Ii a sexless life worth living?

I think I could live in a strictly companion relationship, maybe. I mean its stupid to think there's no point in living if there's no sex.

 

Yes, I would :sunny:

 

sure. the invention of internet porn certainly makes it easier.

 

as long as ur happy, sex don't make u happy, nor do drugs, only for the short term, tru happiness can be achieved without any of those things of the world, you can be happy all by urself, but sex is a choice, there's always gonna be access, it's a choice to be made depending on your particular situation, and can always be obtained for the right price if no other way. Of course you usually get what you pay for and free is always the best, just like with everything else in this world.

 

It certainly is worth living as long as you make it so. It all depends on how you look at things. I'll be 40 in a few years, and I'm still a virgin. Am I bitter about it? No. Do I want to have sex? Of course. But I'd rather remain a virgin until I was an old man and had sex with the right girl than lose my virginity right now to someone I didn't have a solid bond with.

Now, this doesn't mean I live a so-called "sexless" life, either. Again, it depends on how you look at it. I've been in physical relationships where I've experienced sexual things. I just haven't actually had sexual intercourse. I've been in online relationships where I've experienced sexual things. Those instances are better described as "cybersex", but it's still a sexual activity when two parties can't be with each other physically. Let me say, it's amazing with the right partner because it becomes much more than masturbating alone when your romantic partner(or at least those with whom you can connect on a decent level, and share mutual respect) is a part of the experience.
And then there is, of course, porn. That would be masturbation but why not? It all starts with loving yourself, not just rubbing yourself for the sake of achieving orgasm. Make love to yourself instead of just fucking yourself. You have to have a good relationship with yourself before you can have a good relationship with someone else.

There are bigger things in life than sex that will make you feel like you've hit the rock bottom. That is when the purpose of your very existence is being dismissed by something that is way bigger than you. I've experienced this, and I can assure you I'd rather have a sexless life than go through that hell again.

Be well.

 

I guess I just don't see it that way. I think we are born with an instinctive need to have sex just as we are to eat food and drink. If you don't fill that need then things start to go wrong.

Half the people on this planet are female. I am surrounded by them on a daily basis and I've never had a connection with any of them. I have no idea what they feel like what they smell like or taste like nothing. It's almost like they are alien beings to me and I hate that.

 

I find hard to believe that you have no sexual experience, I mean if you REALLY wanted it like you describe you could have always paid for sex.
Anyway, to answer your question, sex is not worth dying for and thats for sure. Living without it can be hard, but many famous people died as virgins.

 

Yes life would be worth living without sex! There are many other things I love like playing music that I can get lost in. Saying that though I would never want to be in a relationship with someone that did not have a fullfilling sex life. I was pretty much there in the past and was not a very happy guy. Now that I am with someone and do have an amazing sex life with them i could never go back to being with someone who was not interested in that. I would rather be alone.

 

Yes.

 

Yeah, I probably could. Doesn't mean it wouldn't be frustrating for me.

If all you need is sex, go to prostitute.
If all you need is love, try to find it and don't worry about the sex side.

Ha! So they do make you happy! You probably can't imagine how much this short period of happiness can mean for someone who have felt like shit whole life. Easy to say such things from happy-person-point-of-view.

 

The biological function of sexual intercourse is to reproduce. That's basically why we get the urge to have sex. It's the nature's way of telling you to make babies. Not making babies doesn't automatically mean things have to start going wrong. I mean, explain to me what exactly goes wrong?

OK, and what have you done to improve your situation? Women are everywhere but that doesn't mean anything really. At the end of the day, what matters the most is whether or not you have something special about yourself that they might find attractive. For one thing, it sounds like you're way fixated on sex. That isn't attractive in my opinion. It's totally fine to be sexual. But it's not healthy if it becomes an obsession. I've talked to a lot of girls in my life, and the general consensus is that they appreciate it when guys don't just look at them and automatically see them as potential sex partner. There's a difference between regarding them as beautiful, sexual beings and simply regarding them as pieces of meat.

Get to know them. They have way more to offer than just what they have between their legs. They have very interesting ideas, and can make wonderful friends. Be comfortable, laid-back, and confident about your virginity. Anyone who thinks any less of you upon hearing you're a virgin is shallow in my opinion, and thus not worth your time and effort. I've told many girls about my own virginity, and the majority of them actually think it's kind of cool that I'm still a virgin. With the right attitude, virginity can be an attractive thing...as strange as it may seem, lol.

