i want to buy a sex doll to be my gf

hi, im Owen. i'm 39 and i live in california. i have a thin 4 inch penis and haven't had sex in 15 years. i am also a premature ejaculator, and because of these things i am intimidated and nervous near women. i don't feel comfortable trying to date anyone so i am planning on buying a silicon love doll to be my girlfriend. i think i will feel safe and comfortable with a doll instead of a woman. what do you think of my decision?

 

I can understand why that would be difficult for you, but from a female point of view...as long as you and her both have fun and get pleasure out of what your doing, size doesn't matter...and there's many other ways women feel pleasure..a lot if time sex is just the end, its the rest that gets us going. Women can be intimidating but so can men...my advice is date have fun and don't be shy. If they like you they will regardless of size. Women aren't as bad as you think, as long as you look at the right type of girl...a nice down to earth girl you can fall in love with.

 

I fully understand why you would consider doing this but I personally wouldn't recommend it.

Initially this may seem like a solution to your problems but in the long run it will only exacerbate your anxieties.

A lot of the time, lack of confidence and insecurity leads to sexual problems. You brain is the most important sexual tool in your arsenal and if you spend too much time worrying, you won't have enough time enjoying.

You must learn to love and be proud of your body. You must understand you size is not the issue. Your insecurity is. You must learn to grow in confidence and fight off the negative thoughts. When you achieve this, only then can you start enjoying sex without hang ups or anxiety.

Going back to the sex doll. The reason why it's not a good solution is because you may become reliant on it and regress further into you insecurities. You see, you may initially find a bit of success with it. It may even satisfy your sexual gratification. You may also find it helps with the premature ejaculation. The thing is, you will also unfortunately find that this is not a real woman. It is easier to satisfy yourself and not worry about the needs on an inanimate object but when it comes to trying again with a real person in the future, all the anxieties will come flooding back even stronger and it would be easier for you just to regress back to the sex doll than to actually put the effort into building a relationship.

There is so much help out there today for issues like yours so if self help isn't working, seek professional help. Good luck!

 

thank you very much for being so helpful and nice. i still want to find love, yes

 

Think about it this way. From what I've seen a good quality doll runs in the neighborhood of 2 to 3 thousand US dollars. A good hour or two with an escort runs 2 to 3 hundred an hour. An escort will provide you with a great experience and for the price of a sex doll you can have ten or so experiences with an escort that will blow your mind. She is paid to love you and there are no strings attached. Budget yourself an hour or two with a live woman and enjoy the human touch a sex doll can't give. Plus if you explain your issues with a sex worker she will boost your confidence to where you'll feel better about yourself. Way more so than a inanimate object such as a sex doll will do.

 

What happens if u guys break up. Does she get returned ?

 

To be perfectly frank, a doll is a tool. You can get off by it, which is perfectly fine, but it won't love you back like a real person would. If that's fine with you, then go for it, but otherwise I wouldn't recommend it.

 

I think its a great idea. Some of those sexdolls nowadays are unbelievable. I can see a day when most guys will have a sex doll at home. Its just so much more convenient. And she will never say no. But personally I like the asian massage parlors. They have a way of making you feel so relaxed and comfortable no matter how small you are. Maybe you should give them a try. Good Luck buddy.