I'm fucking my husband's best friend

To the OP of this thread......YOUR A WHORE!

 

Exactly, theres nothing about a dirty whore to be proud of, yet she is , I hope she gets aids.

 

Ive been cheated on and it fucken hurts really bad. How you can put that pain on someone and live withyourself...nevermind be PROUD of it? I hope for his sake and your sake that you realize who LOVES you, not who makes you cum. stupid stupid humans. I hate people.....but love all ya'll

 

ya I been cheated on too and it does hurt like shit, and if any women is ever proud of something like that its pointless, women seem to think jus cuz the guy talks alot and says how beautiful or sexy she is, hes jus trying to get his dick wet and he laughs inside, I see it happen all the time all women do is be proud of being played? The world doesnt make sense anymore

 

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this sort of situation isn't anything new - happens all the time, each person involved having a different motive for doing so - i don't think it's anything that should be praised or put down, it simply is.

yes, i do think that the husband already knows, or at least has a good idea what's going on, and honestly, i feel the whole thing could be resolved/improved upon with a good threesome - now there's some "hands on" instruction!

 

Absolutamente.

 

Ha! Ha! Good show!

 

You are not a whore, you are a untrustworthy slut with little morals. That is because of your actions, which you can change.

Ok, thats your fault. You don't marry someone you don't communicate with. This is what the dating stage is for. Its the cheating that makes you a bad person, not leaving if you are not getting what you need.

Ok, this is your fault to. If you have been play acting the relationship then why do you think it would feel real? If you bury yourself, no one is to blame but yourself. It sounds like he does have a lot of deal breaking issues. So break the deal. Don't become a backstabbing cheater. You are only lowering your own self respect and you know it. Leave him and be honorable. What are you hanging around for? You like the money he pulls enough to sacrafice yourself? I don't get it? Do you have children? If you do, do you want them to think this is how relationships work? You have to be a stand up person for yourself. If you don't like whats going on then speak up. If there is no chance at improvement then leave. Its that simple. Once you lose respect in yourself you can justify anything and you are.

 

Lotsa youngsters making judgement calls here, I wonder how many of the folks who flung names and judgements here have even had nine year long relationships. Everything was really cut and dried to me when I was a teenager too, but once you get a lil older one realizes that it isnt always black or white.

Yes shes wrong for cheating. However, how right is it for her husb to have neglected her sexually for nearly a decade? Mostly, its a case of two wrongs not making a right, and everyone seems quick to blame one over the other when NEITHER have been what they should.

And if you think that one can just "put aside" sexuality for the good of the relationship...... well, thats not a good plan for a long term relationship - healthy sexuality is too important to ignore. You see where it got this person.

Most of all, I think this thread is BS and everyone here has taken the bait!

hippie holidays all

 

maybe he has tried, maybe he has been unable, don't be too harsh on the fella

but, I just wanted to say that this post is really making sense to me
you are a wise one

 

Well personally I have been with my wife for 12 years married for 10 years. Some things in this world are black and white, cheating is one of them. She can always leave if she is unhappy, there is your grey area.

It doesn't matter whose to blame, cheating is wrong.

I agree with you. Just leave your husband before finding someone better.

 

this thread definitely does sound like bs. but if its bs then i dont get where the fun is in making up such bs.

anyway. i agree with Haid up there ^^. its funny how a lot of pple said "who are u to blame her?", when yes, shes the only one to blame as far as i know.

and also, in forums theres always a bunch of pple who think they're smarter than the rest cuz they say "wake up, the world is cruel, no one ends up living happily ever after".
well the reason why a lot of pple dont end up living happily ever after is cuz there are pple like u, pple who think "oh ive been hurt, pple are all assholes, im gonna be selfish too cuz ive got it all figured out".
granted we do not live in a carebears world, but there are pple who stay together forever without hurting each other, and there are happy pple, and there are pple who try to be good to others. if u think everybodys gonna get hurt all the time then u're going to end up sad and alone thats for sure.

 

damn good post

 

Just how is she to blame for being left unfullfilled in her sexuality? I cant see her being neglected as an excuse to cheat, but it certainly means (like everything in a good relationship) the responsibility rests on them both equally.

I still say the husb knows, and may be relieved that its not on him to satisfy her. After nine years, he has to know something is up in the bedroom that way!


Obviously it isnt black and white, each situation is different, as are the people involved in this age old story. She said she didnt want to leave him, so I didnt see that as an option, grey area or not. I dont blame her or him alone for cheating, they both have obligations to their spouse. It isnt like one person alone here is wrong. Frankly, there may not be a "wrong" or "right" here, and there are lots of times when thats the case... I shy from casting a judgement upon anyones relationship woes - there is always more than meets the eye.


I would also like to point out that many folks have lovers and still live healthy happy lives, even have long term relationships! Not everyone views having a lifelong partner with monogamy. Again, every person and relationship is unique.

bottom line for this, communication. A little of that might have prevented everything, and its what any good relationship needs. Certainly this one is gonna need some!

 

well your answer is here :

she could have talked to her husband, or left him. maybe she could have gotten him to agree on having an open relationship, who knows. but she chose to cheat on him, behind his back, with his best friend. so yea, she's to blame. besides, she started this by saying "im a bitch and i love it".
"im neglected and ive talked to my husband about it" would have been slightly different.

 

Well, in the true spirit of the forums....i just dont agree.

Leaving a person to deal with a broken relationship doesnt make one to blame for how they deal with it. You are describing servitude, in which one person recieves no gratification while attending the others needs.

Its gotta be a partnership, and the word for this situation is "selfish". Hes selfish for not getting her off, shes selfish for seeking it elsewhere. Neither is better or more right than the other.


I cant agree that shes to blame for being left out in the cold with her sexuality, and he is blameless. Its not like the husband never gets off, but after nine years shes probly thrilled to have gotten off - thusly the "and I love it".

As I said earlier, I reserve judgement for folks relationships as there is always more than meets the eye. I dont know if she talked to him about it, if she did and it didnt matter does that make her less to blame? Not really, as he should know even if she doesnt open up and say something.

Basically, if you want to ascribe blame for this, it needs to be shared between them both. Shes no worse than he is, as they both have contibuted to the situation. My reason for posting was to point out that he wasnt innocently standing by, hes neglected her for nearly a decade, and she is getting called the names.


But, if you are willing to let me get off on you without me doing anything to get you off in return, feel free to PM me! lol

 

mm well u're right. i hadnt seen it that way but its true that not getting her off for 10 years was pretty selfish of him. but, yea, and this is just my personal opinion, whats shes done is *more* selfish.

and yes, we cant judge, we cant really even talk about it since we probably dunno half the story behind these posts shes left. but if u go that way, we cant talk about anything cuz basically we just have tiny bits of information about other pple on a screen. i can form an opinion on someones post, doesnt mean im right or that i believe i own the truth or that im gonna change their mind, but i still can formulate that opinion. cuz this is a forum! weee

 

What if she has been faking it , and her husband really doesnt know he hasnt been doing the job ?

 

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