex, you automatically find them attractive. There is no need to flatter themselves. It's just awkward for everyone and they make an ass of themselves.
Perhaps she just wanted there to be no misunderstanding of her intention regarding speaking to you as you were with your partner.
I listen to the voice of a person a lot to gain some sort of edge of their emotions at the time. It was directed at me in a rather cold demeanour which is what got me upset about it. If it was a playful conversation I'd be okay with it but it definitely wasn't. It felt like a "you stay over there" comment.