Once you reach the point where you can connect with them on a fairly decent level, then something romantic just might develop with someone. You'd fall in love, and it would be a mutual thing. Then things might progress in the sexual direction and you might, or might not, make love. But at least your focus would be on love, not sex. Eventually, you'll meet the right girl for you and you'll lose your virginity. But until then, I wouldn't really worry about sex too much if I were you.

 

I'm now in a sexless / non physical contact marriage.
We don't seem to have any conversations after getting into bed on the nights I'm not working, no physical contact during the daytime & the only time we kiss is if I give my wife one.
It seems as thou we are now just friends that sleep in the same bed & share the house together with our 2 adult members - son & daughter. . My wife is well asleep when I arrive home from work late at night when I've been working.
Even when we both go to bed at the same time at nights, my hand is not wanted on any part of her body. I could even possibly go to bed nude if I wanted to & she wouldn't even take any notice of me.
So I feel unloved & just a piece of the furniture. My female co workers even show more affection towards me than my wife does. We have been married for nearly 30 yrs now & now things have gone from a good life to a crappy one.
Sometimes I feel like I want a new friendship / relationship with a different woman who I can get on well with all the time.

 

Not really, Im 51 and still a virgin, mainly because I'm painfully shy and struggle talking to women, Life is lonely and many days I suffer horrible depressions with no one to talk to about or share my feelings with, The thought of having sex has become the single most important thought in my head but knowing its so far out of reach just makes the depressions worse, And most of the people that think life would be just fine without sex have spent their lives having sex, so i dont think they are qualified to vote

 

for some amount of time, maybe, but forever...don't think so, can't go out of this world without experiencing everything you want experience.

 

Hi Ancient Virgin !
Send me a private message if you want to talk about anything you don't want to discuss in threads. I'm just slightly older than you & it took me a while to find a partner. She may not be as good as I hoped she would be at sex but sometimes you get good things in some ways & negatives also.

 

Your shyness and depression need to be dealt with first and foremost in my opinion. I believe you need to first love who you are before you get out there and make yourself available to others in a romantic sense. I sort of touched on the self improvement concept with gnj1958, and I feel like I should elaborate on it a little more.

Like I said, the first thing you may consider improving is your mental well-being. You've stated that you suffer from depression. This needs to be dealt with. I personally would try the holistic approach if I were you, as it tends looking to your lifestyle from various angles and aims to improve your life as a whole. In my opinion, that seems more favourable than simply getting some anti-depressant meds prescribed by a shrink.

Your shyness may be overcome with a number of factors. Again, the holistic treatment involves bringing peace to your currently troubled mind and soul, as well as improving your overall physical health. The more self-confidence you (re)gain, the easier it will become to interact with others. Exercising regularly is another good way to boost your self-confidence as you will enjoy visible results if you do it correctly, and are patient enough. Find what you're good at, and be proud that you're good at it. It could be anything: artistic skills, deep knowledge in something, sports, etc. The key here is to find something that is attractive about you, and to push them outward so that people get to actually notice you via those aspects.

As for the obsession toward sex... Honestly, if SEX is the only thing you're looking for, then find a prostitute right now and be done with it. But if sex WITH SOMEONE YOU LOVE/CARE ABOUT is what you want, then you might want to first improve yourself. Frankly speaking, I'll be your age in a little more than 10 years, and spending those extra years as a virgin really doesn't sound like a big deal to me. I don't think I have a particularly low libido, but perhaps I do. I like to think that my sex drive skyrockets when I'm romantically involved with someone. I'm a hopeless romantic so the idea of sex doesn't really appeal to me unless it's with someone I have special feelings for. And that's essentially why I'm still a virgin. I've also turned my back on sex in the past because I loved the person, too. Like I said to gnj1958, it all depends on how you look at things, where your focus is on, that sort of thing. And trust me, with the right attitude, you can make even your virginity appear attractive. BUT, if you're so hung up on sex, then girls won't dig it.

All the best.

 

lol what if ghandi got poon

 

I thought he had a wife and kids.