I think I might be gay

Discussion in 'Coming Out and Confused!' started by Sleeplessvagabond, Feb 3, 2023.

  1. Sleeplessvagabond

    Sleeplessvagabond Newbie

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    Hello everyone, I've been trying for many years to repress this fantasy or desire I have. I desperately want to be straight but I think I might be gay. The fantasy or desire is basically whenever I watch porn, I find facials to be a huge turn on, and I personally like the smell and warmth of cum. I feel ashamed of this, and I come from a religious background where being gay is frowned upon.

    I'm basically in my late 20's now and I have never experimented nor have done anything sexually with another man. I just don't know how to approach this and if this facial fetish I have is just weird thoughts and that's it. What are your guys thoughts on this?
     
    Sleeplessvagabond, Feb 3, 2023
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  3. Piobaire

    Piobaire Village Idiot

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    My thoughts are that you should read some of the posts on the Bisexual sub-forum of guys my age who wish they had explored such fantasies when they were your age. I have a lot of regrets; expressing my Bisexuality when I was your age certainly aren't one of them. Life is incredibly short; much shorter than most can conceptualize at 20-something. As long as you're not harming yourself or another, please go out and enjoy every moment life has to offer, and piss on everyone who would condemn you with guilt and shame for simply being human.
     
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  5. thepapasmurph

    thepapasmurph Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    Glad you shared your concerns and fears, @Sleeplessvagabond
    Growing up in a conservative family where the religious beliefs give negative shade over who you are, or teach you that how you feel or who you are attracted to sexually, is tough to work through. Depending on how tightly wrapped you are in your upbringing, it may take some time for you to figure this out.
    I don't think looking at porn and realizing that facials turn you on is a real indicator that you're gay. It doesn't mean you are gay and it doesn't mean you are not gay. It just means that sort of porn and the fantasy of that happening to you turns you on. that's all. And it is not weird. It's just something you are drawn to that gets you going.
    Obviously in a repressed conservative setting - talking about such things as what turns you on, or what sex you are attracted to, is not an easy or common conversation.
    Exploring your sexuality and "coming out" takes a lot of thought.
    Since you have access to the internet you might want to explore some sites that can educate you a little bit.
    I did a simple search and this popped up...
    How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay | HealthyPlace
    Do some reading and self-counseling - ask yourself some basic questions.
    Start there.
    There is nothing to be ashamed of - your kinks and your personal sexual preferences are your business alone - don't judge yourself harshly and don't let what others say or what they taught you to put you in a negative place - don't let anyone shame you.
    There are a lot of thoughts I am having - wish I could be more helpful.
    Are you a virgin?
    Have you ever had sex with a woman?
    When you masturbate, do you envision sexual experiences with men or with women?
    Are you attracted to a specific body part, such as in your fantasy - a facial? or do you find yourself attracted to the overall form or appearance of a person? if so, which sex do you think about or desire more often...
    lots of questions you can ask yourself.
    but - just remember - there is no wrong thing here -
     
    thepapasmurph, Feb 4, 2023
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  7. Intrepid37

    Intrepid37 Banned

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    Look at a good-looking man and also look at a good-looking woman.

    Which do you want to do - suck his penis or eat her vagina?

    There's your answer.

    If both are appealing to you, you're bi.
     
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  9. jimschatline4ya

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    I've often wondered and interested' maybe I am' I do know very curious about it. The thing I'd like is go slowly and work your way up. Getting into very slow foreplay' would/does make me so aroused by oral only thou',,,,,, just saying'
     
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  11. jimschatline4ya

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    hello'? That's where you and I are a little different' you were lucky at your young age' thinking of trying it'. > I'm a retired senior that has also never tried oral or anything for that matter with another man yet. The more I think about that' I'm only interested of first finding interest' in foreplay bringing this should make you want more of him later' then again going slowly enjoying it as you go. Anyway' you do have time for this' I don't. I Hope you have a friend your thinking about this with' let me know if there's more issues' I'll try and help you again. jimchatline4ya :)
     
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    Can you message me?
     
    4cats, Mar 20, 2023
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