i need helpful advice about my relationship

ok well i caught my girl talking to another guy on myspace sending him messages and tellhim him hes yummy and sexy callin him sweetie, she gave him her number also but i only know this cuz i logged into her account n spyed on her i guess, i dont know how i can bring it up with out sayin summtin about me spying on her can anyone help?

 

Um

Its over dude

 

well you shouldnt of been spying in the first place, just end it, itll be best for the both of you

 

word
don't barge in on other people's privacy
she coulda just been joking around, who knows. I flirt like mad with people on here, but it doesn't mean anything in most cases
but.. you didn't have the right to go and read her messages

 

oh man

that's a no-no

yikes

 

yea but thing is its he ex b/f and he lives 3 blocks away

 

You're fucked, it's over with, and she's probably a bitch anyway...

It'd be better for you if you found someone who wasn't like that...?

 

just confront her.......it's most probably over, but if it's her ex boyfrend, she's got to give you some explanation....

 

kill the guy

 

dump the bitch.

 

be a man about the situation.

 

fuck her ****



Ok im really really wasted and its 5 am amn

 

what do you mean by that? i really do love her, i would like to make things work

 

most replies to this are a bit one sided.

I think we should not be telling the original poster what to do, help him decide, he has probably allready some idea... lets see if we can help him decide what to say in what situation... how to bring it up easily etc.

 

yea i agree

 

why would you want to stay with her after she said those things, though? its hard to let go, but life goes on.

 

and thats what you get for spying.

 

That, too... you were probably going to find out either way.

You really don't need someone like that, though.

 

WHat's your problem man? Do you think you can own a person? She has every right to talk to as many people as she damn well wants. Actually it's good because you don't have to feel guilty by not conforming to societys norms of having one partner. It's obviously not that you can't love more than one person. Parents susposedly love all their children no matter how many they have. I think you're just being possessive. And no spying.

 

YOU spyed on HER. You obviously don't trust her, and I believe to be in love with someone, you have to trust that person.
What are you going to say? "Um, I love you but I don't trust you and I'm a spying ****."? Right....
You're not married to the girl....you don't own her. Women flirt....men flirt. It's human nature.
Your safest bet is to just end the relationship now. If you can't trust her enough to NOT snoop through her stuff, then you're not mature enough for the relationship.