If you have ever wondered about this?

When I was chatting with transgender women on various dating sites, depending on who I was talking to, the women would complain that few guys were bottoms (or tops) or else they would complain that too many guys were bottoms (or tops). It seemed that whatever they were looking for there weren’t enough of them. So I was curious about these roles and how many people classified themselves on their sexual role. One site allows searches based on sexual role and the results were interesting.

Transgender women:
Top 5.0%
Vers 41.6%
Bottom 53.4%

Men seeking transgender women:
Top 40.3%
Vers 53.1%
Bottom 6.6%

As you can see it kind of balances out. Roughly there are about as many top transgender women as there are bottom guys.

 

I was joking about the thread title. I am pretty sure no one other than myself has ever wondered about this.

I would be interested in a general survey as well but I can’t find anything on the internet. Myth meets fact would be an interesting collision!

 

I enjoy being versatile. I find it more pleasurable to keep my options open and go with flow.

 

KathyL nailed it when she said I was straight above the waist and gay below the waist. A gay bottom at that. I don’t understand why I find it so fulfilling but it’s all I ever want. With my girl, we are a perfect match because all she wants is to fuck.

 

Yes...what she said in that regard was spot on...and I cracked a big grin when I read that, LOL!

Coming from a versatile bi guy...this is how I am...

When I top...I am not a dominate top. When I bottom...I am not a submissive.
I've said this more than once today, but I believe a good top knows what it's like to be a bottom.
I see things differently in the way that...since I know how it feels to bottom, as in the physical euphoria as well as actual pain at times...I take that into consideration when I top. What feels good and what doesn't...is it the depth, or is it the speed of the stroke...is it the way he or she moves their hips...are they kissing my neck or biting it...

I consider these things when it's me topping a bottom. As a top...I'm a sensual top. I want my bottom to feel "loved"...not dominated! In the same respect, when I bottom, I don't want to be dominated and will speak up and say so. The moment I start getting slapped, spit on or degraded...it's not going to end well.

 

My girl is dominant but not in a degrading way. She likes to feel in control and she wants things a certain way so she can cum - she can be kind of picky that way. She does like to pinch and slap my ass and put her hands on my neck and she doesn’t fuck gently that’s for sure. However I never feel as though she is abusing me and I kind of like it that she’s a little rough.

She is a small woman and I am a big guy so it’s not like she has the capability of hurting me or overpowering me physically. Whatever she does, I allow her to do. I kind of get off on my sexual submission to her and she kind of gets off on it too.

 

Every women has her own sexual ways...............

 

The top/bottom sexual role thing needs to go away.

It's so liberating how the queer community rejects the gender binary, but, man, so many people are downright entrenched in the sexual role binary.

I'm what they call a side. Not top, not bottom, but everything else. I'm kinky, sensual, and sexually adventurous. Top or bottom to me is such a narrow and boring view of sex. The best lovers I've ever had have been folks who also rejected the top/bottom dynamic.

 

I could not agree more.

I despise labels. Labeling people is putting them into confining boxes. They're not liberating, they're limiting. But worst of all, the divisions divide us, they separate us when the last thing we need is more separation.

When I was younger my friends and I simply enjoyed sex without troubling with lists of descriptors about who we were.

I miss that.