I'm pregnant and the father's wishy-washy

wow. that is horrible. you should definitely write down all the things hes saying, and definitely stay away. I'm glad to hear you're moving back home. I'm so sorry you have to be going through this. I couldnt even imagine what I would do if my baby's father ever said anything like that about our child.

 

Wow! Well at least you know now, and before anything can happen to the baby, and that you have time to distance yourself and get over the horror of what he's said.

Sorry that he turned out to be worse than could have been expected, but at least you know... Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

 

I'm sorry.
It's great that you're getting out now and doing what's best for you and baby.
Best of luck to you.

 

This is SERIOUS shit. Get the hell away from him as soon as possible. You NEED to talk to Child Protective Services AND the police, as if he tries someting after the baby is born, this will be on record. GET AWAY from him, and don't let any manipulative shit from him a day or a week or a month from now make you think he was kidding.

People who say things like this are NOT kidding. He may well be dangerous to the baby AND to you. I'd talk to a lawyer, as well. Before he gets one, gets "visitation" gets the baby overnight, and God knows what will happen. The Authorities NEED to know he is saying violent threatening things. This is NOT something which can wait.

Please, protect your baby.

 

When you DO get child support, make sure the court orders the kind that goes THROUGH the court, not directly to your house. First of all, it would be better if he doesn't know where you live, second, it's harder for him to miss payments if he is making them directly to the Court, and then they give the payments to you.

This is really a difficult situation. But, it's a good thing you are moving away. There are things which are MUCH more important than a boyfriend, as I am sure you know, keeping yourself and this baby safe is the most important one. Don't let him near the baby, you have to act NOW, as if you wait until Visitation Court, they will think you are making it up. Talk to a Social Worker and a Lawyer now. Waiting until the baby is born could allow him to get unrestricted visitation.

In most Child Support-Visitation Courts, mothers are now rarely beleieved anymore. You need to take action, while there is still time.

Please, this is so distressing. Only you can do it.

 

Maggie's entirely right! You and your baby are in grave, serious danger. People don't joke about things like that. He will try to convince you he didn't mean any of it, but please don't believe him. Get a restraining order (or whatever the Canadian equivalent is), NOW! And then go talk to a lawyer. You have to press charges, so there is documentation of the verbal threats. You have to do it, this isn't just about you, it's about that baby.

 

I'm really sorry to hear about all this!
You really need to get some documentation of what he's saying and get a restraining order slapped on his psychopath ass. You nor that baby are safe even with moving away, so get as much protection as you can!

 

once i figure out that i cant raise a child with a girl, i politely brake it off with her, at least i try to be polite. some folks say that this is not the best way to go. but i simpathize with kids in this situation. i kind of think its best to move on if the guy isnt totally in love with the idea of parenthood. you can very well find happiness with yourself, someone else, or even in the future with the father, if you strike it out on your own now, or early tomorow at the latest. thats my advice for unwed mothers.