I want sex [F32] more than he does, says he has a low sex drive but watches porn

Escierto · Jan 29, 2021

DavidHB said: ↑

I think OP has long since disappeared. But in case anyone is dropping by, it’s possible her partner has/had Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction. Yes, it’s a thing. Porn is known to be more addictive than cocaine and it’s destroying lives, particularly (but not exclusively) young men.

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I was thinking the same thing then I saw your post!

Deleted member 314630 · Feb 25, 2021

Porn can screw up your ideals for real sexual situations I know. But the watch porn together idea is a possibility. My exes and I used to watch porn together almost every weekend, their first experience at watching it too. It really heated things up for us in the bedroom.

Alonso376 · Mar 2, 2021

amyyyyblack said: ↑

We've been dating for about 1.5 years. I'm 32 and he's 31. Since the beginning, sex has been somewhat challenging. He has difficulty in getting and maintaining an erection. We do have sex, about once a week although it's been a lot less that that lately. Maybe once or twice a month.

We only really have sex when he wants to. He doesn't do morning sex, or sex when he's tired, or stressed, or too full from dinner.

It used to make me feel really insecure and undesirable but I've worked through it and it has less of an effect on me.

He says he has a low sex drive and just isn't that interested although he loves me and is super attracted to me. He tells me he loves me all the time and we make plans for a future together.

Here's the thing: he watches porn and masturbates. I know this because he has told me.

We've been going through a dry spell and it's making me angry that he'd rather waste his energy on porn and masturbation than on me. I'm an attractive woman, people have told me that all my life. I just don't understand why he chooses porn over me.

He also gets defensive and angry when I suggest that the difficulty he has in getting/maintaining an erection may be due to porn use. He's been watching porn since he was a teenager, all through his adult life, and even when he has a partner.

I've tried to talk to him but I get nowhere. He blames me for pressuring him and says that he just needs more from me to get into the mood (e.g., me telling him how much I want to f*** him, wearing a choker, etc). I do all of these things but half the time they still don't work.

What should I do?

Summary: He says he has a low sex drive but he watches porn and masturbates. He's not open to having a conversation about the impact that this may be having on our sex life as a couple.
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Maybe worth trying something different. Next time your home alone and expecting him home, you could watch porn on tgeaon TV while wearing sexy lingerie. When he walks in, have your eyes fixed on the screen with your hand down your panties playing with yourself. See how his reaction is. Wait fir him to say something then say to him 'come and join me, I want us to watch porn together. Then enjoy being close to each other and open up about what you both like on the screen. See what his turn on is. If nothing happens after that then leave him and get lots of cock.

Alice in SC · Mar 3, 2021

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