I want sex [F32] more than he does, says he has a low sex drive but watches porn

We've been dating for about 1.5 years. I'm 32 and he's 31. Since the beginning, sex has been somewhat challenging. He has difficulty in getting and maintaining an erection. We do have sex, about once a week although it's been a lot less that that lately. Maybe once or twice a month.

We only really have sex when he wants to. He doesn't do morning sex, or sex when he's tired, or stressed, or too full from dinner.

It used to make me feel really insecure and undesirable but I've worked through it and it has less of an effect on me.

He says he has a low sex drive and just isn't that interested although he loves me and is super attracted to me. He tells me he loves me all the time and we make plans for a future together.

Here's the thing: he watches porn and masturbates. I know this because he has told me.

We've been going through a dry spell and it's making me angry that he'd rather waste his energy on porn and masturbation than on me. I'm an attractive woman, people have told me that all my life. I just don't understand why he chooses porn over me.

He also gets defensive and angry when I suggest that the difficulty he has in getting/maintaining an erection may be due to porn use. He's been watching porn since he was a teenager, all through his adult life, and even when he has a partner.

I've tried to talk to him but I get nowhere. He blames me for pressuring him and says that he just needs more from me to get into the mood (e.g., me telling him how much I want to f*** him, wearing a choker, etc). I do all of these things but half the time they still don't work.

What should I do?

Summary: He says he has a low sex drive but he watches porn and masturbates. He's not open to having a conversation about the impact that this may be having on our sex life as a couple.

 

all these gay guys getting more pussy than me.

 

Watch porn with him. Can't get upset if someone is watching porn and you're in another room aware of it and not doing anything lol.

 

Being completely miserable all the time is better than having no boyfriend at all right?




Wrong

 

Dudes probably an asshole to her, whereas you'd be nice, but she wouldnt want that, wouldnt be interested

 

You should leave him for me. But be forewarned, I have a low sex drive, too.

 

the variety of porn he watches would prolly tell you something about his issues

 

Oh bees wax, nuffin wrong with me.

 

doesn't sound that you two r very compatable then.....if it is like this after 1.5 years then I would say you can do better.

Just my 2cents.

Simon

 

As your relationship is relatively new being only of 1.5 years then putting it bluntly , I think you would be better moving on .

Going off what you have posted ;

1) That he prefers to watch porn rather than have sex with you.

2) He makes you feel insecure and undesirable ( nobody wants that in a relationship)

3) The situation is making you "angry"

4) He appears to be addicted to porn which will reflect on his ability to satisfy you

5) You have gone out of the way in trying to make yourself even more appealing .

You don't need this and are far better than this .

There are plenty of eligible single guys out there who would make you more happier .

 

Seems like common sense to.me.

 

Might have a threesome. He could watch, and you could enjoy more sex.

 

He claims to have low sex drive.
He has erections issues.
He masturbates to porn.

The only further question I would have is... When he watches porn and masturbates, how long is he doing it for? Like per session?

Because if I had to make an educated guess. I'd say your boyfriend likely has a meth problem. Whether or not you're already aware of it I have no idea, but I'd put money on it.

 

The crux is it sounds he doesn't want to communicate about it. So just say byebye

 

Maybe you should ask him if you could have a fb which you meet on arranged days and time,to be able to stay in a relationship.
Or try phone sex with a strange hun.
You only live once don't forget so live life

 

When his friend is round walk in and get your pussy out and say I need a fuck right now

 

Sounds like you need to find someone into you. He’s into his porn and not you.

 

I think the problem could be porn addiction. Kinda like jacking off with imagination works then you start using porn pics, then move onto videos etc. With each step, the previous stimulus doesn't work as well. Aside from a medical condition, this is my best guess