I thought it would be a while...

Well, as far as those pregnancy counters, Brian and I thought maybe HE could put the counter in HIS signature. I'll make a minor adjustment to mine and he can count down the pregnancy. haha

 

oh yeah! I forgot...Visited the midwife yesterday. She seemed so perfect! Her patient-midwife agreement says that I have to promise to plan a natural, medication free birth. Very cool.

Oh yeah, and I'm due May 7th. MY question is though...I know when I conceived. August 15....Aren't they off by a couple of weeks? I think she went by the date of my last period, even though I told her when we probably conceived...

 

Yes, I have, at one time or an other with almost all my pregnancies. But, if staying with this pregnancy is what is best for you, you'll know it.


You'll be a great mama, freek, listen to your mama. Quit the pot, and take those folic acid supplements, orange juice is ok (if it doens't make you puke) but there isn't enough of the folicin in it. You need 800 micrograms of Folicin a day. You need to take the tablets. I always keep a bottle in my closet, if I miss a period, I start taking the folic acid right away. It won't make you more nauseaous, like other prenatals will, either.

Take care of yourself, mama.

 

thanks! I was wondering about prenatal vitamins. I already take a one-a-day for women. I know I need more folic acid, but I'd heard not so good things about pre-natal vitamins. So just a folic acid supplement will do? any specific brands recommended or are they all good?

And don't worry about my quitting pot or anything. As soon as I suspected I was pregnant, I stopped smoking. I've started the Brewer Diet (what Brighid recommended). I don't drink caffiene (I MISS MY MOUNTAIN DEW). I eat more than I used to (I always used to skip at least breakfast, sometimes lunch as well). I even drink water now. I keep a pitcher with a bit of orange in it so I always have cold water on hand. When I pour a glass, I refill the pitcher.

I feel that this pregnancy is right for me, and so I'm changing my evil selfish ways. No more bad eating habits, I've got a little hippysphere to think about. Not to mention, with two chubby parents, unless we change our ways, this kid will have a horrible time starting school. I want better for the baby than that.

 

They are all fine.

I have allergies and also had really bad nausea in my pregnancies. I also am too sensitive to iron to take iron supps. I skipped all in one prenatals during all my first trimesters (but I made sure I ate really well) and did take the Folic Acid, the 800 mcg one. For a few of my pregnacies, I found a health store brand of vitamines with NO iodine in it (I am violently alllergic) but I couldn't find them when I was pregnant with Sage, so I just took my Folic Acid and ate well.

 

ok, so just eating well and a folic acid supplement will be fine...ok...thanks, maggie! Be expecting more questions from me later about breastfeeding and inverted nipples....No one in my family ever breastfed, so I don't know anything in that arena.

Oh! and I know you recommended books to new mommas in other threads...but I never really paid attention (didn't think I'd be here so soon..haha)....I want to do my research, so any recommendations for a future home-birthing, co-sleeping, attachment parenting momma and daddy?

 

Will be back, I have lots of advice, but I have to go right now to 4am yoga.

 

For any of the people out there wondering about HippyFreeksMomma knowing the news of HippyFreeks new arrival, I KNOW.
I will totlally admit, I am not as happy about this as a lot of you. I guess maybe that makes me a bad mom/grandma, but this is how i feel.
I had HippyFreek when I was 18. I married a man who adopted HippyFreek and i also had 2 boys with him. He was abusive to me and the kids so I was on my own to take care of the kids. It has been one struggle after another.
I have prided myself that I never lied to my daughter about ANYTHING, at ANYTIME, ANYWHERE. When she moved to Seattle, she told me that she was going to be a live- in nanny, that she had everything taken care of. <----LIE
HippyFreek and Monosphere are both struggling to take care of their own neccessities.
Before her last period, we had this discussion about how I raised her, which was to obstain, masterbate or use birthcontrol (protection, protection, protection). And then she gets pregnant anyway.
I made sure that she had the oppertunity to an education, so she could make something of her self or atleast have her education to fall back on once her children reached school age. But she has thrown everything away.
I KNOW she will be a GREAT MOM. But that is the whole thing, I wanted better for her than what I had. I sacrificed everything for the love of my children, but now I am 38 years old wondering what do i do now without an education (i do not regret the sacrifices that i have made, I am just lost now with no experience or education). I never wanted my babygirl to ever have to depend on anyone or anything for her own survival. Just 3 and 1/2 lousy years and she could have had her masters degree. I do not want her to be me. I wanted her to be the one to break the cycle of uneducated HICK women in our family.
I am so sorry, I know that I am rambling, but my heart is broken. I am trying so hard to find it within myself to be HippyFreeks biggest supporter and be the best Grandma ever.
*****I do LOVE YOU HippyFreek, with all of my heart. And you know kiddo that i will not hold a grudge, it is not in me to do so. I have to let go of all of the dissappointment that I feel and realize that i would not have any disappointment if it weren't for my own PRIDE.******
Just keep your head held high and rest assured that no matter what, I do love you, but as long as I live in a human body with a human brain I am going to be have human emotions and human reactions to things. Give me a few days and I will be there for you 100%, until then do not hestitate to call me if you need anything.

 

hey hippyfreaks mama, you sound just like my mum when she found out about my pregnacy, (i was 19, just started uni, big education /future things planned, and really trying to support myself just like your daughter) but try not to think that shes doomed now, my mum did, but i went to night school one night a week to start with while pregnant and with my tiny tiny son just born, now im on a part time day course and im doing better than i would have been without my son, my husband is fantasticly supportive as momosphere seems to be to, as a mother you know how having a child grounds you and drives you to suceed, for the sake of the child.

