If You Are A Confident Man, Why Are You So?

How come Muslims keep reproducing then?

 

I meant having sex before marriage. You know what I meant. Dating a girl doesn't mean you will marry her, does it?

 

Realize that every single person came from the same place as you, and will end up in the same place as you. Every single person has stupid fears, stupid habits, and stupid thoughts. Many people have it much worse than you. Instead of figuring out a way to put yourself on a pedestal to feel confident, realize that you can take everyone off of theirs, in your mind (and in real life if needed). This levels the playing field. Now what is confidence, except showing up and knowing that you are home?

 

But talking to women is. Maybe not for most muslims in your area but hey, you are blatantly putting it like those are the only people in your country. This is not true. It is an excuse. If you are only thinking about sex when you think about taking to a woman it is pretty clear that is part of the problem. It is blocking you. Most women will see right through you and that is why they are very right in their decision and behaviour about not talking to you. Even if they would be as horny as you (well, with you it seems pretty clear it is partly sexual frustration, which is also not helping) they do want something more than a guy with a stiff penis. What do you have to offer? How are you a fun or interesting guy to be with? Can you really blame them for not being interested in your current self?

In theory perhaps. I don't see it happening. It could be he places to much emphasis on the prevailing gender roles and expectations in his area. Like the guys around him all trying to talk to girls as he tells, so he thinks 'this is my best shot', 'this is how it's done here and I have to go with it to get a girl'. If he does not escape this mentality (which will never be working for him) he will die lonely and probably just have to resort to prostitutes. It's like that for some guys who are stuck in the mainstream perception of their surroundings. They can not look further even when the best advice is given to them. They have to 'get' the advice, and some will never get it. This is most likely also part of the reason he is perceived as stupid by the people around him: he has not developed his own thoughts, personality or mindset. It is just a clueless boy of 26 years old, who doesn't wanna know what it takes to become a confident guy with a developed personality.
It will always be the fault of society and of course the females, no matter if there are opposite examples to be find. To him every poor guy of average intelligence with low status who has a great woman just got very lucky. There is nothing to learn from them.

 

Yes. I have nothing to offer the opposite gender. I am 24 by the way. Why did you say 26?

 

Because I remembered wrong. But those 2 years doesn't matter.

You have nothing to offer AT THIS POINT. The world is not static, neither are you. The women you talk about see you are not changing anything on yourself. So can you blame women for their lack of interest then?

If you feel you have nothing to offer you should work on that. It IS that simple. The world is of everybody. Don't live and treat yourself as if you're a stupid loser that can't get what they really want. It is what is perpetuating your current situation. Be the chance you want to be. You want to flirt with every girl you see and they should filrt back? That's unrealistic. You want to be a fun guy to be with? Well, there's your answer.

 

so wait - you live in a very sexually conservative country and you complain about how you cant get laid? Perhaps you should either conform to the cultural norms in your country and find a nice girl to marry, or move to a liberal country.

 

Or move to a more liberal part of the country, IF you're really in such a conservative area (it's really quite a secular country at first, there's people with all kinds of lifes in Turkey). I don't think it would make much of a difference for OP though. Until he gains some insight. Insight, understanding yourself and others and being comfortable with yourself (not like a flasher), the rest will follow naturally.

 

...it's like he wants us to believe there are no single people dating and having sex in his country at all. Even if those people are the minority they still are doing it.

 

I meant having sex is not a normal thing to do when a girl and a guy date each other in Turkey. Turkey is not a western country. It is a muslim country that is in middle east. You guys seem to normalize for girls to have sex. How would you feel your sister has sex with a man to whom she will not marry and she will break up and start to date somebody else and has sex with other man too?

 

Shes a human being and she digs the cock, each to their own

 

What do you mean? I didn't get it

 

You asked me how i would feel if my sister slept with dudes she has no intention of marrying, thats my answer,

it was intended as a kind of verbal shrug.

 

ok i just figured it out:

the problem is not with turkey women all being prude and stuck up, the problem is actually that all men from turkey are gay. its really not their fault that every single male from that country is gay, its just the environment that they grew up in. they all drink inside their house, so they never get to go out and develope their personality. and they all have domineering mothers who tell them what to do.

damn, that really sucks for every single male of your country, oh well, i guess you have to play the cards your delt with, huh?

 

quick side note, i had a younger sister and when she started dating for some reason i had really bad feelings. when i got a little older i recognized that i was actually jelouse. now that we are both in our mid to late twenties its totally cool.

 

Gay? I don't see why you say it. I don't see any connection.

 

I know a woman where I live. she was walking hand in hand with a man and her brothers saw them hand in hand and she told him to run away or her brothers will kill him. He ran away. Her bothers are so conservative that they don't let her sister walk hand in hand with a man.

 

your from turkey right? every male from turkey is gay.

 

"not that theres anything wrong with it!"

for my seinfeld fans.