I want to be a mother, already!!!

Yes, the cloth diaper thing would save a TON of money. And she probably knows people she can get clothing from for free (like her sister who has a child) even so you can get an outfit at goodwill for like two bucks. And to the poster who replied about the safety of cribs and such, I wasn't saying she should get something that's falling apart. There are second hand shops that sale childcare items for really cheap that are very gently used. I was just saying that there's no need to buy a baby tons of fancy clothes and useless toys like most people do.


I'd actually like to agree with Michael here, but it's hard to be without money in today's world. I wish it wasn't like that, but oh well. Michael, do you have kids? I'd be very interested in hearing about your life and how you live and such. I'm not being sarcastic or anything, I'm just curious.

If you ask me, she has things thought out pretty well and she's ready for a baby. The only problem is her husband, and I don't think any of us can help too much with that. She's been with this man a long time however, and I'm sure they can agree on some sort of timeline.

 

Michael, no offense but what planet do you live on? Have you ever had a child?

Children are expensive, and the less money you make, the more expensive they are, it seems.

If you are both so busy, why would you want to add more stress right now by having a child? Surely if you waited just maybe 1-2 more years, you would have more time, and possibly a better financial establishment for yourself and your child. Also, in that time, your husband can work out his issues about how his parenting is. By the time you both graduate, life can be a bit more peachy and a child would feel more welcome in your world.

holly

 

I actually think a college schedule works better then a full time work schedule for having kids....althought the money does SUCK (I've skipped so many meals to feed and cloth mine that I'm 5 sizes smaller than I was before being a parent and I was skinny to begin with).
I usually cram all my classes into 2 or 3 days a week, take a few distance courses if possible....saves on full time childcare costs and I get to stay home or work or study or remind the kids what I look like an extra 2 or 3 days a week....not gonna get that out in the working world.

Oh yeah, if you can get through the 5 year long waiting list, then campus daycare rocks ...but unless it's run by dyed in the wool hippies they're going to require you to provide disposable diapers (they tend to hate cloth).