I want to get dreads. (help/questions)

what about crocheting dreads? i just saw a few videos on youtube of people who did it, and it looks like dreads right after they get them, and also seems like it would be alot faster and basically make more sence to do because they are kind of knotted up already instead of just backcombed.

 

crochet doesnt knot more, it just pokes a hole into the lock and pulls the loose hair in. i find it best not to force hair to do things. loose hairs will eventually find the proper lock to stick to, it wont give you problems so you wont need to re maintenance since thats where the hair decided to lock to by itself.

with some work you can have temporary sausage-like locks. you will need to do it again in the future though if you want to keep that specific looking lock. the more you poke around in your lock the more you are pushing hair from where it wants to locks and the more chance you have of doing damage. be super gentle if you do it, a fellow posted not too long ago about how he ripped a chunk of the lock out trying that method.

simple things to remember:
-the more "maintenance" you do the more you damage your hair and the more chance you could break hairs. strong hair = strong locks = no locks falling off

-its hard (impossible?) to force hair to lock. this is why backcombing, crocheting and other methods usually start tight, get loose and then tighten by themselves before they begin to lock. this is also why we usually see people who did a loose backcombing job over a long period have a better experience than people who did a tight backcombing job in a short period of time.

 

ahha . new posts for the old ness!!!

so people say that salt water helps dreads tighten, so is there a difference then using like table salt or rock salt, instead of using sea salt. cause i saw sea salt stuff online and its like $18 for 4.2 fluidounces

and just a bit of an update. i havent talked to my mom in a while, but my friend whos a chick, said her boss has dreads, (i kinda wanna work there) so yeah if i do get them it would be good. and also, she wants to get dreads too, but i think she might try to just have ONE dread...? idk why. but she also said she would help me put them in. and her mom is good friends with my mom so im thinking maby she could talk some sence into my mom for me.

hello

 

I think the sea salt you're looking at is most likely the kind that is designed for fish aquariums, perhaps?

Regular sea salt can be bought in a grocery store or health food co op, walmart even has it here, and it costs only slightly more than normal salt. Its in the salt and spice section usually.

 

no, i believe it was like lush sea salt. it had like some oils and stuff added to it. for hair. Is there a difference then the two when you wash your hair with it (salt water)

 

Oh, I don't know about Lush.

When people are talking about sea salt they're talking about what I mentioned though, normal grocery store sea salt. It's no where near that expensive, as I said it's just slightly more than normal table salt.

Where do you live? Walmart has it here, but ALL health food stores, co ops and most grocery stores are going to.

 

yeah im sure its around here somewhere. i live in ohio and i know there is sea salt i just didnt know if there was a difference, cause people are like " go in the ocean salt water"

 

yeah just use normal sea salt from walmart that cost around a buck. Works fine. And using the deep cleanse shampoo works really well to help speed things up and keep them nice. Sea Salt,Lemon Juice,baking soda, and tea tree oil. All together it cost like 7 bucks at walmart and thats only cuz tea tree oil is around 4 to 5 bucks.

 

hmm. weird so tea tree oil you can buy just. plain. . . once i get dreads (hopefully) ill make a nice Goo full of salt baking soda and tea tree oil.... lol.

maby. maby not. but im lazy so i would just mix it all together.

 

yay for my old thread. ok well I thought id give another little update... I printed a little info paper off of dreadheadhq.com to show my mom. I thought it was working but I guess not. Basically my moms still being ignorant. I deffinatley "won" the argument/debate type thing. It branched off into a bunch of other stuff but basically she said I cant get them because they LOOK dirty. but what do I know, she probably just made that up as another excuse. Basically I related this to everything else, like how she says im not allowed to wear my Stone Temple Pilots shirt to school because it has an uncle sam skeleton on it Im fucking 16 almost 17 and shes worried about that shit. When people at school wear way worse stuff anyway and its still not even BAD. Oh yeah and she said I could get dreads when I turn 18 and dont live at home (well wtf, no crap I can because she cant controll me then anyway), and im sure she just said that so I stop talking about it, then I said ok and im getting piercings and my tattoos and she was like NO. but im going to anyway. Then she tried saying, I never get what I want because I never do what she tells me to do (I usually do), but then I basically said, that I never get what I want so why should I give you what you want. and then she said she gives me a roof over my head and food or what ever, and I said she has to, by law anyway. And she really doesnt either, she doesnt even work.

And she said something like.... I think it was basically that if I dont conform, then she failed me.

Thats basically what she said. And she also said if I have like a great girlfriend or something, and she likes dreads on me, then she is a bad person. Thats like a quote too, im not changing it around.

