I often wonder how many of us get so excited about meetups but...

... but flake on a date after it has been made? This has happened to me countless times and each time I imagine he flaked because of fear or guilt or both. It's frustrating making plans to meet and being where you are supposed to be and he never shows up, does not call or text. don't you think that is the act of a coward? Or are some of us men just getting jollies seeing a man go to great effort to make a date work and then flaking on him just for the fun of it?

I like to make dates, meet a new man who has the potential of being close to me, a future lover. The first time with someone new is so exciting for me and I always feel that the first time will not be the last time. It's not like "Oh, I'll check him out in bed and then put another notch onto my belt." That's not for me.

How many of you have flaked on a date? How many go into a date hoping it won't be another one-night stand?

 

I have had that happen a few times and I kind of gave up

 

Thanks for sharing.

 

I have had made dates and the guy just flaked out on me or they don’t show up it’s not a good feeling and it is hard to trust some sites and people.

 

If I don't show up for a meet, there's a damned good reason why - and I have the common courtesy to contact you and let you know that I can't make it and why. I am proud to say that I have never flaked on a guy; we're meeting tomorrow at 2? I'll be there at 1:30 to wait and see if you're really going to show up. I do get excited for them, but I never get my hopes up and I learned long ago not to have any expectations or I'm not about putting the cart before the horse. I'll be there unless I really can't and it's rare that I can't be there.

Show up and let's see where we can go from there. Will it be a one-night stand? I hope so since I'm not in the market for a boyfriend or even an FWB, but we can talk about that... but you have to show up for that. And I am a "sex on the first date" kind of guy... because why the fuck not?

Like everything else about this, it can be a crapshoot; you win some, you lose even more and that's just how it goes when you're out there and playing the game and... you can't win if you don't play.