I'm Really Worried That I'll End Up With Boring Sex; Help?

A little background, i'm a 23 year old guy, i've never had a girlfriend (i dated someone for a month but i ended it) i've only had sex 3 times and i've found that i am really open in the bedroom i love experimenting; found that out by writing erotic passages and finding myself getting off on the things i write which were always varied. However for a reason i have no idea why i seem to hve this idea that when i eventually get a girlfriend the sex will be boring because either:

1) As i'm inexperienced nothing i can do will please her
2) All the things i want to try she has done before and doens't find it exciting anymore
3) She is really 'prude' and only likes to do it missionary

Or all of the above, i have no idea where this insecurity comes from, i never fooled around when i was younger, i wasn't really interested in girls really until i was 17 and even then i was looking for a long term thing (my thinking is thats what you have a girlfriend for surley, for the long term). I am very mature for my age group as well as having social anxiety so at uni i didn't do any of the sleeping around that people always do (which makes me depressed cos i kinda wanted to do that)

I really need to get out of this mind set, i know how dirty girls can be (i've sexted a few i'm not gonna lie) but even now this insecurity still plagues me, i have no idea what to do.

Note i will not do ONS's and i don't think i want a friends with benefits right i'd want something more, i did it once it was great to have sex but i felt like i was missing something deep down

 

[SIZE=10.5pt]I don’t know why you are worried about it. If you’re open in the bedroom and love experimenting, I don’t see how sex could be boring.[/SIZE]

[SIZE=10.5pt]It’s called self-confidence and you are lacking it. Inexperience does that to people. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=10.5pt]That’s why us older people keep saying I wish I could go back to being young and know what I know now.[/SIZE]


[SIZE=10.5pt]Open in the bedroom is a rather broad statement. That can mean anything from I want to try anal to I want a girlfriend or boyfriend that will let me bring my friends over to use her/him. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=10.5pt]Communication is key to great sex. Things like how does this feel, did you like it when I…[/SIZE]

 

Cos it was meant as quite broad i'm open to most things, i won't do things like golden shower, feces fetish etc. the more extreme fetishes i won't do but the more uncommon kinks i'd prob try

 

What do you mean "boring sex"?
Do you mean sex that bores you and/or your partner?
Or do you mean that the sex that you like won't be at the kinky extremes of behavior?

Are you worried that the bulk of your sexual activity will be vanilla sex and that you and your partner will like it that way?
(If that's your worry, don't. A satisfying sex life is satisfying, even if its vanilla. Your sex life is for you, not for the record books.)

Or are you worried that vanilla is all that will be available to you and that you (or your partner) will want other styles?


(Hmm.... if "Vanilla is good enough for me" is outside one standard deviation from the opinions on this board, how does that effect the definition of "kinky". If being stratified by vanilla is odd, then doesn't that imply that vanilla=unusual=kinky?)