im confused about this girl

so i met this girl at work that has a boyfriend ( he has been working in another town for 6 month and has to work there for 6 more months) and i rly like her
she already started talking to this other coworker for a couple of months but i asked her if there is something between them and she said no
anyway we met a couple of times at her house its was great we laughed we cuddled but it was weird because she was talking to this other coworker even when we were toghether she said its nothing they are just friends
3rd time i went to her house things got a little physical (not sex just some touching)
she said that we should pretend like it never happened i was kinda ok with that but the next day she found out that i talked to a coworker about the problem she has with her boyfriend she got mad and said that she doesnt wanna talk anymore but after 2 days she started talking to me again sending me picture of her ( normal ones not naked) and i would always say she is beautiful and she would send me hearts in messenger stuff like that
but now she stoped initiating conversations again she keeps talking to this other coworker i asked her if she wants to be with him she said no and i told her if we could meet sometime and she said that its not a good idea because things might get physical again and we might end up having sex ( i dunno if thats suposed to make me proud or sad)
its been 2 weeks since we actualy had a conversation we talk but nothing special just " hi"and "how are you "
she is still with her boyfriend they havent broken up yet but she keeps talking to this other guy alot he lives near her they go eat toghether and stuff like that
was what we had just for fun or was it something more? i dont understant i dont know what to do from here
and is it worth it considering what she did and does while her boyfriend works in another town?

 

Leave it alone.

She's doing what makes her ego feel good. She's got 3 guys interested in her. Wheeeee!

She's a selfish tease.

 

so she never felt anything for me?
everytime i asked her she said that she doesnt know
one thing that im mad about is that this other coworker looks worse than me he drinks and he tends to cheat i dont understand why she is wasting her time with him it makes me feel like nothing

 

she's working you all

 

I agree with Aerianne.

This girl sounds like she loves playing these mind games and toying with guys' emotions. She might be very good-looking, and she might be very flirtatious with you when she chooses to be. I'm sure you like that kind of attention when she's acting like that. But she most likely doesn't give two shits about your feelings, just like she doesn't give two shits about that other friend's feelings. Hell, if she can be that physically close with someone other than her boyfriend, unless they in fact do exercise an open relationship or something, then it's safe to assume she most likely doesn't care about his feelings either. It's best to stay away from people like that.

 

i dont know about me and the other coworker but she loves her boyfriend
he treats her bad and she still doesnt wanna break up with him he didnt wanna be with her on new years eve and christmas ( i was with her on christmas )
and if she wanted wouldnt she just have sex with me that night instead of just touching and still meet with me after that

 

Run do not walk away from this one. You'll only end up with the short straw. Another word of advice my dad gave me ages ago:

"Do not dip your pen in the company inkwell."

 

i dunno if it counts or not but she bought me a cake for my birthday
well everytime i asked her about her feeling for me she said she doesnt know she needs to think

 

Dont ask her again ! Find another girl

One way or another this will end in tears

 

its hard everytime i see her talk with this other guy im getting mad even if i know that she might not leave her boyfriend

 

She's playing mind games with you. She's playing mind games with the other coworker. She has a boyfriend who supposedly treats her poorly, and yet she doesn't want to break up with him. Chances are she's playing mind games with him, too, which could explain why they are having relationship problems in the first place.

I will say this again, stay away from this girl. Plenty of other fish in the sea.

 

How old are you ticaaa ?

 

27 she is 20

 

she seems mature and wants a serious relationship
i guess i was wrong

 

I met her mate ( same girl ) I was sixteen though now I am 66
If she wants you she will come ! If not you can tell a better story about it than me

 

chances of her coming to me are small but who knows
one of my friends told me that if she did what she did to her boyfriend she will do it to me too if we will be in a relationship

 

Listen to your friend then !

 

yeah but wont it matter than i will be next to her?
i think if her boyfriend wasnt out of town for so long this wouldnt have happened

 

Well, you obviously like this girl, so I don't think the kind of advice you're hoping to get out of this thread is the kind we've been giving you. It's okay, I've been there myself. I won't bore you with the details but she and I ended up not working out. I was a total mess when I came out of it, whatever "it" was. But during it all, a friend who knew about us had been supportive of my decision even though she knew it would never work.

So, why don't you follow your own heart and pursue this relationship? You know what some of us think about your situation, and I personally believe we've given some sound advice. But it's you who makes the decision in the end. If your feelings for this girl are deep and genuine, then whatever we tell you shouldn't matter. You're much better off listening to your own self than to listen to some strangers who don't know anything about you.

One thing, though, is that these posters, myself included, aren't saying you should leave her alone for no reason whatsoever. We've all been there, or have had to support friends who were going through similar situations, or both. That's why we feel compelled to tell you what you need to hear rather than what you want to hear.

I wish you all the best regardless of your decision.
::AT::

 

i will try to leave her alone i asked multiple times about us and she always said she doesnt know or a simple NO
it will be hard to do but u are right i deserve better i guess