i'm cheating on my boyfriend....

Cheaters never win.

 

i read this entire thread and have one thing that hasn't been said yet....


if you burn your bf i hope he slaps the fuck out of you and knocks a tooth out.

 

What? Oh, different gorilla. lol

 

the cool one. :coolgleamA:

 

I cannot be bothered to read anything below this post, I am really wankered

but Gorilla, you have a habit of sprouting crap at times and this is no exception. That is the biggest pile of shit I have ever read.


For anyone under the influence, love is not dead. Please don't cheat.

 

I see what Vanilla Gorilla is saying, but living a lie isnt cool for anyone. What about if they have kids? suicide depression etc is what breeds from lies & lack of trust and unhappy people fucking each other up n over left right n centre isnt a future that anyone wants surely?
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look at the kinda people ur talking about ones who listen to others and dont follow there heart, well love go ahead if u wanna be one of them.
Im just wondering exactly why she wants this man as a husband? is it cause his gunna be a good provider perhaps..
If u love him, let him be free to find a good woman who respects him.
Tell him, and just maybe he can learn to live wiv other men in your life-
whatever you do just be careful when dealing wiv humans, we may look tuff on the outside but peoples emotions can be fragile

 

Did you post this in the free-love section because you expected us to not think you're a whore? Free love is a beautiful thing sleeping casually with others and sharing love with them. Under no circumstances is cheating okay. You made a commitment and a promise to another person by entering a relationship. Unless it's an open relationship this is terribly bad. Have some consideration for the one your with, but anyways Karma will get you.

Anyways i'm not being very constructive so I'll tell you one thing, why don't you leave your bf for this new guy. Your bf can find someone who will keep faithful to him and you can start a new fresh relationship with this new guy. Let yourself fall for him and move on. Stop hurting someone who has done nothing to deserve it.

 

*cues applause*

 

Im stuck with this. I wanna call you a bad person but then again I dont. the only bad in this is that he doesnt know.

when the sex is weak in the relationship, its really tough not to go elsewhere just to be pleased. I know you love your man but you gotta talk to him about changing up your sex life a bit. Some people think its a fantasy that they are sleeping with another.

Or you still wanna have fun and not be committed. I dont care what anyone else says but sex plays a major role in the relationship, and if its not pleasurable to both sexes, problems will occur.

you're not a whore. slut or any of that. You're a 21 year old girl. Fuck. A lot of young girls do this. They love but some dont really really know what that love is until they see it, you havent seen it yet. Otherwise, youll be talking and being open to him about spicing up the sex life.

Dont fall for whom youre sleeping with now. the relationship is based on only sex, you'll lose in the end.

take my advise please and talk to him, and if you are not pleased, then you know what to do hun.

 

I agree too but I'm not sure I like him or not to being with since I don't know him.

 

I think this shit is stupid really. would you want the dude doing that stuff to you man? come on now. especially if you 'want things to work out' you must not actually be in love huh? shit isn't a gaeme, if you were really in love you would be satisfied i believe, unless you were in some sort of relationship where your lover knew he didn't satisfy you and respected your wishes to be pleased by another

infidelity unless otherwise consented by the main lover is not cool sucker

 

On one hand, you are doing something horrible and irreconcilable. You are incredibly selfish. My impulses are pushing me to say more about this but I don't think I can really say anything that hasn't been said, as my sentiments are echoed by most of the posts in this thread.

On the other hand,

this is totally true. I can't speak from first hand experience, but if I did what I said would be biased by my own positive or negative experiences.

I'm speaking based on my observations. The majority or people in relationships, male or female, cheat, at least the young ones do anyway. This is the sad truth. This is one of many reasons why i am a very cynical person.

It is amusing though that the vast majority of people in relationships will also fiercely condemn anyone who admits to or is found guilty of cheating.

And I'll be the first to admit that I don't know what I would do if I had not been such a social failure and had been able to be in relationships. I hate to admit it but I would very likely cheat myself, though since I've never had the opportunity the idea that I could be capable of something like that sounds ridiculous. Emotionally I feel like I could never do this, but following pure logic I know I'm more or less as susceptible to my own selfish impulses as any other human being.

 

It's people like you that make life suck.

