i'm cheating on my boyfriend....

gee, i just love getting abused senseless by strangers.
i'm an unhappy girlfriend who has started to be falling in love with someone else.
i know it probably wont work with my lover but i dont care. At the moment i am not happy with my current boyfriend, he doesn't treat me right.
I just want to be able to be happy?
is that so bad?

 

eh' shit happens.. used to cheat on my gf in the same house, not that she really cared. She was sick and was lying about her health. made me feel shitty so I got new fuck buddy, My gf and I are together now.. been together for 5yrs and the sex is great..
she is 10yrs older than me, you wouldnt know it the way we play like new kids in love... btw when the womens plumbing system goes haywire, just give it time. it will fix itself..

 

Yet...

The reaction you're getting may well be from people who've experienced the deep and excruciating pain of being on the receiving end of what you're doing to your boyfriend who you love, don't love, like, or whatever suits the response du jour you happen to be writing.

Perhaps it's too early for you to be in any serious relationships until you can grow into appreciating the value of someone who's faithful and not deceitful. I think you've painted yourself into a bit of a corner... maybe you want someone here to tell you that you're entitled to act on sexual impulse because satisfying your sexual appetite is more important than your relationship?

Perhaps the new guy doesn't realize that if you do it with him, you'll probably do it to him. Do what you're going to do but be ready for consequences.

 

yes

 

This might sound a bit crazy but, I'll throw it out there. If you are unhappy in your relationship- end it.

Cheating on him will only hurt someone more.

 

Apparently it's not as simple as that anymore.

 

on a more serious note...i need to know, from lack of experience with any long-term girlfriend, what exactly is the difference between fucking someone behind your partner's back and having sex with that other person after you've broken up with your partner...who probably has the same exact feelings for you that they did when you were dating?

Basically, i'm asking what the hell does it REALLY mean to be in a "relationship" with someone? What defines it precisely?

 

Right..

when a man and a woman love each other very much...

 

oh yay, thanks guys, i'm having a panic attack now and am sposed to be starting work soon.
i know i did this all to myself and i definitely should be punished for it. i just thought i might find some constructive advice or someone who would at least try to understand.
i'm not a slaggy whore or a slut, i just made a bad judgement.
i think i will be breaking up with my boyfriend for now, so i can figure out what exactly it is that i want.
Years ago, hipforums used to be my support group and my family. now i feel isolated and like a complete fuckup. thanks.

 

Also, i don't really know if the statistics are correct, so prove me wrong as you may, but i've heard many many times that 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. Not to mention pretty much ALL of my friends have divorced parents, including myself.

And we're not even talking about marriage here. We're just talking about this indefinable thing called a "relationship", which i still have NO idea what the hell defines such a folly concept.

So what i'm saying is that if this thing called "marriage" which is supposed to be such a holy and sacred thing, with all the vows and commitment and promises, if a shit ton of those don't even last half of the time, then please prove to me what is so sacred and special about "relationships".

In my opinion it's such a stupid word. Who am i NOT in a relationship with? I'm in a relationship with everyone i know. So i just don't understand i guess. But then again i've never been in a long term one so i suppose i don't really know.

That's my two cents

 

So you're only supposed to love ONE person very much? Says who? Society? Tell me you can't have that with multiple people. And if you do tell it to me, prove it to me.


I love The Doors; absolutely mesmerized by that band. So i'm ONLY supposed to listen to The Doors? I don't fucking think so. I can't have a completely unique and seperate yet parallel and different love for Led Zeppelin or Thievery Corporation?

I'm supposed to only commit myself and promise The Doors that i'll never listen to another band EVER, especially behind their back, until i break up with them?

Please enlighten me on this.

At first i was completely joking when i first posted on this thread. But now i'm dead serious.

Please show me where i'm going wrong here.

It might sound like a fucked up analogy to compare the love of music to the love of people. But what exactly is the difference? PRECISELY?

Just because society says it's ok to love multiple bands but not multiple human beings? Well that's bullshit.

 

Come now, don't be sad

I think it was just bad error of judgement, and sometimes the truth does hurt. But if you know you have done wrong then nobody should be giving you crap.

Ultimately though, it's your life- do what you like and bugger what other people say. Contructive advice has been giving mind, and that is basically not to cheat. If you are serious about falling for this other man, then I think you should take a break with your current boyfriend, and revaluate just where it's all going. You are doing this so it's obvious you care about his feelings, and are also trying to satisfy yourself.

There is something important you should consider though. Speak to your lover, if he does not replicate these same feelings towards you, you might end up losing both people.

Just remember, be honest. If you love this new guy, tell him. You could be happier there. But at least let your current man that you have been up to wrong doings, he deserves that much.

I really hope you're okay, you seem really pleasant- but next time consider the ramifications of such a thing I guess.

Chin up

 

WOW are you listening to yourself? All your words are pathetic.
Are you really going to compare Love and Loyalty to a band?
Stop being a know it all,you've said enough bullshit.:icon_bs:

 

You can't deeply love music? My bad.

I'm not trying to be a know-it-all. i'm just trying to understand.

Stop judging my words and answer the questions i've asked.

 

i'm gonna stop checking back on this thread, coz its making me want to kill myself.

 

What you need to do is go learn to be faithful and learn from your selfish mistake. Again i hope you follow your own advice(your sig)

 

Im not even about to teach a 21 year old about loyalty and love.Go ask your mother.

 

You can love as many people as you like, so long as all parties are aware of it and consent it. It's called Polyamory.

 

Ha. My mom was cheated on.

 

figures why her son has a corrupted mind.