Although I have been out of my relationship for 5 or 6 years, I find that I can't bring myself to commit to another relationship. Having said that, I'm happy with my life. The one thing that has allowed me to be happy is the realisation that I like myself. IMO, the best way for you to heal yourself is to go out and do things that you want to do, try things that you have never tried, learn who you are and learn to like that person.Once you are happy with yourself, everything else will fall into place. You'll never be lonely if you enjoy your own company.