I'm finally telling my story.[Help!! Thread]

I thought you didn't believe what you saw on TV. Seriously, what do you expect to see on the news? The good things happening are just people being people. We've all gone through times when our life has sucked. You just have to bounce back, get your shit straight and get back in the game.

 

let me ask you this, how old are you?

 

Yea.. But i'm weak.. I can't bounce back anymore.. I can't take it anymore. I've always turned the other cheek.. but its finally caught up with me. I've been so nice to so many people who have taken advantage of me.. And they still do it if I let them. Thats why i'm such an asshole. Cause i won't let it happen anymore.

 

20...

 

Oh.. I just found out my one of my best friend's just asked out a girl i've liked for a while.. and he has only known her for a week or less.. And he is a fucking player. Now i'm texting both of them.. I'm telling her not to go out with him.. and he is telling me i'm doing a really fucking low move.. When the other night i told him I had liked her for a long time and was still trying to get with her.

See what I mean. I'M SO FUCKING SHIT OF THIS SHIT. WHEN I ACTUALLY FIND A GIRL WHO MIGHT CARE THAT I'M EVEN ALIVE. THIS HAPPENS! She is the first girl in 2 years that i've actually wanted to date.. IM FUCKING SICK OF IT TO FUCKING DEATH!

 

Sounds like your friend's a dick. I kind of agree though, that telling her not to go out with him is a low move. Talk to him about it, don't go behind his back and tell her shit about him. If whatever reasons you've given her not to go out with him are true, why are you friends with him in the first place? And if they're not, then you're making shit up, and that's definitely a low move.

 

I'm not telling shit thats wrong. when he was trying to get back with this girl he so called loved, he was fucking all these other chicks behind her back. I know what he is like. He gets high, then does all this other shit.

 

There is a fine line that you need to walk between being a doormat and being an asshole. That fine line is where you are being kind to yourself AND other people. Find it, walk on it - even if it's difficult. Even if you are weak. Even if you don't know how to find it. Still, you must find it. You're only as weak as you tell yourself you are. You'd be surprised at how much strength you can actually muster if you but try.

 

It just can't happen. Any kindness I throw at anyone else, they eat it up and try to take advantage of me.

 

a little story:

Once there was a cat that crossed a railroad track while a train was approaching. The cat made it across the track in time but his tail was cut off by the train. The cat then decided to go back and get his tail. This time the train cut off his head. Moral of story: DON'T LOSE YOUR HEAD OVER A PIECE OF TAIL.

 

So you haven't found that place yet. It sounds to me (and maybe I'm wrong) like you're so desperate for friends/a girlfriend/whatever that you're not being selective enough. Don't try to be friends with someone just because they're there. Don't do big favours for people you barely know: if they ask, they're probably not your friends. Bottom line, find people you connect with and try to build relationships with them. Don't throw yourself at people just because they're there.

 

You should have taken it up with him and not the girl. If some friend of mine went after someone i was persuing as just acted like it was ok i would ave confronted him about it. Its not cool to step on each others toes.

But dude, c'mon, your only 20 years old, you are taking this shit way too seriously. Just go out, have fun, don't give a FUCK what stupid worthless people do to piss you off. Some of this stuff feels EARTH SHATTERING now, but in a few years you will realize how really trivial and stupid it really is.

 

^ Very true.

 

And for as long as you keep believing that statement, we can't help you. I think all of us here would like to hear of you doing better, living happier, being at peace; but we can only point out the way (and only partially since, like you, we're only human with our own issues as well) - it's you that has to do the walking. If you say you can't walk, then all our help, advice, suggestions, and prayers are useless until you say otherwise.

 

I'll try. ha.