 

okay look,
my boyfriend and i have nothing in common, i'm with him because i do love him and i have loving feelings for him. he is a great provider and my parents love him and his parents love me.
i am really hurt by what everyone said because, well, i do actually care what people think.
i really appreciate vanilla and stacy lu for trying to understand.
I have already talked to my bf about our bedroom issues and we are trying to spice things up but its still not working for me. i guess when i say i want things to work out with him, because we just moved in together and he loves me.
i've gone through months on anxiety, panic attacks and insomnia recently and its been very difficult, my boyfriend hasnt understood at all and has been more unhelpful than loving and supportive. but he did stand by me and he tried. I think i am trying to make myself think that we will work out in the end even though he doesnt make me happy in so many ways?

so i have decided to tell him that things are getting very complicated for me and i need some time to figure things out.

and with my secret lover, well, he is like my dream guy, we have everything in common and i'm falling for him. but i dont trust him and he had previously said that he didnt want a relationship.
last night he confessed that he had changed his mind and wanted to be with me.
now i am fucking confused. i really dont want to do the wrong thing by anyone, but of course i have done something awful, i admit.
i think i need some time NOT in a relationship to figure out what exactly i do want. it has been a long time since i have spent a substantial amount of time single. (since i was 14) ugh.
i just want to love everyone and yes that makes me sooo incredibly selfish, but how is loving someone selfish?
ahh god... i'm fucked in the head, arent i?

 

If guys dont cheat, why are there so many brothels around, in your country, my country, theres one of those places every mile or so in urban areas servicing hundreds of guys a night

If girls dont cheat how do guys like Charlie Sheen get up to 5000+, and the ones like him, you dont have to be famous for that, just be in that top 3%

Why the gender bias on this issue? If her boyfriend is unsatisfied, he goes and sees a hooker on an extended lunch break, no drama, tells his workmates - high five "did she let you blow over her titties?"

This girl is unsatisfied, has to search high and low for an alternative, deal with the guilt and then when she talks about it to her girlfriends gets labelled a whore for the most part.


Relationships are about trust and honesty? Bullshit....the truth is, if she told the truth, went to her boyfriend and told him she is doing another guy cos she doesnt get horny enough with him and its going to stay that way till he gets better at it and gets some abs, he'd break up with her cos he got his ego massively bruised not because of some crap about commitment.

With this issue, as with just about every issue concerning sex, humans always hide the main reason for getting angry

 

Trouble is sweetie, you secret lover is probably the type of guy that has at least a dozen girls around him wanting the same deal you do (did), pursue a relationship with him and you are going to have to share..........but you already know this

 

i do know this.
i dont trust him. but he is fun to be around. he says he doesnt get much girl action at all. but what can i believe? he admitted to me that he lies....
so i think its best i just take a little break from my boyfriend and see how things go on my own.

 

I have generalized anxiety disorder, so I know panic attacks suck but that is NO excuse for your behavior.

My mum has no clue whatsoever, on how to deal with my anxiety problems. She freaks out, does the exact opposite of what she should, and extends my panic attacks. (She was having an argument with me during the one, a very heated and personal argument, and I had a panic attack, I was on the floor, choking cause I couldn't breathe, and she was still yelling at me.)

You know what I did?
Hated her for about a half hour and then went to talk to her about it. She said she didn't know what she was doing, she just saw me (first time she witnessed one) and it only made her more frustrated cause she couldn't do anything for me.
She hasn't yelled at me during one since, but somehow, she always seems to make it worse - you know what I do?

Understand. Make sure I leave her if she's around at the onset of one. I haven't had one lately, but I've been teaching her about GAD

And when I get a chance, I'll see a counselor with her and see if he can help her with it.

Okay, now that that's done with.




Simply because you aren't accepting responsibility for this situation, you need to hear the nasty side of the truth.

Translation: he's the type of guy I could spend my life with, but he isn't for me, I'm using him so I have someone to spend my life with.

Sounds like my first translation was pretty good.
Translation: he isn't making me happy, but I'm too selfish and afraid I won't find someone else to really commit to me, to dump him

Translation: I already know it's not going to work out but I need him to be there just in case.

 

hahaha. f u duck.... thats fucking hilarious... are us girls that easy to read for you?

 

No. Extremely common behaviors and justifications such as yours are.




It's funny, you only thanked the people that were super nice to you.
You're acting like I'm wrong just 'cause I disagree with you.

Clearly none of this is your fault. I give up. I feel really, really sorry for this guy - and I feel sorry for you that you don't.




Oh, and you seem to have missed my edited post, so, for your conveinence:
I have generalized anxiety disorder, so I know panic attacks suck but that is NO excuse for your behavior.

My mum has no clue whatsoever, on how to deal with my anxiety problems. She freaks out, does the exact opposite of what she should, and extends my panic attacks. (She was having an argument with me during the one, a very heated and personal argument, and I had a panic attack, I was on the floor, choking cause I couldn't breathe, and she was still yelling at me.)

You know what I did?
Hated her for about a half hour and then went to talk to her about it. She said she didn't know what she was doing, she just saw me (first time she witnessed one) and it only made her more frustrated cause she couldn't do anything for me.
She hasn't yelled at me during one since, but somehow, she always seems to make it worse - you know what I do?

Understand. Make sure I leave her if she's around at the onset of one. I haven't had one lately, but I've been teaching her about GAD

And when I get a chance, I'll see a counselor with her and see if he can help her with it.