I'll be sleeping with other gals soon...

My name is Leo, I'm 22 and new here and nice to meet all y'all.

Anyways to the topic, I have been with my gal for almost two years now, for me it's been hard. She's a wonderful girl, nice, very smart (not too much commen sense however), beautiful, also she has a nice pair of DDDs so that's always nice . Anyways for me it's been hard sexually. Before I got into the dating game I was a bit of a man whore, I mean that quite literarily. I spent some time as a gigolo among other things. I'm not a sex addict, however I have an insanely strong sex drive. As such it takes is toll. My girl has a decent sex drive herself, however it is mine that has led to much stress and fights, not physical more emotionl as she gets upset with herself and me that she can't satify me.

During the past few months we have discussed the possibility of me having a few girls on the side to keep me sated. Today we finally decided to give it ago. Now understand this, I would NEVER EVER cheat on her, I'm a firm believer in honestly and trust. However that's the whole reason we have been talking about this. I truly believe it will help us long term, yes there may be some bumps short term. But I think this will work, I'll admit I'm not made for a relationship, however when you fall in love those things really don't matter.

I would be lying if I said I'm not looking forward to it, I'm a guy of course I am.
However I myself am worried, I love this girl, yes I realize that this may hurt her, but a little bit of hurt is better then what's going on now. The stress has taken it's toll on both of us, and we are trying together to fix it.

Has anyone else had or heard of a problem similar to this? Even if not what are your thoughts?

Please no flaming post calling me a pig or something like that, I love this girl and she I, so were trying to fix stuff.

 

I don't get it. Hurting her is better than your having some stress?!? Or did I misread your post? Have you ever heard of jacking off.

Surely you're trolling.

 

Yep It's A Love And Sex First Post, Totally Trolling...



Cheers Glen.

 

Well that was fast lol no not trolling, kind of hoped to become active in this community without being called a troll right away, however it was expected lol. Anyways the stress goes both ways, it effects her more then me actually. I'm the one who has to bundle my frustration in order to comfort and calm her down. As for jacking off yes I learned that when I was a kid buddy. Also yes a first post very amazing huh? I don't troll, it's annoying. Plus whoever would take the time to Come up with such a story as mine really has no life.

Anyways back on topic, we have discussed this for quite a while now and both believe it's worth a shot. However yes of course there will be mixed feeling for everyone. That's how it is.

 

What if she says that she is feeling really bad after a while. Would you consider stopping?

 

Of course. As I said we have discussed this for a while, I would never do it with out her okay to begin with, I made that clear. To be perfectly honest it was her idea from a while back. It's only in the past couple months I have been giving it real thought. So we talked and decided why not give it a try? She's smart and able to discuss things like an adult. To be honest I am sometimes too honest and straight forward. Thankfully though she doesn't mind. She however is my first concern, has been since I met her. But she thinks I should but myself first sometimes as well. So were trying it. But yes if she wants to stop of course I will. Sex is sex but a person you love and have a real connection with is quite rare.

 

So is she also going to have the freedom to sleep with other guys? Surely it would be okay with you if it is okay with her.

 

a friend of mine said she was ok with her man having sex with others and they spent ages talking about it, then when it happened my friend couldnt take seeing her man get dressed up and go out with another woman, she said it broke her heart and that though she thought it was ok she never knew what it would be like after he had been with another woman, her words were it screwed her up emotionally

 

Of course not. I'll admit I have a double standard. It's not fair to me to think like that yes, but that's how I am. Plus it's not like she's ever unsatisfied, I have a rule that she always gets hers before mine anyway.

But yes I'll admit I have that same double standard many men have.

 

Honestly that is what I am afraid of. The whole reason I have not even discussed it when she brought it up was for that reason.

 

You shouldn't talk about "common sense" with other people.
If you deem that someone doesn't have common sense then you deem them to live by the same values and agenda you personally do and buddy, many people won't.

 

youre quite nice irminsul

 

I'll say she doesn't have common sense I want, she knows she doesn't lol. It's an ongoing joke between us, she even agrees she has a total lack of common, speaking of course in a general sense of the term. Anyways as far as values go, we indeed do have the same values. Having that helps in getting along IMO.

 

Are you sure it's a joke to her? Man, I'm not the best person to give advice to anyone on anything, but I know a lot of people are too reserved to speak up when words hurt them. I know this is off topic, but I can't imagine someone not being hurt by a loved one saying that they don't have common sense - even in jest.

 

Yes I'm sure. Even her family and friends say it. Part of the joke being that she may be smarter then me (and she is) but I have the commen sense.

A joke is a joke for a reason.

 

I get what you're saying now.

 

I think it's horrible that you hang on to a double standard. I think you'd both be better off if you didn't act like you own her.

 

Yes I do own her, yep it's the 1700s and all women are pretty much slaves?

Really? Really??? Where in my post did I say ANYTHING to come off as controlling, was it the fact that she always ALWAYS come first? Or maybe it was when I mentioned I always make sure she has her O not only first but more then once? (I think I mentioned it), haha or was it that BECAUSE I'm so good to her is the whole reason she even is willing to do it. Hell she brought it up in the first place, and It took me 3 or so months to even accept the idea enough to discuss the idea with her. Two more months to decide to do it.

Yes that truly sounds like I'm an insensitive controlling guy, surrre does huh?

Sorry for the rant, it's just very annoying being seen as "a bad guy" just because I agreed and this this is an idea that may help.

Lol it's even more annoying then being called a troll. I hate both those things, stupid annoying pricks who post pointless stupid threads, and idiotic guys who control women to clearly make up for whatever shortcomings they have.

Again sorry for the ranting.

 

So she doesn't satisfy you, has no common sense (according to you) and has agreed to let you go off sleeping with others to make you a happy man... Yep, you might be right about the lack of common sense thing,,, Or,,,,
Ok open marriages do happen, it's nothing new but it's usually a two way street and in my understanding the couple doesn't last long. Why? ----Because they don't satisfy each other---. Eventually one or the other does find someone who will and the marriage is dead anyway. Unless it's about kink and there are threesomes brought into it maybe.
I think an open marriage is just that, permission by both to sew some new oats and see what happens. You have to let her do the same. It's only fair. (ikkkk, I can imagine the run of diseases here, get the petri dish this should be fun) You don't own her, you don't even get what you want or need from her. Why pen her up and run the rounds yourself while she sits and waits for a bad result?
You are either trolling or You don't have common sense. Its what I am reading here anyway.
I am thinking a big part of the reason she doesn't satisfy you is because you don't satisfy her. Women are not stupid. We know how to get what we want and offer it back when it comes to sex so it keeps coming our way too. If the one you are with doesn't in your mind then it's probably you who is the problem.
Seriously,,, if I am not satisfied, I will have a hard time satisfying someone else. Sorry if I just made you realize your dick is too small,,,, Oooops, I guess I can be a troll too, Whoda thunk it,,, hahahahahaha.

 

Have you read everything I have said? Clearly not, because if so you would not accuse me of doing the opposite of everything I actually do. As for last statements, lol well none of that is a problem at all. Also I don't know about others, but even a girl who is "good" at faking is easy to tell.

Anyone who can't tell when a women orgasms is just dumb, or does not have many senses himself.

I could go on and about how I make sure I satisfy my partners, but really I don't see the point. But please Sally at least read to gain an insight about me before you needless insult me, it's quite annoying.

Oh also she didn't agree, I DID. Again please be educated on my post and what kind of person I am before you assume things.