I'm really good at picking up women but I'm bad in bed.

OK people, first off in apologize if this is posted in the wrong spot or whatever but I'm new to forums in general and my forum etiquette is lacking so please bear with me. I'll try to keep it brief and if anyone wants more details I'll do my best. MY PROBLEM IS: I'm actually very adept at picking up girls, flirting with them, etc... just generally very popular with the ladies and they seem to be very drawn to me. I say this with no ego attached-im a very modest person not to mention I have zero self esteem or anything that would resemble an ego. I'm just being honest. But back to the issue at hand-yes I'm good with girls BUT I'm bad in bed. And its killing me. Its somewhat of a catch 22 for me and I just don't know how best to resolve it, if there is anything i can do about it. So please let me know what you all think, and be honest, not just nice. Give it to me straight. Thanks

 

seems pretty obvious. pick up a bunch of women and get yourself some practice.

unless by "women are drawn to me" you're just deluding yourself and women are actually drawn to you because they want you as a girlfriend, which is a common issue as well.

 

how do you know you're bad? do the women tell you? what makes your performance bad? maybe you're just you're worst critic..

 

You don't have to perform like a porn star,for one.Maybe you need to find someone you feel comfortable with.Sometimes we just want a good screw,but I would just suggest find a girl you really like and just make love.It can take time to explore intimacy,and for two bodies to groove together.Try not to worry about your "performance" and focus on the person you're with,once you get closer ask them what they like,and just try and relax.I'm not pretending to be an expert lover myself by the way,this is just stuff that helps me.

 

K-K-K-KEGEL IT UP!

just work those taint muscles all day erryday

 

Perhaps if you could give more details as to what / why you are bad in bed rather than spending a few sentences bolstering how good you are with meeting woman we might be able to offer some help. Unless of course this is just another troll...

 

Yes what everyone else had said so far, maybe give some details as to how you are bad. Have they complained about something specific?

 

Do you know what a clit is? Do you spend any time there?

 

How is that going to help HIM?

 

Maybe the do not call or talk to him anymore after the sex. And he assumes he is bad. My advice is fuck them as good as you can do crazy moves not the basic stuff do stuff that gets them aroused. Fuck them so good that the next time a guys doing them she's thinking of you. That's how I've always done it.

 

i'll have to remember never to do kegels then.. i don't have time for any more of that shit.

 

If you really think you're bad in bed, you could study a bit of anatomy and read about sex. There are good books out there.

I think one of the main things to know is that most women who do have orgasms have them thanks to clitoris stimulation. Clits are very sensitive and you should touch it with care to avoid hurting her.

You can start there. Play with her clit and "read" her body language, her moans, etc.

There are lots of people, men and women, who are good at flirting, but bad in bed. You are not alone.

 

Ok, first of all go buy The Joy Of Sex and read it. amen don't know what to do , they must read and learn. If you can find a "friend" that would help you learn it would be even better. Also, be honest , tell the woman you are with that you would love some pointers

 

It helps with erections and premature ejaculation.

 

You could become better at making love by being with a woman that can teach you things or with whom you could learn things together with.

You may be able to watch videos that can teach you some things or read a book that can teach you things.

You could also make a post asking people for tips.

 

Please... Please stop digging up these old posts and bumping them. These people don't even come here anymore. This thread is four years old! ! !

 

And a 1 post wonder who lasted less than a day on HF.
No wonder he is useless in bed, LMAO

 

gotta practice necromancy somehow... people get suspicious if you lurk in a graveyard with a shovel....