I want to be woken up by my husband fucking me

I don't want to feel bad if he turns me down. He pretty much seems to like controlling me, and I am really into it. How do I ask? When I really don't want to ask. I am basically into anything he wants....I love him and feel guilty about nothing. But asking. Also, he constantly wants sex, except for when I try to initiate it. I don't try often because he usually already wants it. Then I feel humiliated because I basically never ask and it sucks to be turned down by someone who wants sex so often. And he complains that I don't ask often.

So, My question I guess is how weird is it that I want him to start having sex with me without asking permission? I really like the control thing, which is fine during the day when convenient, but I like getting it while I'm sleepy...He sleeps like a rock usually... I don't know if this is reasonable to ask or how crazy I might sound? Also I'm afraid it won't happen because he sleeps so well AND I REALLY want this while I'm sleepy.

So it might be a weird question but does anyone have advice? (Also, I literally only want my husband, he's been out of town for work for 2.5 weeks, I miss him, I'd like to get this done and established before I spend life in prison due to being stuck together e.v.e.r.y.d.a.y. f.o.r.e.v.e.r.)

Thanks if you have advice!

 

I live in a permanent 3some relationship. (My hubby & our bi girlfriend) in our house / relationship, sex is
with who we want & when we want it within our 3 some. If I want sex I ask for it & I get it. If hubby wants to fuck one of us girls at anytime then he just grabs us & goes for it. There is no saying no.
Don't be afraid to ask or tell your hubby that you need to have sex when you need or want it. Tell him want you want. Or just grab him, rip your clothes off & tell him Fuck me nowm

 

To be spontaneous is a two way street. Communications is the first step. You need to tell him when he gets a early morning erection to just take you. You’ll let him in.

 

If you don't want to say it to him with words, write it down as a HUGE turn-on for you - maybe ranked #1 on a list of maybe 4 or 5 of your turn-ons. ( heading at the top - "My favorite turn-ons" )Then crumple it up like you were going to throw it out and drop it by the side of the bed, or some other spot where he'll find it - but not be obvious that you put it there on purpose. Let him "stumble" on to it, pick it up - and he'll check to see if it's an important piece of paper with important info on it before he chucks it in the waste basket. Once he reads what's on it, his brain will be churning.

 

There are times i wake up in the night and just start stroking my husband's cock and once hes hard i start sucking him.... He never once has pushed me off. Hard as a rock when you get em in their sleep.

Also i usually sleep in a pajama shirt but if I'm feeling frisky i will slip it off in the night and scoot toward his side of the bed. I am pretty well endowed so either press my breasts against his back or start stroking his back with my breasts. Or i reach for his arm/hand and just bring it toward my breasts and have him clutch handful. Not long and he's on top of me.

I love love middle of the night sex!

 

You're a great lady, Carolina188!!!

 

I have to say this sounds like a great idea. I may work my way in this way. Stroking and sucking sounds likely to be successful. I want middle of the night sex too

 

Oh boy.... this is something I am familiar with.

You see, for me and my Molly, she wants our relationship to be more of the “totally in-sync” type, where there is little to no words, just action. She wants me to take her when the mood hits, not after a prolonged conversation about it, you know?

I want to make sure she wants it clear as day, but she wants me to be more proactive and ‘just take her’ when she I am excited.

 

This is exactly correct. Exactly. The less talk the better. I know it isn't ideal maybe? But true for me. And I definitely like my husband to take control. Interesting points to consider.

 

I like this advice a lot. I will let him in. Nicely worded

 

As a girl, how do you let him know that you are ready?

 

This is a really good question and if I can change things exceptionally helpful. I will touch him, not even his penis. I will rub my body against him. If he isn't interested at that point, I will try to rub his cock. If he isn't into it at that point, he will outright tell me "not now" and I get offended and frustrated. He is basically always wanting to have sex. I don't have to initiate it. It hurts me when he declines. I am hearing these answers and thinking maybe I should just talk outright about my desires. But it really isn't my personality. I like him to do it. Do you have nonverbal suggestions? What are the best ways to get a guy wanting sex *now*?

 

IHDQ's -
Consider this: we guys like to be pursued too! We want to feel wanted and desired too - just like you ladies do. Too often we get to feeling like a pain in the ass to you girls if we're always horny. And truthfully - many times you girls make us feel that way by things you say and do - or not do. It all boils down to feeling WANTED by your guy - or lady.

I have no problem initiating sex, but if the reaction I get makes me think it's a chore - or I'M a chore - that sucks. The old saying, "what's good for the goose is good for the gander" applies to this as well. I truly believe - if either the man or the woman wants to feel sexy and desirable - show the same toward your spouse or lover. Neither should be afraid to initiate. It's a compliment, isn't it??

So for the ladies out there - don't be afraid to show your guy you want him !!! It'll cause him to see you as sexually hungry, alive, sexy, and desirable - and that will cause him to chase you more and initiate more as well. Call it a return on investment? (for both sides)

My own advice for the ladies to get him to make a move on you - if you normally hang out in sweats or baggy, frumpy clothes - get dressed up like you're going out. Shower, do hair, mani/pedi, make-up. Get some new lingerie and wear it for him. High heels too. If he's glued to a ball game, come out and walk around in those heels, garter belt, stockings, and a corset or bustier. (this is the same advice given by FEMALE marriage counselors in books and "ted-talks.") I know of NO MAN who won't sit up and take notice of a woman who's looking like that. (that advice also applies to men BTW. Get spruced up / dressed up / sharp-looking for her too!) Be cuddly with him, ladies. If after those things he doesn't want to make a move on you - check for a pulse!!!

If it were me - I'd be pouncing!!!

 

Well, Molly lets me know that she isn’t in the mood by rubbing against me and making her butt the focus of my view.

 

That's how she lets you know she isn't into it? That sounds like an invitation.

 

So guys... If your significant other wanted to wake you up because she wanted to fuck you...how would you want her to do it? All answers appreciated. We get very dirty (no shame there), but he is basically always in the lead.

 

If you meant this is how she lets you know she IS in the mood, that's a tactic I use too. Exactly.

 

Yup when she’s IN the mood!

 

I'd love to awaken by feeling her lips on my sleeping cock, licking slowly up & down and all around. Then maybe have a lubed finger ready and slide it gently into my ass to massage my prostate. Nap time OVER !!!

 

I totally agree! Morning sex is something we definitely do. But I've never had sex in the middle of the night. If I woke up to what you just said, I'd be up for it!! Would be very hot.