Do you give in to your wifes kinky desires ? My wife calls it "play gay". I call it " letting her do whatever she wants to me, if I can to have fantastic orgasms". Sucking her dildos, getting my ass fucked and made to cum all over my own face, gets her more excited and happy than anything else. While being slicked up with tons of lube and covered with my own cum is humiliating and messy, it isn't anything a shower can't take care of.
More power to both of you. I love making women happy but don't know if I could go as far as you do. I pretty much stop at rimming her asshole and licking cum out of her pussy. Maybe its because I'm a top at heart.
Just the opposite...My wife has given into, accepted, and enjoys my kinky side. We have a shared male lover over from time to time because she knows how much I enjoy sucking on his big cock and recently experienced the pleasures of him fucking me in the ass. She also gets really wet pegging the two of us while were 69 sucking each other, she fucks like a man with that strap-on hooked up.