DONT let your fears for her future ruin this time, she needs your support more than ever right now and you will never get this time again, first babies come but once, lol. My mums fears spoiled the first part of my pregnancy for me, and it took a lot of work on my part to forgive, even though i understood why she felt that way. You obvioulsy care deeply for your daughter and im sure you will be a fantastic grandma, im not denying or trying to invalidate your emotions, but you're her mother and you need to place those feelings to the side right now and mother her (us first time mamas need our mums more than anything at this time.)

peace to you, i hope you feel less worried and more joyful soon.

 

Don't let the fact that you aren't having the "right" emotions get you down. You may not feel maternal. You may hate the situation. You may freak out and not have a clue what's going on. All this is totally cool. AND NORMAL. Same goes for him. Tell him that.

I'm South of you, but let me say this - the Puget Sound is excellent for midwives and birthing centers. Any questions just PM me.

 

Oh, we're both excited, even though we're scared. I feel so much already that I've changed my diet and am going to stop cursing all for the sake of our baby. I want to be a good mother, like my momma was. I'll do whatever it takes. BRING IT ON! *puff out arms in a muscle flex*

As far as midwifes go, I found the BEST one...On Capitol Hill. Rainy City Midwifery. She's personable, humourous, intelligent, and best of all, SHE LISTENS. I think that I have the best luck ever, in this regard.

As far as my momma's post, I feel so horrible that I let her down. Who wouldn't, you know? But we both built me up to be some sort of infallible girl. That I was far superior to every other female and would never make any mistakes. I guess both of our egos got really big, me as that "perfect girl" and my mom as the "perfect mother". Bigger they are, harder they fall...And I fell, flat on my ass....But I'm okay with this. It's brought me back to reality. I'm HUMAN. Big news flash there, haha. I make mistakes, I fuck up like everyone else. Even after I've learned the lesson before, I still have to re-learn it....I forget things, apparently...And Enigma Rising is right. This is going to ground me. I'm not going to keep straight in school like her (need to stay here a year anyway), but I will get back in, be it night classes or half-days with a trusted baby-sitter. No matter what, Brian and I will get through this.

Now, I just want everyone that knows of monosphere to put my mother at ease. her and my biological father want to make sure that he's got honourable intentions as far as me and the baby go, and if they don't think he does, they want to ship me back to Missouri...*sigh* parents

 

For Hippyfreek's mom because I've had to deal with mine and my fiance's mom on this situation, I understand how you are feeling every mother wants their child to have better than they had and especially don't want them to make the same mistakes they made. But a part of being a mother to an adult is letting them make their 'mistakes' and live their lives as they see fit, I understand you are worried, but now that it is done it is important to stop looking at it as a mistake and stop seeing how her life could parallel yours, because you have told her of your struggles, she is least likely to make the 'mistakes' you made, just because she has followed down a path you took doesn't mean the whole way will be the same. Also it is very much what was meant to be and not a mistake at all, the universe purposely placed a baby in your daughter's belly and now you get to be a grandma and mother your daughter as a new mother, I can't think of anything more special. Your concerns are normal, my mom has them, my fiance's mom has them, but your love is also very apparent, I see that you are trying to be supportive and so long as you keep trying to get over the disappointment, and please don't keep reminding her (I'm sure you remember how difficult pregnancy can be, especially the first time).

She is lucky to have you as her mom and her baby will be lucky to have you as a grandma and her as a mom. Good luck to the both of you, put your trust in love and life and everything will work out well.

 

The Pregnancy Book : A Month-By-Month Guide by Dr. William and Martha Sears. This is a good book for what you described as your ideal pregnancy/parenting situation. I have a thousand sources that I can't possibly put in one thread. I will have to pm you or something. I love how committed you are to preparing for the baby as much as possible, it's beautiful your enthusiasm and care for the little one growing inside you, every second does count and I'm glad you are taking that into account and doing and learning everything you can.

 

thank you for all your help, HoneyHannah! *hugs*

 

Well, I like Brian alot. I know for a fact he feels bad for his part in altering Holly's future and will do what he can to make sure she continues her education in some way. He also ready to be a Dad and is excited about it.


HippyfreeksMomma, are you going to be able to make a trip out here?

 

RE: As far as my momma's post, I feel so horrible that I let her down. Who wouldn't, you know? But we both built me up to be some sort of infallible girl. That I was far superior to every other female and would never make any mistakes.

It's hard to make the mental shift from "this is the worst thing that could happen" and "mistake" to "this is awesome" and "a good thing!"

 

well, I'm trying to make that switch, because babies know how their mommas are feeling. And I don't ever want this baby to feel like he's unwanted.

 

I know I'm kinda late in the game, but I wanted to wish you well.
You seem to be a very kind person and seem to want the very best for your new baby.

I had a baby before I finished school too. Then I got divorced and finished school as a single mama. It was hard and I had to work my ass off, but I did it. It's certainly not the easy way out, but it can be done.

Baby crying......gotta go!

 

I'm back with baby in tow....

Anyway~I just wanted to congratulate you both.
It is going to be the most joyous adventure you've ever been on!!!!

 

I'm just giving you the heads up that it's OK if you aren't immediately in raptures of joy and if monosphere isn't 100% comfortable with the events in question

And not to question you or him or whatever if you have fears, doubts, regrets or worries.

For what it's worth the sig you have now means something....