I think my boyfriend is gay...

I assume you know that that is complete bollocks, bordering on offensive. Right?

 

I don't have the time to read through entire threads so forgive me if this has been posted already (this is my guilty little pleasure when the kids nap), but, how old is he? Guys are at their sexual prime supposedly, and yes, I know some men will argue that with me, during their teen and say, early adulthood years, but then their hormones begin to level off and sex isn't always the most important thing on their mind. Then the women hit their prime around 40.

Yeah, this coming from the wife of a 30 year old man who grabs her butt constantly, even when her head is practically in the oven and wants her to keep riding him when the kids wake up and are crying "mommy, mommy!". *lol*

Did I just type that? *blushes*

 

You know, I think that he's just a little shy or scared. I mean... maybe he's not sex-obsessed. I often get solded for being like him... by everyone.

 

Can I be real?



Ok, chica, while he may have liked you casually in the beginning, he doesn't want to live with you.

In Oprah terms, "he's just not that into you"

You are the chick he lives with so he won't be homeless


he's bored because he doesn't dig you but he sees you everyday


at this point he is beginning to hate you but already sees you as an annoyance and a gullible gump

sorry, gotta call it like I see it









this is why they call it TOUGH love.....but its still love, I'm not being mean

 

.......................................thanks selfcontrol








ok, who is the sissy who neg me. next time sign your name you wuss

 

Too bad you don't know what TACT is...

 

How so?

 

I think my boyfriend is gay...


I think yer right.

 

At least some of these posts made me laugh...

Ah, well...there is so much more to the story. After spending all day in bed yesterday, while he was at work, I, of course, was stewing over this situation, and figured out that the sex thing isn't what's bothering me, per se.

Yes I am a sexual being...and not having sex in two weeks is taking a toll on me emotionally (sex is definitely a stress reliever)...but in general, it's just that he doesn't know how to express himself. I think basically, he's a cold person, afraid of getting close to people in fear of them leaving them. I think it's the concept of "Let me hurt them, before they hurt me"....sad he does it to someone he says he loves, but I can kind of understand.

I am the type of person that will do everything for that one person...literally everything, because it makes me feel good. I have a habit of putting myself second behind the person that I am with. In turn, I expect a little respect and loving, not the SAME treatment, because that would make me feel selfish, but RESPECT. And this is where he lacks.

After a lot of tears and frustration, I think I may have figured it out...but that doesn't solve the problem about what to do now. The concept of dumping him has definitely crossed my mind (lucky you brokenwings and dangermoose *winks*), but then I've never been much of a quitter. I love him...I really do.

But of course, there always is more to the story...like anything else.

 

You're basically saying that it's ok for a girl to force herself on a guy, but it wouldn't be ok for a guy to do the same thing, correct?

I can't really explain it any clearer. That's an appauling attitude to take. You're basically saying that it'd be ok for a woman to try and rape a guy. And I'm prepared to bet that, if he reacted to her the way a woman would if a guy was trying to rape her, he'd be in the wrong, because guys shouldn't hit girls. Correct?

That's just retarded. Condescending towards chicks and chauvinistic towards men.

 

you're not quite all there, are you?

 

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It seems we have opposite views on this subject. Let me explain.

When I think of a woman raping a man, I see it as a completely different thing than a man raping a woman. When a man rapes a woman, it's by physical force. The man is usually bigger and stronger, and can force a woman into submission. I think this is wrong, and that a man raping a woman is a horrible thing. But, I think it's a completely different thing when I woman forces a man into sex. It's not by physical force, it's by mental power. The woman must seduce and trick the guy into letting it happen.

And I don't see why it's Condescending towards chicks and chauvinistic towards men. Please explain why you think this.

 

Just an observation; not an attack. Learn the difference.

 

I didn't quite get you originally. I assumed that you were implying physical force be used, as the girl in question has already tried to "trick" her guy into doing her. But if you're equating the two it's essentially the same difference.

It seemed condescending to suggest that women should be treated differently as "the fairer sex". And if it isn't as degrading for a guy as it is for a woman, I have lost all faith in men.

 

I thought I was being helpful


Don't worry, I'll make sure I don't respond to any more of your posts

 

Oh and two more things

if it hurts that bad to hear it....its probably true


and no, I could give a good fuck about tact

 

No I don't think it's true if you read my last post. I've read a few other posts of yours and I often wonder why you hate the world so much and think so pessimistically about EVERYTHING.

The world isn't as bad as YOU think it is.

 

Never mind her. She's an angry woman on some sort of mission.

 

I don't want to be rude but I kinda agree with Missfontenella men like to be the ones taking care of women and while I understand you are being nice and he says living with you is what he wants or needs to avoid being homeless he can't have much respect for you if you are financialy supporting him. I mean it would be different if you were married or engaged but to let a guy move in after 2 months because he doesn't have any other options is a bit rash and demasculating.