if you were......

I would love to wear one of those bikinis but i refuse to wear a two piece until i get rid of all my stretch marks and baby fat. I would vomit if i saw myself in the mirror wearing a bikini and i dont want to put anyone through the trauma of seeing me in a two piece.

 

How sad. You are beautiful. Stretch marks are natural things... I don't get why there's such a big deal made about them. I wish...

 

No.

So which is it? Are you looking for honesty, or are you looking for a love-fest?

Sounds to me like you're looking for abuse.

 

word, even I have stretch marks and I've never had a kid! They're funky, they're part of me (though I do hope they fade a bit over time... not necessarily disappear but they're just so red in spots right now)

Give you a second look? Yeah... but mostly because you look so sad in a lot of your pics... your eyes always seem so sombre, so quiet and withdrawn <3

 

Have you had a dig around in the contributors section?http://galleries.wickedweasel.com/contributors/
There are a lot of women there who are not "perfect" but are beatiful none the less because they are happy with themselves and that shines through.
Sounds to me you have a major self confidence problem, stemming from societies fucked up view that women (and men to a lesser extend) who are not perfect should be looked down upon and are best of to hide themselves away.
This is bullshit and should be exposed as such, however I am not saying that we should accept obesity. Obesity is a life threating problem and people who suffer from it should seek help to get themselves back on track.
And what excactly is wrong with stretch marks? They are just part of normal life and all those gossip magazines which love to point out strech marks on celebrities have a lot to answer for. I betcha a lot of females who work for these crap mags have stretch marks themselves.
Perhaps you should get yourself a micro bikini and learn to be happy about yourself.
Also remember if you are really down you should get some help, you might be suffering from depression.

 

i would deffinately take second look if i was walking past you... but i second look alot of girls when i walk past them... just so i can check out their booty

 

I have shocking stretch marks on my inner and outer thighs, and although they have faded, they make my thights look... bumpy and uneven, like cellulite in a way

 

YOU would be self conscious too if you had huge white stretch marks all over your stomach, thighs, hips, and calfs. year they have faded but like retro said they make my stomach and legs look bumpy and gross. and i appreciate your comment on how i should just get a bikini and learn to be happy with myself you are such a wonderful person for saying that.

"HUGS"

 

At the end of the day you do what you are comfortable with, if that means hiding away because society has decided anyone who is not perfect should not be able to wear this or that, then so be it.
What about tanning? Perhaps not the traditional skin cancer causing fry up but a good quality instant tan product.
To me stretch marks, saggy breasts, ceasarian scars and alll the other things that are not supposed to be seen in public are signs of a natural woman.
It's like breast feeding in public, I am mature enough to realise that this is completley natural but a shitload of people do not.
You have some stretch marks, so what. What about women who have had a breast removed due to cancer? Or someone with a huge birth mark?
You just got to learn that beaaty comes from within and only shallow people worry about "imperfections".
So go on get a skimpy bikini and go to a family beach where there are tons of imperfect people enjoying their right to be at the beach.
Lastly if you wear a skimpy, see through bikini I don't think too many people will be looking at your stretch marks

 

I think you're beautiful, FallenFairy.

 

Yeah, especially if that is her very feminine breast in the photo...........down boy......bad boy mustn't look at naked women.........well maybe just a quick look........nooooo.......muuusssttt controoool myself...........too late......splatter splatter all over computer monitor, keyboard and mouse.......what a mess

 

While on the subject of women.

Did you know that the term woman came from Adam, after God created Eve he was not too sure what to call his latetest creation.
Anyway, when Adam saw Eve he said "Wooh man, well done" so God thought "Woohman.........hmmnh I like that" and it kinda stuck ever since. So if you ever wonder which is the superior one consider than man is just man but the female is wooh man.
OK OK enough silly buggers back to telling wooh men that they are wooh.

 

no that is not my breast in my sig pic. my mother sent that to me in an email and i thought it was too cute so i made it my sig.

 

If you're not happy with yourself, then change. Work out.

If you're not motivated to work out and change yourself, then you'll continue to wallow in a pool of your own self-pity, and that's far more unattractive than stretch marks and fat.

No. I'm not being a bitch. I'm speaking of myself. I used to be a tank. And I'm still overweight. But I'm working on it. And now I almost have self-esteem. Every time I hear somebody say, "Hey, Lena.. you've lost a lot of weight, huh? You're looking really cute nowadays," I feel just a little bit better.

To answer your question: Would I want to see you naked? Not particularly.

Work out. Lose weight. Gain self-esteem. People will give you second, third looks.

Before I get lambasted for being an insensitive ****... She asked for it. I gave my two cents.

 

thank you for your honesty i appreciate it. i have been working out and losing weight and like you said i am feeling a bit more confident in myself. and i dont think your being an insensitive **** your just telling it how it is.

 

I am the only insensitive **** in the village!!!!!!!!!
(you would've had to have watched the british comedy series Little Britain to get that )
So anyway Lena are we going to see that fat ass of yours or not?
The rest of you looks pretty good but I think we will be the judges of who is fat and who is not. There are apparently anorexic stick figures out there who, when they look in the mirror, think that they are fat/overweight.

 

aha is that a butt crack I see?

Anyways, you like like you have an average build ..... don't feel down about how you look, even though most of us women do, especially after having a couple of kiddies.

You face is also cute IMO. You look kind and that's what matters!

 

((((hugs)))) I am so terribly sorry that bastard has put doubts in your head about how beautiful you are. And you really are incredibly beautiful. But that doesn't matter at all if you don't believe it. Really beautiful women *feel* beautiful, they exude an aura of self-confidence, and they glow from within. You can get that back. It's not easy, but it is possible. You have the outer beauty, all you need to work on is the inner kind. Be nice to yourself. Love yourself, even the parts of you that you feel are flaws. Stretch marks never go away, they can fade, but they will always be there. Wear them proudly as badges of the accomplishment of carrying and giving birth to your beautiful child. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Don't let anyone, ANYONE, make you feel bad about yourself. You know he lies to you, so don't listen to anything he has to say. You don't have to wear a bikini if you don't want to. Find clothes that make you feel beautiful, that show off your assets. Me, personally, I don't much like having humongous boobs, but I do like the reactions I get when I wear a really low cut shirt, makes me feel special. What makes you feel special?

 

I really dont like having these big huge boobs but until i stop breastfeeding these things are with me until then.the only thing i like about myself physically are my eyes so what makes me feel "special" is when i wear eye liner and body spray and that is very very very rarely cuz there is never a reason for me to do so since shane doesnt notice and i never go out.

 

I know for myself it is easy to feel sexy if I put a little time and effort into it .... go out and get a petticure, buy some sexy underwear, new perfume or whatever makes you feel special!