But shes still not trying to make me get my hair cut so eh. its not as bad as it could be. maby?

finally on the forums, they werent working for a while there.... i was worried

 

Usually I love a good rant but now I'm starting to feel bad for your mom. And she's right, once your not under her roof you can do whatver you want but as long as she's feeding you and buying your clothes you might as well give her a break. And chances are once you are 18 you might still have to live with your mom due to how expensive moving out/dorming is and even then you'll have to listen to her ( unless you get a job and pay for your own food, bills, and rent for your room.) I hate to be a ball buster but mom's are allowed to be bitches becuase they squeezed you out of their vaginas and that shit hurts I heard.

 

i have a good rant for you mom
mom, youve only failed me if you dont encourage merto be my own person, and follow my heart and do what i wish to do.. if i live my life full of regrets because i bent to the wishes of everyone ariound me and never once did thiongs on my own terms then that would be my failure, this is something i must do, for me, not for you
im not doing it to defy you, but i only ask you to try to understand and be supportive
everyone reaches a point in theyre life when they must follow theyre heart and stop living theyre life to please othgers
when you were young didnt you date someone your parents disagreed with,k didnt you make choices that were yours alone not theyres?
if you lived your life exactly as was expected would you be happy with yourself today?

i dont expect you to love every choicve i make, after all your choices would and should be different then mine, but i do have to ask that you respect my choices and since they harm noone i see no reason why i should be denied my right to chose.


think about this a momment, years from now when im older and have lived on my own for years what sort of relationship would you hope to see me in? one where my partner and i shgare equaly in every decision and respect eachothers choivces, or would you rather i was in one where my partner pulled all the strrings made every decision for me

this right now is preparing me for the life i have latyer..i must be alowed to make my choices..and my mistakles learn from them and live my life otherwise your teaching me to just bend to the will of everyone else, be spineless never stand up for what i beloueve in...and if those are the values you wish to tweach me then yes maybe you are failing me, but i know thats not your intention at all, this is just something you dont understand..and thats ok, the choice is personal and only i need to understand
all you need to know is its important to me and to respect that


dont argue sdont get into a back and forth you never let me... thing..just sit her down tell her u got something to say and u want her to hear you out all the way through wiythjout interuptions
and if she starts to argue after... just stop..simply say..think about it a few days and we'll continue this then..and dont bring it up again for 3-4 days

 

lol I know, but im sure my dad doesnt care as much. shes way to much of a control freak. But all im saying is its not like I get what I want all the time this is the one think I want that you dont even have to pay for. And its just stupid as to why she says im not allowed to get them. And she said once im at college I can get them. My parents would still be paying for that so its dumb as fuck. Un-necessary waiting. I can have them in 1.5 years but not when I live at home. Theyre still going to be paying for my shit though.

 

Nice! but yeah. i dont see why she doesnt understand this already lol. Its not like i want dreads to piss her off. and lol at the thing about her parents disagreeing, becuase shes a hypocrite, she tells us that she wasnt raised, she was let to grow. as in my grandparents didnt stop them from doing anything. and i dont wanna sound like over exaggerated, but yet i live this caged life where I cant even do regular things that I want to do. She still trys to stop me from listening to uncensored music. Its garbage. Ill deffinatley use some stuff you gave me but im pretty sure my mom wouldnt even take in what im saying. BUT yeah. it seems like the more i talk about it the more she realizes that im right. Like the last time ^ when she said that she would fail me. I made sure to repeat everything to her so she can hear what shes saying, and how stupid she sounds. But anyway, the last time we talked about it was alot better then the time before when all she said was they are dirty and im not black. HAHA. i guess i was right, in predicting that she just makes up excuses as we go on because if you look at the last time we talked it involved more then just that. (But she did bring up the im not black and they look dirty) At what time, my brothers half black friend was over, so i decided to let him know what my mom said about me not being a ******. Then of course she didnt wanna look like a racist/predjuce bitch so she denied it. I had to. Just so she knows what she sounds like. And i believe that she shouldnt act like she "ok" black people outside our home then fucking be predjuice at home. Thats not cool. Its like living two lives. ahhhh. idk. im gonna stop tying for now.

 

what should i do, my moms telling me go get a hair cut. shes dumb. its kind of curly at the ends now, and i was like I LIKE MY HAIR CURLY. then shes like well then just cut the top. i said THEN ID HAVE A MULLET!

and honestly shes pretty stupid, shes like come on you always wanna try something new, and i was like?? YEAH DREADS!, not short hair. and then i was like... wtf and no I DONT always wanna try something new. i always want the same thing. LONG HAIR, but you always want me to have short hair.

and she always says some bull shit when she wants me to get my hair cut. like ohh you look so handsome with short hair. and just like. shut up no i dont. basically every hair cut i get she trys to persuade me by telling me i look great. when I know that I dont.


beef.

 

just stand your ground and dont get it cut. maybe when its longer she'll see it in a different light